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What is the name of your state?Massachusetts
My ex-boyfriends mother has guardianship of my son who is 15- months old. I signed over custody to her because i was 16 when i had my son. i had no job. nothing. i couldnt support myself. (when i was pregnant i had a job and so forth but had so many problems during pregnancy ended up losing my job.) i know i couldnt give my son the life he wanted right that second and i wanted him to have everything. so i let someone do it who could until i got on my feet. then my ex started hurting me and threatening me and i had him arrested twice. now his mother will not allow me to see my son. its been 3 weeks and i feel like im dying. im fighting and i have a court date next thursday. how can i prove i'm fit to have my son now and give the court a reason to vacate the guardianship order????? i thought i was signing over for temporary. and she tricked me into signing a permanent one 90 days before its supposed to even be looked at or used or even SIGNED for that matter. i believe it to be illegal but im not sure. i never thought this would happen. BTW, the ex boyfriend (baby's dad) is NOT IN THE PICTURE HERE AT ALL. Now i am no longer with my boyfriend who is facing criminal charges for a&b against me twice (its worse than that .. involving a weapon and murder threats) and also does drugs in the house where my son is, the grandmother also drinks a lot. im now trying to get the guardianship order vacated and custody given to me. i have a job and a place to live, no drug or alcohol problems and i`m his mother.
There is also a restraining order against me permitting me from seeing my son. this is so confusing but i will try and make it easy to understand.
on october 11th, 2005 i had my ex arrested for domestic a&b,a&b w/ a dangerous weapon, & threatening to commit a crime ( murder ) - (the threat was added after he threatened me after his miranda rights wee read to him )
On october 12th, 2005 my ex boyfriends mother filed a restraining order against me ( i believe 100% just to get back at me for putting her son in jail and to prevent me from seeing my baby ) the only reason the restraining order against me was granted was b/c i previously lived with her.
is that confusing. im sorry if it is.
On Novemeber 1st 2005 he was calling my home threatening to kill me. I called the polie and filed a report and he had violated the restraining order. this is also the second offense of domestic a&b against me. he was also on pre-trial probation when he did it the second time. when he violated the restraining order he also violated his release terms from court when he was let out on $500.00 bail.
now the mother filed violation of restraining order against me b/c i called my son's daycare to see if he was doing okay. i had no idea this was a violation and the restraining order was never explained to me.
im so confused and hurt at this point. i dont know what to do anymore. it seems that everytime i get something on my ex she tries (and succeed's) at getting something on me also, even with no proof.
I Dont know how to get my son back/what i need to do/what they look at when giving custody..also i dont understand how the courts could be allowing my ex to be in the same HOUSE with my son if he has abusive tendencies. PLEASE HELP I NEED MORE ADVICE THAN ON THE LAST THREAD.
thanks in advance.
My ex-boyfriends mother has guardianship of my son who is 15- months old. I signed over custody to her because i was 16 when i had my son. i had no job. nothing. i couldnt support myself. (when i was pregnant i had a job and so forth but had so many problems during pregnancy ended up losing my job.) i know i couldnt give my son the life he wanted right that second and i wanted him to have everything. so i let someone do it who could until i got on my feet. then my ex started hurting me and threatening me and i had him arrested twice. now his mother will not allow me to see my son. its been 3 weeks and i feel like im dying. im fighting and i have a court date next thursday. how can i prove i'm fit to have my son now and give the court a reason to vacate the guardianship order????? i thought i was signing over for temporary. and she tricked me into signing a permanent one 90 days before its supposed to even be looked at or used or even SIGNED for that matter. i believe it to be illegal but im not sure. i never thought this would happen. BTW, the ex boyfriend (baby's dad) is NOT IN THE PICTURE HERE AT ALL. Now i am no longer with my boyfriend who is facing criminal charges for a&b against me twice (its worse than that .. involving a weapon and murder threats) and also does drugs in the house where my son is, the grandmother also drinks a lot. im now trying to get the guardianship order vacated and custody given to me. i have a job and a place to live, no drug or alcohol problems and i`m his mother.
There is also a restraining order against me permitting me from seeing my son. this is so confusing but i will try and make it easy to understand.
on october 11th, 2005 i had my ex arrested for domestic a&b,a&b w/ a dangerous weapon, & threatening to commit a crime ( murder ) - (the threat was added after he threatened me after his miranda rights wee read to him )
On october 12th, 2005 my ex boyfriends mother filed a restraining order against me ( i believe 100% just to get back at me for putting her son in jail and to prevent me from seeing my baby ) the only reason the restraining order against me was granted was b/c i previously lived with her.
is that confusing. im sorry if it is.
On Novemeber 1st 2005 he was calling my home threatening to kill me. I called the polie and filed a report and he had violated the restraining order. this is also the second offense of domestic a&b against me. he was also on pre-trial probation when he did it the second time. when he violated the restraining order he also violated his release terms from court when he was let out on $500.00 bail.
now the mother filed violation of restraining order against me b/c i called my son's daycare to see if he was doing okay. i had no idea this was a violation and the restraining order was never explained to me.
im so confused and hurt at this point. i dont know what to do anymore. it seems that everytime i get something on my ex she tries (and succeed's) at getting something on me also, even with no proof.
I Dont know how to get my son back/what i need to do/what they look at when giving custody..also i dont understand how the courts could be allowing my ex to be in the same HOUSE with my son if he has abusive tendencies. PLEASE HELP I NEED MORE ADVICE THAN ON THE LAST THREAD.
thanks in advance.
