I Don't Know.

[I Have Issues]

Wheel of fortune or is it the price is right ?

Come on down !!! What # will you pick .

( your first name ) Come on down !!!!!!! you're the next contestant on what shall we call you ?


stealth2
Senior Member Join Date: May 2002
Posts: 21,445

If you're not comfortable with it (and let's face it - there's a reason why you're not) - then find another name for her to call you. Mama, Ima, Mummsie. Whatever. And tell your husband that he chose BM as this child's mother, so he needs to accept that reality.

Hmmm..I replied a while ago and then deleted it as it seems that this is directed at Stealth.

I am not sure how to respond otherwise. I hope that I did not cause conflict.

 

[Mbarr77]

Are you frickin damaged?....I hope that you are not implying that the OP explain to a FOUR YEAR OLD Bio Mom's 'troubles'.

Because to .."assuring her that she did nothing wrong and that her Bio Mom is having 'troubles' now." OP would have to explain to the child WHY Bio Mom is not there.

As far as I understand the post by the OP...She does a fine job in "dancing" around the 'troubles' and just reassures the child that it is not her fault that Bio Mom is not there and that Bio Mom would want a suitable person (OP) to take care of the child's needs in her absence. Which I think is the right thing to do for a child this age. IMHO

I have to agree with you completely. My daughter was told that I was having "troubles" (which was incorrect). The only thing it did was create my daughter to ask even more questions, and be confused. It also made her feel like she did something wrong. I think the poster is doing exactly what is best for child_IMO

 

[StickyFingers]

I have to agree with you completely. My daughter was told that I was having "troubles" (which was incorrect). The only thing it did was create my daughter to ask even more questions, and be confused. It also made her feel like she did something wrong. I think the poster is doing exactly what is best for child_IMO

I agree completely.

I have to admit that I don't come around here as often as I use to....But this is the first step-parent I have seen on this board in quite a while that has been completely non-biased and is only looking out for this child's best interests.

It just makes me all warm and fuzzy.

 

[betterthanher]

I am shocked!!!

Quite frankly, I have to say that I am shocked. This thread has now reached two pages as of my posting and Kelly (scaredandaloneandrapedbyallofmyrelativesandpets) has NOT responded at all with her typical "this is none of your business and only for the biomom and dad to figure out...you are a legal stranger...and you should butt out....blah blah blah"

What is the world coming to? Is it armageddon already?!

 

[Mbarr77]

I agree completely.

I have to admit that I don't come around here as often as I use to....But this is the first step-parent I have seen on this board in quite a while that has been completely non-biased and is only looking out for this child's best interests.

It just makes me all warm and fuzzy.

I was thinking, man wish my child's SMom could be more like this!

 

[Just Blue]

Quite frankly, I have to say that I am shocked. This thread has now reached two pages as of my posting and Kelly (scaredandaloneandrapedbyallofmyrelativesandpets) has NOT responded at all with her typical "this is none of your business and only for the biomom and dad to figure out...you are a legal stranger...and you should butt out....blah blah blah"

What is the world coming to? Is it armageddon already?!

Actually she was viewing it earlier....

 

[StickyFingers]

Quite frankly, I have to say that I am shocked. This thread has now reached two pages as of my posting and Kelly (scaredandaloneandrapedbyallofmyrelativesandpets) has NOT responded at all with her typical "this is none of your business and only for the biomom and dad to figure out...you are a legal stranger...and you should butt out....blah blah blah"

What is the world coming to? Is it armageddon already?!

WAIT!...You forgot Paridise posting right after her calling her an idiot.

In this instance Paridise would be absolutely correct!....This OP definately does deserve to call this child "My daughter".

 

[betterthanher]

Actually she was viewing it earlier....

Maybe her "connection" (actually a string from her trailer to a styrofoam cup taped to a stick, which is stuck in the ground) was disconnected.

 

[StickyFingers]

I was thinking, man wish my child's SMom could be more like this!

Yeah, If my Ex ever remarried I would hope that he would remarry someone like the OP also! Unfortunately he wouldn't...someone with the personality of the OP wouldn't be his "style"

 

[Mbarr77]

Yeah, If my Ex ever remarried I would hope that he would remarry someone like the OP also! Unfortunately he wouldn't...someone with the personality of the OP wouldn't be his "style"

Yeah, mine neither unfortunately! :O(

 

[Just Blue]

Maybe her "connection" (actually a string from her trailer to a styrofoam cup taped to a stick, which is stuck in the ground) was disconnected.

Too Funny...ROTFLMAO!! And here I always figured that she was "connected" by some of her dead relatives spirtual energy... BOO!

 

[StickyFingers]

Too Funny...ROTFLMAO!! And here I always figured that she was "connected" by some of her dead relatives spirtual energy... BOO!

LOL...Although I laugh..I think y'all give her too much of a hard time. Everyone is capable of learning. Even if she is just 'parroting' what she has heard.

Even the most dense personalities can learn.

A broken watch is right at least twice in 24 hours.

EDIT: Sorry didn't mean to participate in hijacking

 

[I Have Issues]

I have to agree with you completely. My daughter was told that I was having "troubles" (which was incorrect). The only thing it did was create my daughter to ask even more questions, and be confused. It also made her feel like she did something wrong. I think the poster is doing exactly what is best for child_IMO

This is exactly the situation I want to avoid.

Even if my step-daughter was a teenager and knew about the issues surrounding her BM, I would never speak bad about the BM. It just isn't right. (not mention it is not my place to judge her)

I just am very thankful that I have an opportunity to make a difference in my daughters life.

 

[I Have Issues]

I agree completely.

I have to admit that I don't come around here as often as I use to....But this is the first step-parent I have seen on this board in quite a while that has been completely non-biased and is only looking out for this child's best interests.

It just makes me all warm and fuzzy.

Thanks for your and Mbarr's vote of confidence! I hope that I am not the only one out there.

 

[I Have Issues]

Quite frankly, I have to say that I am shocked. This thread has now reached two pages as of my posting and Kelly (scaredandaloneandrapedbyallofmyrelativesandpets) has NOT responded at all with her typical "this is none of your business and only for the biomom and dad to figure out...you are a legal stranger...and you should butt out....blah blah blah"

What is the world coming to? Is it armageddon already?!

I don't know what this is about...I am not sure I want to know.

I just hope that I was not the one who caused the conflict.