Help with my Father

[backwardsrain]

What is the name of your state? Ohio

My father is 77 years old and has mild non threatening dementia. He currently lives in Indiana in an assisted living apartment. He was a Veteran and a Teamster Union Agent. His retirement nets him 3300 a month. The assisted living costs 900 a month. My step sister is spending his money. I live in Ohio and I am not sure what I can do. The family asks her where the money is and she tells us that she is spending it on him but there is no proof. What I want to do is scoop him up out of the assisted living and move him here into an assisted living housing or a full fledged nursing home.

I expect him to live no more then a few more years at most with his health the way it is. We need to save his money frankly so we can bury him properly. He has no life insurance. It lapped before my stepsister found out it needed paid.

Is it ok to just scoop him up? Or do I need a court order?
How hard is it going to be to get a court order?

I don't have the money to hire an attorney. Should I get a power of attorney signed by him? He has not been to court to be declared un-fit to take care of his self. However if I told him that we were moving he would just say ok with out any resistance.

If I did bring him to Ohio and got a court date would that make jurisdiction here in Ohio or would venue be moved more then likely.

He is being taken care of well now by the assisted living housing however his money is being spent by his daughter.

What bothers me is that when he dies there will be no money to burry him. What bothers me also is she is and always has been a leach. She uses everybody she knows until she can’t use them anymore. This is no different.

 

[BlondiePB]

Pot Calling The Kettle Black

Let's see. You need money. You've been convicted of theft. You want to kidnap your father that has dementia from an Assisted Living Facility, where he's well taken care of, and have him sign a POA. Your children will be visiting you in jail and probably become wards of the state. And, you will lose your home.

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03-19-2005, 03:41 PM
backwardsrain
Junior Member Join Date: Mar 2005
Posts: 19

Dad with full custody need advice

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I am a single dad raising 3 kids. My youngest son is 4, my other son is 6 and my daughter is 7.

She left on June 7th 2004 to be with an internet boyfriend who lives 500 miles away (in another state). She and I were never married and I have a full custody order by the court. It was my attorney who thought that if we send her an agreed entry plea with no child support order, then she would be more likely to sign it and custody would be as easy as a signature... he was right it was that easy. She signed then mailed the papers and it was done.

Here is my dilemma... I so need help with the expenses. I am falling so far behind it is going to affect my currently good credit. The daycare bill alone is $1100.00.

She still lives there (500 miles away) and is living with a different man. She does not work. Her boyfriend does not work. They currently have illegal housing... They are living in a house that is paid for by the state because the state thinks that another party lives there who qualifies for free housing. They have been living there since Last September and the state has not caught on. In August of 2004 she worked for a month at Wal-Mart. She claims that she is going to come back in a few months. She says she is 2 months pregnant now and she claims she has applied for jobs and is going to have 2 jobs in a few weeks in addition to some work she does off the record on the internet (web design). Her boyfriend is a total dead beat from what I can tell.

She basically left all of us behind to be with a guy who is NOT and never really was in her life (he was married).

The man she is seeing now is 5 years younger then her (he is 22), and has a criminal record for assault. He was arrested for hitting his ex-girlfriend less then a year ago. He pleaded guilty and has done a few months in jail.

I have a criminal record too. It was 8 years ago and it was theft.

 

[stealth2]

I dunno..... I'd rather be sure my Dad was living in a place he considers home and is comfortable, than worry abotu how his funeral will be paid for. Just me, though.

 

[BlondiePB]

It doesn't take too long for an ALF to discover that a resident is missing.