moonstruck
Junior Member
What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? South Carolina
Last yr my older sister (age 52, I’m 10 yrs younger) and I reconnected after being out of touch for 8 yrs. She’s always lived in PA, I’m in SC. She was always very independent, but suffered 2 job losses last yr which really devastated her financially. She also has some medical problems which prevent her from driving. She had to give up her apt. Long to short, in February of this yr I invited her to come to SC, stay with us (I’m married with 2 teenaged kids). The understanding was that she would try to get a job here and start over.
Husband and I both work. I knew she only had a very small unemployment check to live on, and I knew she had lots of debts, but she insisted on contributing $25/wk, which was fine. Job mkt is tough, esp with her not being able to drive. She got a temp job in May and has been giving us $50/wk. But the problem, as I see it, is not money.
Sis and I are very different and she had a falling out with our brother in PA many yrs ago and they no longer speak, but he and I are quite close and talk a lot. I told him about her problems (hoping he could help) and instead he wrote her a letter chastising her. That was a month ago, and she’s been quite upset about it. She doesn’t do things with our family and in fact she says very little to me. She no longer asks us to take her to work or anyplace (she takes cabs or walks). She eats out a lot and basically stays in her room watching TV, etc.
Well, I am tired of the tension and so are my husband and kids. I think she needs to get over it, but – aside from minimal civilities - it’s like she’s cut us off. She’s still paying $50/wk (cash, no receipts are exchanged). I think it’s time for her to get her own place either here or back in PA. I’m sick of her disrespect and ‘silent treatment’, and I want her out.
Financially I don’t know where she is. But I’ve helped her enough and I want her to move out of my house. How do I accomplish this?
Last yr my older sister (age 52, I’m 10 yrs younger) and I reconnected after being out of touch for 8 yrs. She’s always lived in PA, I’m in SC. She was always very independent, but suffered 2 job losses last yr which really devastated her financially. She also has some medical problems which prevent her from driving. She had to give up her apt. Long to short, in February of this yr I invited her to come to SC, stay with us (I’m married with 2 teenaged kids). The understanding was that she would try to get a job here and start over.
Husband and I both work. I knew she only had a very small unemployment check to live on, and I knew she had lots of debts, but she insisted on contributing $25/wk, which was fine. Job mkt is tough, esp with her not being able to drive. She got a temp job in May and has been giving us $50/wk. But the problem, as I see it, is not money.
Sis and I are very different and she had a falling out with our brother in PA many yrs ago and they no longer speak, but he and I are quite close and talk a lot. I told him about her problems (hoping he could help) and instead he wrote her a letter chastising her. That was a month ago, and she’s been quite upset about it. She doesn’t do things with our family and in fact she says very little to me. She no longer asks us to take her to work or anyplace (she takes cabs or walks). She eats out a lot and basically stays in her room watching TV, etc.
Well, I am tired of the tension and so are my husband and kids. I think she needs to get over it, but – aside from minimal civilities - it’s like she’s cut us off. She’s still paying $50/wk (cash, no receipts are exchanged). I think it’s time for her to get her own place either here or back in PA. I’m sick of her disrespect and ‘silent treatment’, and I want her out.
Financially I don’t know where she is. But I’ve helped her enough and I want her to move out of my house. How do I accomplish this?