I never alluded to anyone being a bad parent. My question is that if you didn't "co-parent" when married, how do people think they will be successful at it when divorce without some form of communication and training?
Many times in a marriage, one person makes the majority of the decisions for a child. Suddenly, once divorced, they now think they should independently make these decisions.
As was in my case. My Ex even left all decision making of his other two children up to me. (he has custody and their mom was in jail)
This was part of my issues while married to him. I felt that is why he married me.
. We have a son together as well. I was the primary care giver to 4 children. (his, mine, ours.)
When "I" left the marriage. Filed for divorce on grounds of cruel and inhuman treatment. (which was granted in my favor) He filed for sole custody of our son. I faught it, and ended up with joint custody and a 50/50 split in visitation. (agreed on as to not to have to go to trial, I could not afford it)
So far so good, no major issues.
I agree that it is better to have both parents on the same page with parenting their children, whether they are married or not.
The problem lies when they are unable to be cooperative with each other because of their individual issues.
agreed
I believe that guidelines need to be established in regards to parenting PRIOR to a judge issuing their orders for joint parenting. Make the parents establish a parenting plan to know who is responsible for what, etc. I agree with the spirit of the law;
I disagree on how the courts are going about it.