How do we handle this?

[betterthanher]

You might want to all get tested for any STDs

This is exactly what I was searching for...because I was going to mention it.

They better google their nearest free clinic! LOL

 

[rmet4nzkx]

State: Pennsylvania

I know this isn't going to sound good, but we need advise on how to proceed.

Background: My husband and I almost filed for a divorce about a month ago, but decided to work things out. I went away for a weekend and when I came back we talked things out. I ended up getting pregnant that weekend. (Not on purpose, we both are happy and want the baby).

I just found out that that same weekend he cheated on me and now this other girl is also pregnant. Which would make us due 2 days apart. It's not a 100% chance that it is his, as she is known to "sleep around" (there could be a chance that it could be my husband's brothers kid).

At first the girl said her father wanted my husband to "sign his rights away" and have nothing to do with the baby or the mother. Now the mother wants him to be a part of the baby's life.

How should we proceed? He wants nothing to do with the mother, but if it's his kid he wants to be a part of it's life. Should we just wait til it's born and have the mother pay for a paternity test?

Any other advise would be greatly appreciated.Thanks

So your husband and his brother had a 3sum with this woman or is that his ocntention so he can blame it on his brother if the DNA is close, both will have to be tested and no he can't just give up his rights. Now since she lives at home, her age may be a problem if she is too young to consent to sex.

 

[WhosMyBabyDaddy]

And no...I am not the other woman!

 

[NotSoNew]

OHHHH...Are you Tara? I thought whomybaby was tara...my bad...Do you know this person?

lol yes i am tara, i know the OP from another board. thats why she used my name.

i dont think whosmybabydaddy is the other woman though, i think she would have a lot more to say than that!

 

[Just Blue]

lol yes i am tara, i know the OP from another board. thats why she used my name.

i dont think whosmybabydaddy is the other woman though, i think she would have a lot more to say than that!

Light dawns over Marblehead!! ...(fancy way of saying I got it!)....I thought wnosmybaby was the other woman because she/he/it has only a few posts and they are all on ths thread ....stupid little spelling corrections...So she/he/it is just a troll....

Well sorry about the mix-up....

 

[vwlonewolf]

Does he want to be part of the babies life or not. Because in your original post you say he DOES want to be part of the babies life if it is his, just not a part of the mothers. Then in another post you say he wants to sign over his rights! So, you have given some conflicting information.

When I first posted this, my husband wanted to be a part of the babys life. He then talked to me y'day and told me he was going to give up his rights b/c he wants nothing to do with the mother and we can't afford to fight her in court. He told her that he was either going for all or going for none and she told him there was no way she was giving up her baby. She already has her 3 girls that she gave up custody to b/c she couldn't afford to fight for them.

 

[Mbarr77]

When I first posted this, my husband wanted to be a part of the babys life. He then talked to me y'day and told me he was going to give up his rights b/c he wants nothing to do with the mother and we can't afford to fight her in court. He told her that he was either going for all or going for none and she told him there was no way she was giving up her baby. She already has her 3 girls that she gave up custody to b/c she couldn't afford to fight for them.

So, all within a few hours he completely changed his mind? And he is willing to give up his CHILD, so that he does not have to deal with the mother. In all honesty, he did not mind dealing with her while he was helping to create the child. However, legally he cannot just sign over his rights to the child. There has to be someone that is willing to legally adopt the child. Like a stepfather.

 

[vwlonewolf]

So your husband and his brother had a 3sum with this woman or is that his ocntention so he can blame it on his brother if the DNA is close, both will have to be tested and no he can't just give up his rights. Now since she lives at home, her age may be a problem if she is too young to consent to sex.

No it wasn't a "3sum"....she was his bro's "friend with benefits" so he's been sleeping with her whenever he wants for the past several months. The night my husband made his mistake, they were drinking but not intoxicated and my husband regrets letting it go that far. And she is 25 years old, so she is of legal age.

 

[vwlonewolf]

So, all within a few hours he completely changed his mind? And he is willing to give up his CHILD, so that he does not have to deal with the mother. In all honesty, he did not mind dealing with her while he was helping to create the child. However, legally he cannot just sign over his rights to the child. There has to be someone that is willing to legally adopt the child. Like a stepfather.

No it was within a few days, we first talked Monday night and then y'day he changed his mind after talking to other fathers that have been in this situation.

 

[stealth2]

No it was within a few days, we first talked Monday night and then y'day he changed his mind after talking to other fathers that have been in this situation.

Doesn't matter, hon. He doesn't get to simply walk away w/no obligation. If the kid is his, he will be supporting the child until and unless someone else adopts it. Got a winner, there!

 

[Mbarr77]

No it was within a few days, we first talked Monday night and then y'day he changed his mind after talking to other fathers that have been in this situation.

Just seems so sad to me! IF he is the father, the baby never asked for any of this! Legally, if he is the father he has to step up!