Thanks for everyones advice. I did send him a letter. No good. My son is at the highest level of autism. He will never be able to function on his own. I do keep in touch with his doctor. What bothers me though is that his father brings him to other doctors for other treatments...and I don't know who they are. An example of how he does things behind my back is a few years ago he had a doctor give an I.V. dose of secretin which he got from another couple from new jersey. I found out from my daughter about this. She mentioned her brother was going to get a needle stuck in his arm for a long time. I tried to stop it by going in front of a judge, whom stated "The court will not interfere with a medical doctors decisions, based upon a disagreement of parents." The custodial parent had the right to make this decision. A month later I found out this "Holistic" doctor lost his license due to other bad medical decisions for a year. By then it was too late. I have been to court over matters in the past, I hate the court system in this state. Your like cattle in an out, nothing ever resolved. The judges basically slap the hand and say don't do it again, or give them a thrashing thinking it is sufficient. Anyways, I am furious because I am sick of battling to get information out of my ex when it comes to these issues. Thanks Faith