Forwarding children's mail

[Ithildriel]

So why not a PO Box?

You can give it to your family memebers, and perhaps your attorney, and not have to worry about the issue, as long as you don't give it to evil ex.

 

[heartwood]

You can give it to your family memebers, and perhaps your attorney, and not have to worry about the issue, as long as you don't give it to evil ex.

hmmm - so I get to pay for a PO Box to avoid my ex's dysfunctions... can I send him the bill?
lets see, who else would need to be on the list - oh, there's my bank and credit card companies so he can't get my statement; the IRS so he can't intercept my tax info; oh yeah, and the kids' bank statements that come from the savings account that my dad and I set up for them, that my ex has never contributed to; my auto loan; my insurance company; my employer so he can't intercept my pay stubs... am I missing anyone?

 

[Ithildriel]

Well, it was a suggestion. A friend went through the same situation, only his wife not only did a forwarding on her address for the whole family, but also called specific companies and had the address with the companies changed to hers even though she had no intention of paying the bills. So he got a PO box, and hasn't had a problem since.

I am sure that the cost of a PO box is not really that high, but if you would rather your ex continue to get your mail, and / or wait until some law gets passed that will stop him from doing it...feel free.

 

[heartwood]

I agree, it's an excellent suggestion - not arguing with you there.
BTW - there ARE laws in place to prevent forwarding mail that does not legally belong to the forwarder.
US Codes:
1001
1702
1703
1708
1709

Apparently it's tough to enforce them in a divorce situation. But I digress.
Thanks for the response - I'm glad things worked out for your friend.

 

[ceara19]

I don't think that you would actually be submitting a COA for HIS address. Rather you would be REVOKING the one he submitted for YOURS. Go by the PO and pick up the COA packet. Somewhere on it is the EXACT law that makes it a CRIME to submit a COA for an address you do not and have not lived at. For the time being, just have your family mail everything in an outer envelope with YOUR name and address. Also, try sending yourself a letter with a request for return address service. You will get a notice from the PO if it is forwarded to the ex's house and you can use this as PROOF that a crime was comitted. You need to discuss it with the post master in your area, not just a postal worker. If that gets you no where, try contacting the federal authorities. Mail fraud, which is what he has done, is a major federal crime.

 

[StickyFingers]

I will admit that I did not read every post...So If this is a repeat then I am sorry

Just a FYI... If the mail is being forwarded from your address to theirs... and If you put in a COA from theirs to yours...The mail will be stuck in a "loop". It will take something short of an act of congress to get get this "loop" stopped. Which includes picking the mail up at the PO. Please trust me. I have been there and done that. It can be very much classified as a pain in the a*s!

The PO Box sounds like a good Idea.

Good Luck.

EDIT: Oh and that notice comes 2-4 weeks after the mail has already been forwarded...

 

[stealth2]

A basic PO Box is $20 for 6 mos.

 

[FrustratedMommy]

My ex did the same thing to me. Forwarded my mail and it was a mess and a half. I wish you luck in getting this resolved.