Sorry for the confusion. I am going off a lot of what was told to me last year. Yes, I agree an attorney is in order. As to my later question, if I and my mother's trust share the deed but only she remains on the mortgage, can she refi without my concurrence?
If a lender would let her, yes but since she can encumber only her share, most lenders would not extend credit on a property without all owners assigning their rights to the lender in case of a foreclosure.
Even though only she is named on the mortgage you do not escape without personal liability for
The mortgage. You do not get to increase your equity in the property due to her paying the mortgage which is what would happen if only she paid the mortgage. You are liable for your share of the mortgage costs going forward.
As to the personal assets that were held in trust; I sure hope each item you are concerned with is listed seperately. That is the only personal assets you have a chance of claiming. Given the separation years ago anything not listed is likely to be considered your mother's.
And it still makes no sense you and your mother's trust would appear on a common deed. Your fathers share held by his trust, if transferred to you only, should have had his trust as grantor and you as grantee. Your mother or her trust would not be named at all on that deed. You stating her trust is named suggests you really don't know what is going on with title to the property.