I'll jump in and get everybody PO'd
it sounds like there is at least an effort on dad's part to accommodate daughters homework and that is absolutely great. Dad and mom should work together to make it this easy every time.
Dad is responsible to make sure daughter gets her homework done regardless whether he gets one overnight or 365. That is being a parent. While it may not seem fair all of dad's time with the daughter is consumed by daughter doing her homework, that is part of being a parent and actually, while dad may really want to go out and play with the kids, he has to be mature about this and realize that his daughter has responsibilities and cannot simply ignore them to go out and play with dad any time he wants. Yes, that is intended to sound like a typical parent child relationship with the roles reversed because that is exactly what it is. Dad, if he really cares about his child, will make all efforts that the daughter takes care of her responsibilities before they go out to play. That is part of being a parent.
I understand OG's point about dad has limited time but the daughters world does not stop just because dad has limited time. She is still going to be held responsible to have her homework done. I would suggest daughter make all efforts to make time with dad quality time
with dad but sometimes it just doesn't work that way.
Think about an inverse situation. Daughter comes over and dang, dad gets called in to work. Does dad simply get to use the "but my daughter is here and I only get one overnight and..."? Of course not. He will go to work like he has to. It is called fulfilling one's responsibilities. Daughter will be left to her own vices. It is the same thing.
It's great when it all works out so dad and kids can play golf all weekend but life doesn't work like that and that is part of being a dad.
about kiddo staying home: it almost sounded like there is something in the order that might allow this.
I know it's unusual, but in this case,
the kids do get to decide on going with dad or not.
maybe OP will clarify. If there are no directives that allow this, the OG is absolutely correct and daughter gets no choice, legally.
So califorinamom,
you now know that dad has quite a bit of weekend time. You know kiddo will have a lot of weekend homework and thank goodness she actually wants to do it.
so, as such, if she needs a computer to do it, somebody needs to find her a laptop so she can take it to dad's with her or dad needs to get a computer. While not free, you can find something for a couple hundred bucks. Y'all can think of it just like buying clothes; a necessary expense. Either he needs to fork out the money for a good connection or kiddo gets use dial-up. Most likely your ISP can be accessed via dial-up. If not, kiddo gets to use one of the freebies, like NetZero and will simply have to deal with the ads, that's life but she will at least have access to the internet.
It really does sound like there is some cooperation between the two parents, which is great. If you make this hard on daughter or put her in the middle, the fervor you now see for intellectual growth may be snubbed. Don't do it. Sounds like you have a focused kid on your hands so do not change the prescription on her glasses.
