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What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Texas

On March 2 I went to court with my ex because she was modifing the temp orders again. ( In Decemeber judge modified orders because of a comment a made because my ex was with holding visits. so judge ordered cps supervised one hour a week in Austin making her drive to Austin from San Antonio, ordered a social study which I have completed and found out on the second she has not yet) That judge made it very clear that any modifications to come back to him. Well that did not happen it went in front of some one else. So this new judge ordered as follows:

1. First thirty days (march) supervised at a nuteral facility in San Antonio Kid Share/ Kid exchange on 2nd,4th & 5th weekends beging at 9am and ending at 5pm. Cost to be split 50/50, My wife and other children are allowed to come to these visits ( I thought this was great)

2. Next 30 days (april) nuetral exchanges at Kid Exchange in San Marcos, supervised by respondents mother starting at 9am and ending at 5pm

3. Next 30 days (may) continue nuetral exchanges in San Marcos and supervised with respondents mother with 1 overnight

4. Next 30 days(June) continue nuetral exchanges in San Marcos supervised with Respondents mother and 2 overnights in a row

5. Next 30 Days (July) Continue nuetral exchanges in San Marcos and supervised with respondents mother with 4 overnight in a row

We were ordered to get into touch with Kid Sahre/ Kid exchange by the end of the week. Ex was ordered to hurry up and do social study. Ordered that in the childs room at both parties house there is to be a picture of the other parent. When child is my care for the weekend to send an email letting ex know how it went one sentence is all that is reguired.

Now here is the problem. My wife contact Kid Share when we were leaving the court house. They already said they could not go by that court order. They only do 2 hour visits, no one else is allowed in visits except child and parent. My fist weekend they are already booked and I would have no visit. So we contact Kid Exchange they are preety much the same way. No more then 3 hour visits, no one else is allowed. So I know it is petty but I want the 32 hours that the judge gave me. Before this I was only getting 4 hours a month and this month I have not seen my daughter at all yet. Now there is only a possibility of only getting 12 hours. I do not know what to do as my first visit is 14th any one have any ideas????
 


Ohiogal

Queen Bee
You are aware that a) your ex posts here or b) you are posting as both sides of the situation?

You need to give that response to the court and ask that the visitations be held at YOUR home.
 
Update and mad as can be

This is kinda long so I will do the best I can

Courts ordered on March 2 for me to have 2,4 weekends from 9-5 supervised at a nuetral facility in San Antonio for the first thirty days. Called Kidshare in San Antonio they could only offer me The two sundays from 9-1. I found another facility that could do all days. Ex did not want to change were we were going. I got in touch with her asked her to change she did not want to hear it. I simply told her I wanted my time with my daughter that the court ordered she did not want to budge. So I started filling out everything for the other facility sent her the info and she did nothing. Since she did nothing I was kinda stuck with only the two days. So I called the original place and they said they could still do it on those two days were scheduling it but needed to talk to her attorney to make sure. If they did not hear from her there would be no visit. I called tonight to make sure I did not need anything else to bring with me and they said because they did not hear from her attorney they cancelled my spot and gave it to someone else. I asked why I was not notified so I could make arrangments some where else? They had no answer. So i called my ex to let her know she said no the visit was still on. I told her to call them right now. She did they gave her the same info that there was no visit that they did not speak with her attorney so they gave it to someone else. So not only did I get screwed out of my saturday visit but now I have been screwed out of my Sunday visit as well. I called an attorney but nothing can be done till Monday morning. I have not seen my daughter since my last one hour supervised visit on 2/24 and the new orderes were given on 3/2. If this continues I will not get to see her again till 3/27 I am completly mad as can be and think I should still make the trip to SA and show up and then have them tell me again and give me some kind of proof....So now I do not know even if the other visit is on or not....

I however pulled myself together called my ex and offered this to her " I have spoke with my wife and we would like to take you and your husband and Hailey out to lunch on Sunday so we can spend alittle time with her and show her we can still be civil to each other." " I need to speak with my attorney." She said "okay" I made this offer hoping she would see I was trying and makeing the best effort to do right by my daughter, because if we all showed up for our Sunday visit and my daughter saw her other siblings and saw me and found out there was no visit she would have been heart broken and so would have the other kids and that is not in the best interest for any of them to get upset. What else can I do? Does anyone have any other suggestions? I am not a dead beat dad my child support is paid up and paid up for the next 3 months as well. All I want is my time with my daughter..She like my other children are my life and I feel simply that I have been cheated out of this and I am still continueing to get cheated....Please help a desperate dad figure out how to see his girl......:mad:
 

LdiJ

Senior Member
This is kinda long so I will do the best I can

Courts ordered on March 2 for me to have 2,4 weekends from 9-5 supervised at a nuetral facility in San Antonio for the first thirty days. Called Kidshare in San Antonio they could only offer me The two sundays from 9-1. I found another facility that could do all days. Ex did not want to change were we were going. I got in touch with her asked her to change she did not want to hear it. I simply told her I wanted my time with my daughter that the court ordered she did not want to budge. So I started filling out everything for the other facility sent her the info and she did nothing. Since she did nothing I was kinda stuck with only the two days. So I called the original place and they said they could still do it on those two days were scheduling it but needed to talk to her attorney to make sure. If they did not hear from her there would be no visit. I called tonight to make sure I did not need anything else to bring with me and they said because they did not hear from her attorney they cancelled my spot and gave it to someone else. I asked why I was not notified so I could make arrangments some where else? They had no answer. So i called my ex to let her know she said no the visit was still on. I told her to call them right now. She did they gave her the same info that there was no visit that they did not speak with her attorney so they gave it to someone else. So not only did I get screwed out of my saturday visit but now I have been screwed out of my Sunday visit as well. I called an attorney but nothing can be done till Monday morning. I have not seen my daughter since my last one hour supervised visit on 2/24 and the new orderes were given on 3/2. If this continues I will not get to see her again till 3/27 I am completly mad as can be and think I should still make the trip to SA and show up and then have them tell me again and give me some kind of proof....So now I do not know even if the other visit is on or not....

