I just read pixiesticks thread....

[stealth2]

I think it's completely evil of parents to expect their children to socialize with their friends in any way, shape or form. Oh wait... I make my kids do that. Never mind.

What rmet said.

 

[BrokenInside]

They kept you in the house under their supervision so you couldn't sneak out. you may be the way you are because of your parents but you can change your behavior and pathalogical lying, you can stay home and not lure older men into having sex with them. You can grow up, now go and tell them the truth like I told you before.

Oh, I just gained a new parent! Ok, you don't know what the hell happens, so quit acting so smart. I didn't lure anyone into anything, like I said, we met when he was in high school, he came to me and he asked everyone for my number, he wanted me, I didn't lure him into anything, I even already had a boyfriend when he started liking me... and that isn't very good parenting to throw parties all night and keep your kid up when she has to be at work the next morning. Bad enough my step dad is a cop, he shouldn't promote drinking in his house and then driving home, now should he? My behavior would be fine if they weren't so messed up themselves. They taught me to lie to people, so that isn't my fault. For example, just about a month ago, they told me to lie to my counselor so they wouldn't have to pay the medical bill of my therapy. They told me to tell them that I wasn't living at home so that someone else would pay the bill (they told me to say I was at the youth shelter so that child welfare would pay) I told my mom that I didn't want to lie to them because I was trying to change (I had just got out of the shelter and didn't want to go back) and she still told me to lie to them! So, there it is.... you can't say that my parents are saints and that it's all my fault because even when I try to do good, it still doesn't work out for me, so I just say F it, they don't care, why should I?

 

[Shay-Pari'e]

You really need a babysitter, or at least your computer unplugged.(And thrown away).

All i see is my taxes going up because she will milk the system.

 

[AHA]

Oh, I just gained a new parent! Ok, you don't know what the hell happens, so quit acting so smart. I didn't lure anyone into anything, like I said, we met when he was in high school, he came to me and he asked everyone for my number, he wanted me, I didn't lure him into anything, I even already had a boyfriend when he started liking me... and that isn't very good parenting to throw parties all night and keep your kid up when she has to be at work the next morning. Bad enough my step dad is a cop, he shouldn't promote drinking in his house and then driving home, now should he? My behavior would be fine if they weren't so messed up themselves. They taught me to lie to people, so that isn't my fault. For example, just about a month ago, they told me to lie to my counselor so they wouldn't have to pay the medical bill of my therapy. They told me to tell them that I wasn't living at home so that someone else would pay the bill (they told me to say I was at the youth shelter so that child welfare would pay) I told my mom that I didn't want to lie to them because I was trying to change (I had just got out of the shelter and didn't want to go back) and she still told me to lie to them! So, there it is.... you can't say that my parents are saints and that it's all my fault because even when I try to do good, it still doesn't work out for me, so I just say F it, they don't care, why should I?

You have to start to care, otherwise you will end up with bigger problems and land yourself in prison. Bad parents is a good incentive for doing everything you can to be a better person.
My husband has done everything the exact opposite of what his dad did/does, and by doing that has become a hell of better person than his scumsucking dad. Since you say your parents don't care about what happens to you, YOU need to care about what happens to you. Sad fact is, that we only have ourselves to fully rely on, so it's up to each person to take charge of their actions, behavior and life.

 

[OhBullship]

AHA is correct. If your parents are not behaving as you feel an adult should behave, YOU have to behave as an adult. If what you are saying about your family is true, then you really need to be responsible and quit making excuses.

If you feel you are mature enough to be on your own, then you are mature enough to make good decisions. Just because your parents lie should not imply that you need to make it a life-style choice.

You should also learn that when other adults are trying to tell you something, you should not act like a fool. Occasionally the over 30 crowd is going to have learned things through life experience that you have not yet learned.

 

[rmet4nzkx]

Oh, I just gained a new parent! Ok, you don't know what the hell happens, so quit acting so smart. I didn't lure anyone into anything, like I said, we met when he was in high school, he came to me and he asked everyone for my number, he wanted me, I didn't lure him into anything, I even already had a boyfriend when he started liking me... and that isn't very good parenting to throw parties all night and keep your kid up when she has to be at work the next morning. Bad enough my step dad is a cop, he shouldn't promote drinking in his house and then driving home, now should he? My behavior would be fine if they weren't so messed up themselves. They taught me to lie to people, so that isn't my fault. For example, just about a month ago, they told me to lie to my counselor so they wouldn't have to pay the medical bill of my therapy. They told me to tell them that I wasn't living at home so that someone else would pay the bill (they told me to say I was at the youth shelter so that child welfare would pay) I told my mom that I didn't want to lie to them because I was trying to change (I had just got out of the shelter and didn't want to go back) and she still told me to lie to them! So, there it is.... you can't say that my parents are saints and that it's all my fault because even when I try to do good, it still doesn't work out for me, so I just say F it, they don't care, why should I?

Consider yourself lucky then to have anyone that cares even if it is on the net. If you don't like it there, go back to the shelter and ask to be put into foster care, then you will get 3 squares and a cot, you will have to obey the rules but you won't have to make excuses about your parents.

 

[BrokenInside]

I thought about all of this already, and I guess for a while I would try to be the mature one, but when I would try that, they would tell me to quit acting like I am 20, but I felt I had to. I guess I am a bit trapped, I just can't figure out something to do for my own sake, I feel someone needs to be responsible and mature but my parents wont let that person be me, thats for sure. My step dad used to touch my butt and make jokes about my breasts when I was younger, no one believes it because hes a cop, and all ppl in the whole system is buddies with him... I'm F'ed I guess...

 

[justpassingby]

Hmmm....

Well just a couple of comments to this, although this will be my first time to respond to anything.

My parents weren't saints either...they divorced when I was 15 and my mom basically said to me: "Well I've raised you and now it's time for me to live my life." She then proceeded to run around with many different men. She went so far as to move in with a BF and leave my older sister and I (my sister was 17) to live in the apartment alone. Needless to say without any parental guidance it was a non stop party at my house with kids sleeping wherever, doing whatever. This went on until she remarried when I was 18 and then tried to impose curfews and rules. After the way it had been...this didn't go over very well. I swore that I would never do the same thing to my kids and I haven't. I've been divorced for 3 years and have dated men, but in that time only one of them has EVER been to my house...and then only because the kids were gone. My personal life is just that and shouldn't be mixed up with my family life. The point is that it IS possible to be your own person...no matter what your upbringing might have been. On another note...my 15 yr old son has a friend whose mom throws him out of the house every other week when she gets tired of dealing with him. So while the teens can be blamed for what they do...the parents have to realize what their priorities are as well. You had the kids and you are responsible for raising them no matter how pissed off or irritated you get with them. Sorry to ramble or go off on a tangent!!