bhhunter13
Member
Hi Sillyboo,
You were the last person I thought I would end up talking too but EXACTLY who I need to probably be speaking too right about now. Oh I do not know how long this will end up but please read it in its entirety. First let me reply so some of the things you mentioned in your post.
Pissing me off…
You personally did not piss me off. I will not apologize or take back the things that I said. I was just addressing the things you were saying. I will apologize for making you feel uncomfortable or if you took my very extensive reply back too you as a personal attack. “I am sorry, Sillyboo”
Your situation…
The funny thing is that you never mentioned that in your first post. And you probably did not read my intermission where I said…
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Before I continue I must say that I am not trying to attack you nor your opinions you have all right to them it is just that well as you can already see I have some very STRONG opinions about certain things!!! Hahahaah further more u may have ALL RIGHT to feel the way you feel about the father of your child. He may well be an ASS which will cause u to do and say the things you do. So when I make my comments I am often thinking of myself and the many many other fathers out there who desperately want to be a part of the ENTIRE nurturing, love, support AND discipline of their child.
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Did you get far enough to read the above? So I guess it turns out that your man is an ASS and you do have all right to not what him to have physical custody!!! See how easy that was!!!
Fathers…
Ok I must be HONEST with you. WE (including myself ONLY because I am a father) don’t often do right by the women who become the mothers of our children. In the 3 short months I have been a dad I have heard countless stories of men who are NOT handling their responsibilities both to their children and to their mothers. I have yet to hear ONE story of a guy who is handling his responsibilities.
So you see knowing all this I am trying to do my very very very best for both my child AND her mother but I find myself in the same DRAMA that I am trying so hard to avoid.
Posting to the thread…
DO NOT FEEL SORRY!!!! The beauty I find about these threads is that no one knows who each other is!!!! So basically people will be “HONEST” because they have nothing to loose. Sometimes people come off nasty, sometimes people give great advice either way most won’t post if they did not care or had some advice that could help. And that is what ALL OF US ARE LOOKING FOR… FREE ADVICE!!! Hahahahaha I hope that made you smile.
So keep posting until someone gives you advice or just start your own like I did. This way all comments are directed specifically to your situation. Let me know the name if you do.
Sympathy for my child’s mother…
Why do you feel she needs sympathy?
Court…
I feel exactly the way you feel the amount of money that is spent in court fees is ridicules especially when a mediator, could work stuff out for you. Let’s just hope that you don’t go into dept over this.
Mother’s breast milk…
It is not that I am hung up on that. It is just that, that is the 1 thing that mothers can do that father’s can’t. You also have to understand why I even “went there” in the first place. Well now we know your man is not the best of fathers but I did not know that at the time. Lets ass-u-me that he was a good dad for a sec (cause that is what I was thinking) you said
“Due to the tender age of the child, I think it is best that she be put in the mother's physical
custody.”
I was just expressing that there is nothing that you are doing that he could not do himself despite the child’s age. Except of course breast feeding. And for you to contest physical custody based on that reason was totally ludicrous!!!
But now we know why you want physical custody so I take that back. But my OPINION still stands!! Hahahahah
2 days and $300+ later…
I see our child mon, wed, fri, sun, from 9-11 this past memorial day weekend I asked my X if I could have our child over for the weekend for a little daddy/daughter weekend. She said ok with some drama.
I asked my X if I could have some cloths… she gave me NONE!!!
I asked her for the rash cream the doctor gave us for our child’s skin… “I do not use it any more”
I asked her for the tub I bought so I could bath her if and when necessary… she said NO!!!
The majority of the things I was asking for we got as gifts from the baby shower NOT things she spent her own money on but stuff for us.
Well 2 days and $300+ later I bought a dresser for our daughter, I bought cloths to last 2 weeks without washing, I bought moving toys for her to play with as well as diapers, wipes, formula, etc.
So you see even though I was very very hurt by her actions I did what needed to get done for the health and well being of our child.
So thanks for the advice but I already have ALL that stuff!!!!!
Temper, temper, temper
I don’t think I have a temper what I think you are not seeing is that I am doing my best in a situation where I feel the cards are stack against me and am only coming up against negative words about dads!!! Granted most of you guys are correct in your feelings towards your children’s fathers.
But here I am NOT being disrespectful to my X, being TOTALLY supportive of her and our child, giving her mother $150 a week to take care of her own grandchild for the past 3 months, buying the largest size formula and diapers EVERY week, and I am still being treated and viewed as though I did the things many of the IRRESPONSIBLE dads have done. Being like a visitor to my own baby girl.
I think you would want to “light people up as well” if they did the same to you.
Oh last but not least the reason I said I wanted to talk to you was because I just came from visiting our child and it got VERY VERY VERY ugly!!!!! We got into a heated discussion fists were thrown (hers against my head!!!!) Now I got a splitting headache from the blows to the head. Her father had to ask me to leave. Girl it got ugly!!!!
I sent her an email apologizing for my actions I dought she will email me back but this is getting out of had really really fast!!!! I honestly can’t say what will happen but I know I don’t want to end up in front of a judge telling me when and how often I can get to see my baby girl!!!
Let me end her before I have to break this thing up again like I did before.
Once again good luck,
keep posting,
keep praying (even if you do not believe in god, cause he believes in you)
keep your head up
and it is in god’s hands NOT a judge’s…
email me sometime.. [email protected]
You were the last person I thought I would end up talking too but EXACTLY who I need to probably be speaking too right about now. Oh I do not know how long this will end up but please read it in its entirety. First let me reply so some of the things you mentioned in your post.
