Thanks for the advice Always. As for the reasons for the affair, I believe that my wife was lonely due to my business travel requirements. She had found a new passion in flying and took up a new hobby that I fully supported. I also believe it was the owner of the training company that made the advances, only due to what I now know about his past affairs and infidelity. I know that I had neglected my wife, and we are just about to end our marriage of 28 years because of it. I spent over a year after finding out about the affair trying to get her renew some honesty in our relationship and she refused for unknown reasons. I was put down in front of her family and friends as being the culprit of our marrital problems, even though she has always shared a great portion of the fault, in my eyes. She found a mentor and someone who took her under his personal wing and they fell in love against all the our respective marriages stood for. Yop bet I am angry, as I had never expected to see this relationship separate. Even today, I am mournful that it is happening this way, but it is too late to fix the wrongs on both our parts. I simply wanted to put this guy in his place. He is one of the most egotistical self-centered, guilt free individuals I know, and he has hurt his family on at least three occasions due to his affairs. I did not want him getting away with it again. Turns out some things have happened since their affair that may be construed as Gods own wrath on his life, but it was never enough for me. I wanted to see him squirm and suffer for the pain he caused me. As for my wife, she will have to fend for her own, which is in itself a punishment. I hate to see this happen to her, but she could even to this day, have fixed everything by fessing up and acknowledging this marriage thing is a two way street. I will not be actively pursuing the revenge thing on him, mostly because his family has been hurt enough. I just hope he someday gets the picture and starts treating them as family instead of how he has in the past. Sometimes, one just needs to vent over the hurt and anguish they have encountered. My marriage and relationship bond with my wife was paramount to my life and upcoming prime times. That is all lost now and I have to start over which is not easy.