I however pulled myself together called my ex and offered this to her " I have spoke with my wife and we would like to take you and your husband and Hailey out to lunch on Sunday so we can spend alittle time with her and show her we can still be civil to each other." " I need to speak with my attorney." She said "okay" I made this offer hoping she would see I was trying and makeing the best effort to do right by my daughter, because if we all showed up for our Sunday visit and my daughter saw her other siblings and saw me and found out there was no visit she would have been heart broken and so would have the other kids and that is not in the best interest for any of them to get upset. What else can I do? Does anyone have any other suggestions? I am not a dead beat dad my child support is paid up and paid up for the next 3 months as well. All I want is my time with my daughter..She like my other children are my life and I feel simply that I have been cheated out of this and I am still continueing to get cheated....Please help a desperate dad figure out how to see his girl......:mad:
You should have set things up for the 9-1 at the kidshare place right from the get go, while you looked for other options and/or took it back to court...you shouldn't have given them the impression that there was anything iffy about it. Then you would have at least had that as a backup.
 

wileybunch

Senior Member
Ex did not want to change were we were going. I got in touch with her asked her to change she did not want to hear it.
What reason did she give?

So I called the original place and they said they could still do it on those two days were scheduling it but needed to talk to her attorney to make sure. If they did not hear from her there would be no visit. I called tonight to make sure I did not need anything else to bring with me and they said because they did not hear from her attorney they cancelled my spot and gave it to someone else.
Interesting. Hard to know who dropped the ball. Hope it wasn't Mom/Mom's attorney doing it deliberately.

IIRC, Mom's been pretty determined to try to frustrate visitation. Does your court order need to be specific to *a* facility? Can't you have any suitable ones listed so you're not locked into what any certain one has available at any given time?
 

Ohiogal

Queen Bee
What reason did she give?

Interesting. Hard to know who dropped the ball. Hope it wasn't Mom/Mom's attorney doing it deliberately.

IIRC, Mom's been pretty determined to try to frustrate visitation. Does your court order need to be specific to *a* facility? Can't you have any suitable ones listed so you're not locked into what any certain one has available at any given time?
Mom has posted on here and is doing everything she can to frustrate visitation. I wish I could remember what her name was on here because she was VERY deliberate in wanting to kick dad out of the picture and have HER husband be the only daddy.
 

peppier

Member
Mom has posted on here and is doing everything she can to frustrate visitation. I wish I could remember what her name was on here because she was VERY deliberate in wanting to kick dad out of the picture and have HER husband be the only daddy.

CarrieWest?
 
Temp orders have not been sighned but I have the transcript of the hearing and it says either Kidshare or Kidexchange in SA for the first 30 days supervised on 2,4 5th weekends and my wife and other children could come from 9-5. I learned that neither facility does that long of hours max is 5 hrs. I was going to suck it up and be the better person and take that. Kidshare could only offer me the two Sundays and my family was not allowed to come, but kidexchange could offer me all four days for 5 hours and my family could come. I had the 2 sundays scheduled and tryed to get mom persuaded to do the other and she said no because she had already done everything at the other facility. I called Kidshare on Wed to confirm and they said it was okay but still needed to talk to her attorney. I called back yesterday and they said because they did not hear from her they gave our slot to someone else. I asked them why I was not called so I could keep on top of it and they had no answer. So I am not sure whos fault it was. It will be almost a whole month before my last visit and this is how I keep gettinf screwed. Was I wrong to over something outside of the court orders?
 

Rushia

Senior Member
Temp orders have not been sighned but I have the transcript of the hearing and it says either Kidshare or Kidexchange in SA for the first 30 days supervised on 2,4 5th weekends and my wife and other children could come from 9-5. I learned that neither facility does that long of hours max is 5 hrs. I was going to suck it up and be the better person and take that. Kidshare could only offer me the two Sundays and my family was not allowed to come, but kidexchange could offer me all four days for 5 hours and my family could come. I had the 2 sundays scheduled and tryed to get mom persuaded to do the other and she said no because she had already done everything at the other facility. I called Kidshare on Wed to confirm and they said it was okay but still needed to talk to her attorney. I called back yesterday and they said because they did not hear from her they gave our slot to someone else. I asked them why I was not called so I could keep on top of it and they had no answer. So I am not sure whos fault it was. It will be almost a whole month before my last visit and this is how I keep gettinf screwed. Was I wrong to over something outside of the court orders?
Did you read the thread that was posted. The mother of child has declared that she called and scheduled nothing as they told her the same. She scheduled nothing as far as I remember.

You are probably going to have to take this back to court and explain that the one facility could not comply with the CO. Explain what happened with the other facility, that one could possibly be contempt as your ex did not do what she was supposed to do in trying to schedule as well.
 

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