Wow - - - this is to the OP.......
I am so sorry for your troubles! Ellencee is beating you up. I personally have never served in the military under any branch - -I considered it, but I bowed out - -my ex husband was in, and sometimes that was hard enough for me to handle.
Anyways, my grandfather served in the Korean war - - he was POW, and upon his eventual return home, had numerous problems also. Unfortunately, the event turned him into an alcholic, and he passed about 7 years ago now. Might be 8 actually this month. It seems like forever ago.
Anyways, HIPAA - -yes the VA should in some way be reprimanded for the pain they have inflicted on you..... there is such a fine line for group therapy! Discussing personal IDENTIFIABLE issues is wrong per HIPAAA, which sounds like your case. Even IF the group moderator didn't use your NAME, sounds like she still used info in which other group members knew damn well WHO was being spoken of. And that is a clear HIPAA violation.
I don't know if you're going to receive monetary compensation, but at the very least you can probably rest assured that fingers will slapped and hopefully someone will be un-empolyed as a result. With HIPAA, there can be fines and jail time, so hopefully the group "leader" will get one - or both - penalties.
Once that happens, he/she will probably have a very tough time getting potential future patients to trust them.
Good luck to you