Pissing me off…
You personally did not piss me off. I will not apologize or take back the things that I said. I was just addressing the things you were saying. I will apologize for making you feel uncomfortable or if you took my very extensive reply back too you as a personal attack. “I am sorry, Sillyboo”
Your situation…
The funny thing is that you never mentioned that in your first post. And you probably did not read my intermission where I said…
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Before I continue I must say that I am not trying to attack you nor your opinions you have all right to them it is just that well as you can already see I have some very STRONG opinions about certain things!!! Hahahaah further more u may have ALL RIGHT to feel the way you feel about the father of your child. He may well be an ASS which will cause u to do and say the things you do. So when I make my comments I am often thinking of myself and the many many other fathers out there who desperately want to be a part of the ENTIRE nurturing, love, support AND discipline of their child.
------------
Did you get far enough to read the above? So I guess it turns out that your man is an ASS and you do have all right to not what him to have physical custody!!! See how easy that was!!!
Fathers…
Ok I must be HONEST with you. WE (including myself ONLY because I am a father) don’t often do right by the women who become the mothers of our children. In the 3 short months I have been a dad I have heard countless stories of men who are NOT handling their responsibilities both to their children and to their mothers. I have yet to hear ONE story of a guy who is handling his responsibilities.
So you see knowing all this I am trying to do my very very very best for both my child AND her mother but I find myself in the same DRAMA that I am trying so hard to avoid.
Posting to the thread…
DO NOT FEEL SORRY!!!! The beauty I find about these threads is that no one knows who each other is!!!! So basically people will be “HONEST” because they have nothing to loose. Sometimes people come off nasty, sometimes people give great advice either way most won’t post if they did not care or had some advice that could help. And that is what ALL OF US ARE LOOKING FOR… FREE ADVICE!!! Hahahahaha I hope that made you smile.
So keep posting until someone gives you advice or just start your own like I did. This way all comments are directed specifically to your situation. Let me know the name if you do.
Sympathy for my child’s mother…
Why do you feel she needs sympathy?
Court…
I feel exactly the way you feel the amount of money that is spent in court fees is ridicules especially when a mediator, could work stuff out for you. Let’s just hope that you don’t go into dept over this.
Mother’s breast milk…
It is not that I am hung up on that. It is just that, that is the 1 thing that mothers can do that father’s can’t. You also have to understand why I even “went there” in the first place. Well now we know your man is not the best of fathers but I did not know that at the time. Lets ass-u-me that he was a good dad for a sec (cause that is what I was thinking) you said
“Due to the tender age of the child, I think it is best that she be put in the mother's physical
custody.”
I was just expressing that there is nothing that you are doing that he could not do himself despite the child’s age. Except of course breast feeding. And for you to contest physical custody based on that reason was totally ludicrous!!!
But now we know why you want physical custody so I take that back. But my OPINION still stands!! Hahahahah
2 days and $300+ later…
I see our child mon, wed, fri, sun, from 9-11 this past memorial day weekend I asked my X if I could have our child over for the weekend for a little daddy/daughter weekend. She said ok with some drama.
I asked my X if I could have some cloths… she gave me NONE!!!
I asked her for the rash cream the doctor gave us for our child’s skin… “I do not use it any more”
I asked her for the tub I bought so I could bath her if and when necessary… she said NO!!!
The majority of the things I was asking for we got as gifts from the baby shower NOT things she spent her own money on but stuff for us.
Well 2 days and $300+ later I bought a dresser for our daughter, I bought cloths to last 2 weeks without washing, I bought moving toys for her to play with as well as diapers, wipes, formula, etc.
So you see even though I was very very hurt by her actions I did what needed to get done for the health and well being of our child.
So thanks for the advice but I already have ALL that stuff!!!!!
Temper, temper, temper
I don’t think I have a temper what I think you are not seeing is that I am doing my best in a situation where I feel the cards are stack against me and am only coming up against negative words about dads!!! Granted most of you guys are correct in your feelings towards your children’s fathers.
But here I am NOT being disrespectful to my X, being TOTALLY supportive of her and our child, giving her mother $150 a week to take care of her own grandchild for the past 3 months, buying the largest size formula and diapers EVERY week, and I am still being treated and viewed as though I did the things many of the IRRESPONSIBLE dads have done. Being like a visitor to my own baby girl.
I think you would want to “light people up as well” if they did the same to you.
Oh last but not least the reason I said I wanted to talk to you was because I just came from visiting our child and it got VERY VERY VERY ugly!!!!! We got into a heated discussion fists were thrown (hers against my head!!!!) Now I got a splitting headache from the blows to the head. Her father had to ask me to leave. Girl it got ugly!!!!
I sent her an email apologizing for my actions I dought she will email me back but this is getting out of had really really fast!!!! I honestly can’t say what will happen but I know I don’t want to end up in front of a judge telling me when and how often I can get to see my baby girl!!!
Let me end her before I have to break this thing up again like I did before.
Once again good luck,
keep posting,
keep praying (even if you do not believe in god, cause he believes in you)
keep your head up
and it is in god’s hands NOT a judge’s…
email me sometime.. [email protected]
well i do not have one right now but while i was doing some research i did manage to contact one in my area. i sent her an email to contact me as soon as she gets a chance. i am hoping she does soon.