I do intend to communicate with him. As I said before, I think that is great advice
the other poster gave me. I'm not "going nuts" over one unpaid month of child support.
I just want him to realize that I'm not going to sit back and do nothing since I know he has the money and is intentionally not paying. I do not depend on child support to make ends meet but I believe that it is his responsibility to pay it on time and that is is cheating his child by not doing so.
I think sending him a letter asking where the payment is and reminding him in the letter that not paying will lead to filing contempt charges ought to do it. A nicely written letter, of course.
Its entirely possible SES *does* have the check even if they say they dont. My husband's kid's mother, on MORE than one occasion, has called asking where "her" money is, and says SES hasnt sent it to her/doesnt have it, when he has a copy of the cleared check.
There may also be a reason he isnt paying. If he doesnt have the money to pay it, or barely has enough to pay his bills (for instance, if he can not work due to illness, or lost his job, or what have you...) your money is going to be late right now. Its court ordered, so he needs to pay it, and of course he will go into arrears, but its entirely possible that for some reason he's going to be behind a bit. You dont REALLY know that he is intentionally not paying it just to screw with you.
Its also possible that maybe he's decided he isnt going to pay or is only going to pay when they MAKE him, and if someone wants to avoid child support, there are many ways to go about that. Arrears will accrue, of course, but there are a lot of ppl who refuse to pay in the world & will do whatever it takes to keep from having their money go to the child.
You said you didnt need c/s to make ends meet but said this "My daughter needs the money." in a previous post. So I'm not sure if you do or dont. But you need to find a way to make sure you NEVER rely on the c/s to pay bills or raise your child, since he could very well be UNABLE to pay one day (gets very ill, loses his job, dies...it could take awhile to receive a portion of disability, unemployment or survivors benefits in these cases) or chooses not to pay. Get a better job, get a second job, learn to live on less money...whatever...do what you have to do to make it so you dont rely on the money and if he doesnt pay, file with SES or the courts.
