What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Ohio
My question is about my mother, my daughter's grandmother. I have sole legal and physical custody. Yes, I know that is rare, but my divorce took place 10 + years ago, and my ex was active duty military in another state and didn't fight me on it, so it was ordered, and the court order has never been re-visited. My ex and I have an amazingly amicable relationship. We are both remarried, and while he doesn't currently live in OH, he did for a period of about 5 years, at which time we split the time with our daughter almost 50/50. He agrees with me 100% on the issue regarding my mother.
The issue is as follows: my parents had a stable, consistent relationship with my daughter until the end of 2006, at which time they divorced. From 2007 - 2009, my mother saw my daughter, but it was definitely not nearly as regularly as before, maybe once or twice every 3 months. She remarried pretty quickly and after meeting her new husband a handful of times, my daughter (who is 12 by the way), expressed extreme discomfort around the new husband. I mean she literally said, "he makes me feel uncomfortable". So, I did not force her to see my mother when she called and asked to see her. I tried to explain the situation to my mother, but she doesn't care...she wants to force the new relationship on my daughter and have her new husband basically take my father's place and be the "new" grandpa. Her new husband actually threatened to take custody of my daughter if I did not let her see my mom. I told him to bite rocks and never thought another thing of it. He's definitely a controlling a** who tries to intimidate people into doing what he wants. I'm pretty sure it has something to do with why my daughter is uncomfortable around him.
In any event, she has not seen or talked to my daughter in almost 2 years. I have never denied her visits, I just expressed that for the time being if she wanted to see my daughter, I would not be forcing her to go over to her home or spend the night, so she all out stopped talking to me altogether. I found out on Wednesday of this week that my mother tried to access my daughter at her school and obviously was denied. She tried again to access her at her bus stop...this time I was there to intervene. She waived a gift in front of my daughter and tried to bribe her to come to her car. I almost filed a police report....I'm kicking myself now for not doing so. My daughter is a straight A student in advanced classes, in the student council, runs track, in drama club, etc. and is a very healthy happy girl, mainly because my ex-husband and I have kept her free of any drama.
Basically, I want to send her a certified letter telling her if she wants to see my daughter, she needs to go through me, not circumvent me and try to gain access without my approval. I'm afraid it might cause more waves and push her to try to gain visitation. I understand OH is liberal with granting GPV if there is a previous relationship. Being that she hasn't seen her in almost 2 years, and the fact my ex is in full agreement, should I worry about her being granted visitation? Her husband has threatened that he has more money and therefore he would crush me in court. I'm not worried about him in the least. But I don't think she is thinking about what is in my daughter's best interest at this point. And I can say with certainty I don't want HIM anywhere near my child.
It's absolute B.S. that I have to worry about this. My ex and I are fit parents. We should be able to have a say who is in or out of our child's life. Thanks in advance for your time!!
My question is about my mother, my daughter's grandmother. I have sole legal and physical custody. Yes, I know that is rare, but my divorce took place 10 + years ago, and my ex was active duty military in another state and didn't fight me on it, so it was ordered, and the court order has never been re-visited. My ex and I have an amazingly amicable relationship. We are both remarried, and while he doesn't currently live in OH, he did for a period of about 5 years, at which time we split the time with our daughter almost 50/50. He agrees with me 100% on the issue regarding my mother.
The issue is as follows: my parents had a stable, consistent relationship with my daughter until the end of 2006, at which time they divorced. From 2007 - 2009, my mother saw my daughter, but it was definitely not nearly as regularly as before, maybe once or twice every 3 months. She remarried pretty quickly and after meeting her new husband a handful of times, my daughter (who is 12 by the way), expressed extreme discomfort around the new husband. I mean she literally said, "he makes me feel uncomfortable". So, I did not force her to see my mother when she called and asked to see her. I tried to explain the situation to my mother, but she doesn't care...she wants to force the new relationship on my daughter and have her new husband basically take my father's place and be the "new" grandpa. Her new husband actually threatened to take custody of my daughter if I did not let her see my mom. I told him to bite rocks and never thought another thing of it. He's definitely a controlling a** who tries to intimidate people into doing what he wants. I'm pretty sure it has something to do with why my daughter is uncomfortable around him.
In any event, she has not seen or talked to my daughter in almost 2 years. I have never denied her visits, I just expressed that for the time being if she wanted to see my daughter, I would not be forcing her to go over to her home or spend the night, so she all out stopped talking to me altogether. I found out on Wednesday of this week that my mother tried to access my daughter at her school and obviously was denied. She tried again to access her at her bus stop...this time I was there to intervene. She waived a gift in front of my daughter and tried to bribe her to come to her car. I almost filed a police report....I'm kicking myself now for not doing so. My daughter is a straight A student in advanced classes, in the student council, runs track, in drama club, etc. and is a very healthy happy girl, mainly because my ex-husband and I have kept her free of any drama.
Basically, I want to send her a certified letter telling her if she wants to see my daughter, she needs to go through me, not circumvent me and try to gain access without my approval. I'm afraid it might cause more waves and push her to try to gain visitation. I understand OH is liberal with granting GPV if there is a previous relationship. Being that she hasn't seen her in almost 2 years, and the fact my ex is in full agreement, should I worry about her being granted visitation? Her husband has threatened that he has more money and therefore he would crush me in court. I'm not worried about him in the least. But I don't think she is thinking about what is in my daughter's best interest at this point. And I can say with certainty I don't want HIM anywhere near my child.
It's absolute B.S. that I have to worry about this. My ex and I are fit parents. We should be able to have a say who is in or out of our child's life. Thanks in advance for your time!!