Help!

[MRomo38]

My divorce papers state that we have joint custody, and I am the managing conservator. It states the visitation schedule. I will contact the old school and find out where they transferred to, then what should I do? I have to get a copy of my papers, I misplaced my original, but that is not a problem. The threats that he makes are about taking me to court (he knows I don't have the financial resources that he does), and Child Support, and he just says ugly things to me... nothing specific, just ugly things. I have 4 children in all, however, my oldest is 20, and cannot be persuaded by him, and my youngest is 12, but he did not want to stay with his father. I don't understand why my 17 year old daughter stays there, because when she was young she said that daddy touched her in her privates.... my son I imagine, is there because of money. He sets no rules for them, he lets my daughter drive with no license, and he lets both of them drink and party. They both have myspace pages, and by the looks of the pictures and the language on their pages, he allows my daughter to present herself as a tramp, and doesn't mind that they use profanity.

 

[ProSeDadinMD]

Yeah. I know.

Curse my hopeless optimism.

Thats ok Prosperpina, OP wrote a book this time, and still didn't address the drug charges, or if she is sure that Dad did or didn't file anything because of them.

I'm guessing no answer is forethcoming. Go figure...

 

[Proserpina]

. I don't understand why my 17 year old daughter stays there, because when she was young she said that daddy touched her in her privates....

And you did what about this?

my son I imagine, is there because of money. He sets no rules for them, he lets my daughter drive with no license, and he lets both of them drink and party. They both have myspace pages, and by the looks of the pictures and the language on their pages, he allows my daughter to present herself as a tramp, and doesn't mind that they use profanity.

Please answer the questions asked of you.

 

[Proserpina]

Seriously - if your daughter said that her father sexually abused her - WHY THE HE11 did you let her go back there?!

I'm completely speechless.

 

[MRomo38]

went to court over that one too, but the judge ruled in his favor, and told me that I could not deny him visitation. Just like when we got divorced, the same judge allowed him to set his price for child support. I am telling you guys the whole story.... I am stumped, crushed, and that doesn't even begin to tell .....

 

[sometwo]

went to court over that one too, but the judge ruled in his favor, and told me that I could not deny him visitation. Just like when we got divorced, the same judge allowed him to set his price for child support. I am telling you guys the whole story.... I am stumped, crushed, and that doesn't even begin to tell .....

What about drug charges******************************************.

 

[Proserpina]

went to court over that one too, but the judge ruled in his favor, and told me that I could not deny him visitation. Just like when we got divorced, the same judge allowed him to set his price for child support. I am telling you guys the whole story.... I am stumped, crushed, and that doesn't even begin to tell .....

I'm going to try this one more time.

When your daughter told you that her Daddy was abusing her, what exactly did you do about it? Was CPS involved? The police? WHAT HAPPENED?

Yes, it's important.

 

[Proserpina]

went to court over that one too, but the judge ruled in his favor, and told me that I could not deny him visitation. Just like when we got divorced, the same judge allowed him to set his price for child support. I am telling you guys the whole story.... I am stumped, crushed, and that doesn't even begin to tell .....

How do you think your daughter feels? This isn't about you.

 

[MRomo38]

What about the drug charges? He doesn't even know about that. Yes, I involved CPS! Do you really think that I am that unconcerned? Those are my babies.... I filed a restraining order, filed paperwork at the court house... but like I said, the judge ruled in his favor... so all of that went out the window!

 

[Proserpina]

What about the drug charges? He doesn't even know about that. Yes, I involved CPS! Do you really think that I am that unconcerned? Those are my babies.... I filed a restraining order, filed paperwork at the court house... but like I said, the judge ruled in his favor... so all of that went out the window!

What did CPS conclude?

Look - an allegation is an allegation. Was it ever PROVEN that your daughter was abused?

(Hint: this would be more about what CPS concluded in their investigation than the judge in the court-room)

 

[MRomo38]

The case worker did a interview with my daughter, and I was told that the findings were confidential, and she never appeared in court. Can I request that information? I thought that was not right, because I am her mother, and she was young, and it was a serious allegation.

 

[ProSeDadinMD]

What about the drug charges? He doesn't even know about that...

Suuuure you're right...

You know that this sort of thing is public record right? And you don't think that the timing(6 months ago vs June till now) is an accident, do you?

A-G-A-I-N, DO YOU KNOW, FOR A 100% CERTAINTY, THAT DAD HASN'T FILED SOMETHING BECAUSE OF THIS????

I'm gonna guess no, since you keep avoiding this question...

 

[Proserpina]

Suuuure you're right...

You know that this sort of thing is public record right? And you don't think that the timing(6 months ago vs June till now) is an accident, do you?

A-G-A-I-N, DO YOU KNOW, FOR A 100% CERTAINTY, THAT DAD HASN'T FILED SOMETHING BECAUSE OF THIS????

I'm gonna guess no, since you keep avoiding this question...

You're still on dentist duty, huh?

Dude, pull up a cushion and have a beer. I'll treat.