Paris Tennessee
My On again off again partner in a 10+yr relationship and I have 3 kids together. On April 9th 2018, he kicked me out of our shared home and continues to deny me access to our children, my vehicle and most of my belongings. He took all of my resources! In my opinion, in the attempt to gain the upper-hand! Let me start by saying that I have not done anything to cause this to happen. I've never cheated or lied or stolen or ANYthing of that sort. He is a narcissistic and a major control freak. I was unaware until we already had children. Now he just uses them as leverage! I believe this is because I just started working again since 2009. He use to complain how I never contributed but now that I have a job, its that Im never there and he has to now work 2 jobs. I think hes trying to "show me" how much he does for me....and how much he can take away!!
He has moved a lot of my personal belongings (clothes, toiletries etc.) to a storage facility which is already full of stuff belonging to my kids and myself. But, the storage unit is in his name. He has offered to bring the storage balance current, put it in my name and pack and move the rest of my things there, himself. In exchange.....he keeps any household items, furniture etc. that he wants! He would also be willing to store the furniture that's sentimental to me in his house until i get "situated"! 80% of everything there is mine already and the rest we acquired together! We moved into that place together in 2014. I believe we HAD a lease but we are currently just on month to month.
The truck (that he is keeping from me) was purchased specifically for me. I have always been the primary driver. But, it's titled in both of our names. He owns another truck that has been his daily driver!
He has a daughter(17)from a previous relationship which ended with him spending 4 years in prison for assault with a deadly weapon(i believe). He reentered her life when she was approx 6. Together we have a son (9) that we have joint custody of, and a set of boy/girl twins (5) that I have sole custody. They have all lived with us... full time.
He has put me in such a position by taking all my resources that IF i were to get someone to drive me to pick the kids up, i would have no place to take them that we could stay and I feel comfortable with it! I have had very minimum contact with our kids since April 9th. A couple phone calls and text messages. I did attend a school event called "muffins with mom". Supposedly they missed the bus and he carried them late, causing our already short 30 minute breakfast to an even shorter 10 minutes. My kids were very upset when I had to go. Especially my 9 year old. This is obviously not what is in their best interest!. I have sent several messages to his phone. I talked to him this morning (April 21) on the phone and he said no, i could not see them. They were busy. I could see them in a couple of weeks when he's had time to get a few things in order!
I have never had to be apart from my children and see no reason i should have to be now! At this point I have NO clue what to do. I have VERY limited resources. It seems he's holding all the cards**************.Meanwhile, I was unaware we were even playing a game!
I started working again since 2009. I believe that to be the cause of him kicking me out. He's afraid of me being financially stable! He wanted the upper-hand. It's disgusting!!! I have no clue what to do! Help??
My On again off again partner in a 10+yr relationship and I have 3 kids together. On April 9th 2018, he kicked me out of our shared home and continues to deny me access to our children, my vehicle and most of my belongings. He took all of my resources! In my opinion, in the attempt to gain the upper-hand! Let me start by saying that I have not done anything to cause this to happen. I've never cheated or lied or stolen or ANYthing of that sort. He is a narcissistic and a major control freak. I was unaware until we already had children. Now he just uses them as leverage! I believe this is because I just started working again since 2009. He use to complain how I never contributed but now that I have a job, its that Im never there and he has to now work 2 jobs. I think hes trying to "show me" how much he does for me....and how much he can take away!!
He has moved a lot of my personal belongings (clothes, toiletries etc.) to a storage facility which is already full of stuff belonging to my kids and myself. But, the storage unit is in his name. He has offered to bring the storage balance current, put it in my name and pack and move the rest of my things there, himself. In exchange.....he keeps any household items, furniture etc. that he wants! He would also be willing to store the furniture that's sentimental to me in his house until i get "situated"! 80% of everything there is mine already and the rest we acquired together! We moved into that place together in 2014. I believe we HAD a lease but we are currently just on month to month.
The truck (that he is keeping from me) was purchased specifically for me. I have always been the primary driver. But, it's titled in both of our names. He owns another truck that has been his daily driver!
He has a daughter(17)from a previous relationship which ended with him spending 4 years in prison for assault with a deadly weapon(i believe). He reentered her life when she was approx 6. Together we have a son (9) that we have joint custody of, and a set of boy/girl twins (5) that I have sole custody. They have all lived with us... full time.
He has put me in such a position by taking all my resources that IF i were to get someone to drive me to pick the kids up, i would have no place to take them that we could stay and I feel comfortable with it! I have had very minimum contact with our kids since April 9th. A couple phone calls and text messages. I did attend a school event called "muffins with mom". Supposedly they missed the bus and he carried them late, causing our already short 30 minute breakfast to an even shorter 10 minutes. My kids were very upset when I had to go. Especially my 9 year old. This is obviously not what is in their best interest!. I have sent several messages to his phone. I talked to him this morning (April 21) on the phone and he said no, i could not see them. They were busy. I could see them in a couple of weeks when he's had time to get a few things in order!
I have never had to be apart from my children and see no reason i should have to be now! At this point I have NO clue what to do. I have VERY limited resources. It seems he's holding all the cards**************.Meanwhile, I was unaware we were even playing a game!
I started working again since 2009. I believe that to be the cause of him kicking me out. He's afraid of me being financially stable! He wanted the upper-hand. It's disgusting!!! I have no clue what to do! Help??
