Oh come on guys, it certainly sounds to me that "we" means "We want to support our daughter what needs to be done".
How many times I read these "legal advice" answers and it's as if the one who is answering only wants to pass judgement and make comments that are, not only unhelpful, but hurtful.
I have read and read here "as a stepmother, you have no say, as a grandparent you have no say, and it goes on and on.
The reality of most court situations is that judges DO listen to what these people have to say, during hearings/trials. I truly thought that - based on reading here over and over - that anyone other than the actual parents have nothing to do with what happens with the child. Boy did I have a wake up call at the courts. A whole suit was filed, naming the stepmother..get this..47 times in the space of 52 pages. The whole suit was based on the stepmother not having access to her stepchild (whom had spent approx. 30 days total time(intermittently) with over a two year period. The judge let it go through! (eventually it didn't fly, but it took a lot of money and time).
So - as you all know, the law says..but the reality is..
Please ease up on the grandparents at least, it certainly sounds to me like they are gathering info for their daughter and we have very little information to go on. Most families stick together and support each other throughout things like this, so yes, it is "we", if you read it in the spirit it is written. Moreover, the grandparents are probably supporting daughter, and will pay for her legal requirements. So other than emotional, they do have a vested interest. Give them a break. The question was simple and straightforward, stop passing judgement.
As I've been reminded over and over..it's Legal Advice...not "My feeling about you is that YOU are...you don't... Give people a break and try to remember that a lot of this is information gathering and leave it at that..sheesh..now I am open to the bashers that are going to come after me, but please do it in a new thread entitled "Noelle is too empathetic for her own good".