Granddaughter is being beaten by mother's boyfriend

[Proserpina]

But it has to be done by a QUALIFIED CHILD EXPERT. DOES ANYONE HAVE ANY IDEAS HOW TO FIND ONE? IMMEDIATELY!

If not, then you are no help and why are you bothering to even comment?

I was under the impression the volunteers here were basically trying to give you a heads up as to what you might be facing.

Your anger is focused in the wrong direction. And that's not going to help you, or your son.

 

[JKBee]

Sorry about my attitude, but for two weeks my son and I have been shuffled all pver the place from one government agency to another. The frustrations are unimaginable.

It is too bad that you can't try to help a child because you don't like my attitude. Something about walking in someone else's moccasins....

Anyway, it all got solved today. Finally someone DID get to CPS and an interview was done. The caseworker has by now notified the mother that the children are not going to be allowed to go to her further without supervision and that the boyfriend will NOT be allowed near either of them. She said she has seldom ever had the pleasure of interviewing a child so intelligent, well-mannered, and truthful as my granddaughter.

And for anyone's information that ever, God forbid, has to deal with a like situation, she said that the doctor could be up on charges for not reporting this case immediately as an urgent case to CPS. My son showed her the same pictures that the doctor put down as "normal childhood bruising" and was horrified. If my son had taken the kids down to CPS instead of the doctor, the mother would "never have seen the children again."

Since I have all the records on the mother's first divorce and her losing permanent custody of her first child in her first marriage, (I cleaned her desk out for my son while he was cleaning the rest of the trashed home), the caseworker talked directly with me, too.

So for anyone reading this that might have a similar experience in the future, make sure you get a copy of the doctor's report immediately, and follow up the visit directly with a trip to CPS! Or even just go to CPS first!

And for everyone else that has said that bruising must be apparent, this is not the case. The interview with the child was all the caseworker needed to move forward. The pictures of the bruising on the baby's cheek and the bruising on the other's leg were just verification, but not necessary to get the boyfriend withheld from further contact with the children.

 

[Proserpina]

Now I'm really puzzled. It all got solved today? In Washington State?

Just today?

You were both interviewed today?

When did this interview take place? And with whom?

There is a reason for my question.

 

[JKBee]

Yes, the interview took place today.

Only my son and granddaughter were interviewed. The caseworker needed the boyfriend's birthdate and a few other details that I knew. I knew the birth date because of an extremely helpful sherrif's deputy that went totally out of his way to get it for me. Everything else she asked I told her I had only second hand knowledge of, but it was from someone I trusted.

She told me she would call me Tuesday or Wednesday for an in depth interview. My son was left with her contact number and fax number. I have to get the fax number from him so I can send in the paperwork on her first child that CPS on the east coast took from her and awarded jointly to her father and ex-husband. Also the paperwork from the attorney about her trial for child abuse and neglect there.

This interview took place at approximately noon at my son's residence.

The case worker was an investigator from CPS. I don't know if she has any special titles or anything, she just gave me her name and that she was with CPS.

And no, it isn't ALL settled, just the part that my grandchildren are not to be allowed back to their mother if the boyfriend is around. She was emphatic about that. I was told by her that as soon as she left, she was calling the mother with this information about visitation regarding the boyfriend.

My son has to get a complete copy of every document the lawyer has, including the seizure of the two expensive birds by animal control while they were in her custody. We have pictures of the place after she trashed it and then gave the neighbor a key and told them to take anything they wanted. Well, they wanted alot. Even stripped out the air conditioner.

This is more than you asked for, but if it is in any way relevant, you might like to know. Like when I just asked about the boyfriend's abuse instead of the mother's neglect.

I assume you know or suspect something, so I will add this little piece of info that I also got. The mother found out about us trying to get the CPS to investigate her and she made allegations about my son sexually abusing the kids. THAT got the CPS into the 24 hour deadline, I think it is, of having to investigate any child in imminent danger. The caseworker totally dismissed this allegation after talking to my granddaughter and is really upset that my daughter in law is trying to misuse the system in this way. She also implied that my son is most likely going to get sole custody of the kids.

 

[Proserpina]

Yes, the interview took place today.

Only my son and granddaughter were interviewed. The caseworker needed the boyfriend's birthdate and a few other details that I knew. I knew the birth date because of an extremely helpful sherrif's deputy that went totally out of his way to get it for me. Everything else she asked I told her I had only second hand knowledge of, but it was from someone I trusted.

She told me she would call me Tuesday or Wednesday for an in depth interview. My son was left with her contact number and fax number. I have to get the fax number from him so I can send in the paperwork on her first child that CPS on the east coast took from her and awarded jointly to her father and ex-husband. Also the paperwork from the attorney about her trial for child abuse and neglect there.

This interview took place at approximately noon at my son's residence.

The case worker was an investigator from CPS. I don't know if she has any special titles or anything, she just gave me her name and that she was with CPS.

And no, it isn't ALL settled, just the part that my grandchildren are not to be allowed back to their mother if the boyfriend is around. She was emphatic about that. I was told by her that as soon as she left, she was calling the mother with this information about visitation regarding the boyfriend.

My son has to get a complete copy of every document the lawyer has, including the seizure of the two expensive birds by animal control while they were in her custody. We have pictures of the place after she trashed it and then gave the neighbor a key and told them to take anything they wanted. Well, they wanted alot. Even stripped out the air conditioner.

This is more than you asked for, but if it is in any way relevant, you might like to know. Like when I just asked about the boyfriend's abuse instead of the mother's neglect.

I assume you know or suspect something, so I will add this little piece of info that I also got. The mother found out about us trying to get the CPS to investigate her and she made allegations about my son sexually abusing the kids. THAT got the CPS into the 24 hour deadline, I think it is, of having to investigate any child in imminent danger. The caseworker totally dismissed this allegation after talking to my granddaughter and is really upset that my daughter in law is trying to misuse the system in this way. She also implied that my son is most likely going to get sole custody.

That's pretty much what I thought you were going to answer.

I wish the children and the family members good luck.