BeStVeldboon
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What is the name of your state? California
Just yesterday my brother and I had to make a decision whether to have a feeding tube put into my Mom as she has Alzheimers and last week she had a major stroke. We decided this is not what she would have wanted. My brother has durable power of attorney for my Mom's healthcare, and went home take a look at her living trust to see if she had given any instructions. This is what it states:
A. "If the extention of my life would result in a mere biological existence, devoid of cognitive function, with no reasonable hope for normal functioning, then I do not desire any form of life sustaining procedures or, if life sustaining reatment has been instituted, I desire that it be withdrawn."
B. "I wish food and wter provided to me including through a tube or by artifical means if I am terminally ill. I do wish cardiac resuscitation or mechanical respiration if I am terminally ill."
Before her stroke my Mom is in the very last stages of Alzheimers only speaking jibberish. Now she barely opens her eyes. Since this seems a bit contradicting, is it something that can be determined by the doctor or do we also need to get her lawyer involved in deciding whether or not a feeding tube should or should not be given to my Mom.
Also, I know we'll be losing her very soon, and I am the executor of her living trust. She has always told me that she wants to be buried in a really pretty night gown in Nebraska (where she was born and with her family). She has the money to be able to do this, but will I be able to access her money in order to make this happen or will the bank put an automatic freeze on her account? I know this sounds a bit simple, but to be honest, I am having a difficult time thinking straight right now and I'm trying to look ahead for any possible roadblocks that I may encounter.
Thank You
Just yesterday my brother and I had to make a decision whether to have a feeding tube put into my Mom as she has Alzheimers and last week she had a major stroke. We decided this is not what she would have wanted. My brother has durable power of attorney for my Mom's healthcare, and went home take a look at her living trust to see if she had given any instructions. This is what it states:
A. "If the extention of my life would result in a mere biological existence, devoid of cognitive function, with no reasonable hope for normal functioning, then I do not desire any form of life sustaining procedures or, if life sustaining reatment has been instituted, I desire that it be withdrawn."
B. "I wish food and wter provided to me including through a tube or by artifical means if I am terminally ill. I do wish cardiac resuscitation or mechanical respiration if I am terminally ill."
Before her stroke my Mom is in the very last stages of Alzheimers only speaking jibberish. Now she barely opens her eyes. Since this seems a bit contradicting, is it something that can be determined by the doctor or do we also need to get her lawyer involved in deciding whether or not a feeding tube should or should not be given to my Mom.
Also, I know we'll be losing her very soon, and I am the executor of her living trust. She has always told me that she wants to be buried in a really pretty night gown in Nebraska (where she was born and with her family). She has the money to be able to do this, but will I be able to access her money in order to make this happen or will the bank put an automatic freeze on her account? I know this sounds a bit simple, but to be honest, I am having a difficult time thinking straight right now and I'm trying to look ahead for any possible roadblocks that I may encounter.
Thank You
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