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I have been divorced from my ex wife for 1 year. We were married 10 years, one 6 year daughter. Blah, blah internet affairs, blah, blah I divorced her. Ok, that's done. I deferred 50k of my share of the equity in the house so my daughter could stay there, mistake probably, her family is loaded and paid me the rest in cash. Ex lives in a $630,000 house making $28,000 a year and keeps coming to me for more money. Her lawyer does this for nothing. How nice. I made $82,000 the year of the divorce. My base was only $55,000, the rest was OT and side work. Blah, blah, yes, I know about that. I hope my back holds out. This year my income will be around $80,000 and will continue to drop each year. It's a Catch 22. I have to make the money to pay her and my bills. She makes $30,000 at her full time job.
I pay alimony of $1083.34 a month, CS of $605 a month or $1,688.34 total for both. I have my daughter every other weekend, I pick her up from school 3 days a week 15 miles each way, one weekday night dinner till 8, every doctor's (dentist)appointments since birth and child therapist every week. I am very close with my daughter and she is being neglected by her mother. I was told by 2nd lawyer, now fired, the law doesn't require her to be a good mother. Plenty of examples.
Questions: Am I over paying my ex? At what income level would this be lowered? At what point, is enough enough concerning neglect?
Any thoughts? Thank you. My divorce costed me 15k and ex 5k, hmmm makes me wonder?
I have been divorced from my ex wife for 1 year. We were married 10 years, one 6 year daughter. Blah, blah internet affairs, blah, blah I divorced her. Ok, that's done. I deferred 50k of my share of the equity in the house so my daughter could stay there, mistake probably, her family is loaded and paid me the rest in cash. Ex lives in a $630,000 house making $28,000 a year and keeps coming to me for more money. Her lawyer does this for nothing. How nice. I made $82,000 the year of the divorce. My base was only $55,000, the rest was OT and side work. Blah, blah, yes, I know about that. I hope my back holds out. This year my income will be around $80,000 and will continue to drop each year. It's a Catch 22. I have to make the money to pay her and my bills. She makes $30,000 at her full time job.
I pay alimony of $1083.34 a month, CS of $605 a month or $1,688.34 total for both. I have my daughter every other weekend, I pick her up from school 3 days a week 15 miles each way, one weekday night dinner till 8, every doctor's (dentist)appointments since birth and child therapist every week. I am very close with my daughter and she is being neglected by her mother. I was told by 2nd lawyer, now fired, the law doesn't require her to be a good mother. Plenty of examples.
Questions: Am I over paying my ex? At what income level would this be lowered? At what point, is enough enough concerning neglect?
Any thoughts? Thank you. My divorce costed me 15k and ex 5k, hmmm makes me wonder?