I need help with child support question

[Bre262017]

I live in the state of Tennessee. Im a mother of 3 kids and 2 of my 3 kids belong to my boyfriend. My boyfriend is paying child support for two other children a total of 316 a week. He cant even support the two children we have together or even pay the bills. I would work but we cant even pay for child care and we have a 2 week old that cant go to day care yet. I understand he needs to support his other two kids but when mine two children are suffering i have to do something before we lose everything. Can i take him for child support and it lower the amount he pays already or how would it the child support split it so he could pay both

 

[Bre262017]

I understand this is a hard subject. The reason im wanting to know about how if i take him for child support would work out is so that we can take care of our kids needs get them the things they need. I think its not right that my two kids have to do with out things they need and coming close to losing a roof over there heads all because a judge told him that i needed to work at 39weeks pregnant and on bed rest. The judge is more interested in my income then doing the right thing. The judge also told him that him not being able to provide for our kids and paying the bills was not the judge's problem. All im needing is some advice on what to do.

 

[LdiJ]

I understand this is a hard subject. The reason im wanting to know about how if i take him for child support would work out is so that we can take care of our kids needs get them the things they need. I think its not right that my two kids have to do with out things they need and coming close to losing a roof over there heads all because a judge told him that i needed to work at 39weeks pregnant and on bed rest. The judge is more interested in my income then doing the right thing. The judge also told him that him not being able to provide for our kids and paying the bills was not the judge's problem. All im needing is some advice on what to do.

Taking him for child support will not lower the amount that he has to pay for the other children. The legal theory is that someone should not choose to have additional children if they cannot afford to support the children they already have. You are simply going to have to find a way to bring more money into the household.

 

[Bre262017]

So why would the judge want to know my income for those kids arent mine that he is paying child support on. He didnt have a child support case when we found out i was pregnant with my 2 weeks old. As a mother i wish my children did not have to go through this i wish there was something that i cpuld do but when you cant pay for child care and you dont have family that will help it makes things a little hard.

 

[stealth2]

Honestly? The judge (rightfully so) sees that, despite KNOWING your "man" had two other children, you both STILL chose to have two more. So now it's on you to support them. His two older children should not go without as a result of your and his irresponsibility.

 

[Just Blue]

So why would the judge want to know my income for those kids arent mine that he is paying child support on.

You should ask the judge that question. I would advise getting a job on an opposing shift than your BF. IOW...If he works 9-5...Yuo could work 7-3. That way you could avoid child care. Triple up on the birth control as well.

 

[Bre262017]

Honestly? The judge (rightfully so) sees that, despite KNOWING your "man" had two other children, you both STILL chose to have two more. So now it's on you to support them. His two older children should not go without as a result of your and his irresponsibility.

I known the whole time he had two other children because for almost a year i was taking care of them when i was pregnant with our first child and the mother would almost never come and see them or get them and when she did she would show up after the children was asleep and drop them off before they woke up. I stopped watching them because she started harassing me and threatening my at the time 7 year old. So that why the child support case was started because she was mad.

 

[Just Blue]

I known the whole time he had two other children because for almost a year i was taking care of them when i was pregnant with our first child and the mother would almost never come and see them or get them and when she did she would show up after the children was asleep and drop them off before they woke up. I stopped watching them because she started harassing me and threatening my at the time 7 year old. So that why the child support case was started because she was mad.

You do realize that BOTH parents are LEGALLY and MORALLY obligated to financially support their children...Yes?

Right now he is supporting all his children. You are supporting none of yours. Please read my last post to you....Get a job.

 

[Bre262017]

You should ask the judge that question. I would advise getting a job on an opposing shift than your BF. IOW...If he works 9-5...Yuo could work 7-3. That way you could avoid child care. Triple up on the birth control as well.

i have no plans to have anymore kids im going to be taking the steps so that i cant have any more. And i have been looking in two finding a job i started looking the some week i had our 2 week old i know it sounds bad me trying to get a job right after having a baby but i have to do something right

 

[Just Blue]

i have no plans to have anymore kids im going to be taking the steps so that i cant have any more. And i have been looking in two finding a job i started looking the some week i had our 2 week old i know it sounds bad me trying to get a job right after having a baby but i have to do something right

No...It does not sound bad. What sounds bad is attempting to take the food and clothing away from his older children because you had children you can't afford.

 

[Bre262017]

You do realize that BOTH parents are LEGALLY and MORALLY obligated to financially support their children...Yes?

Right now he is supporting all his children. You are supporting none of yours. Please read my last post to you....Get a job.

Yes i read your last post and i also replied on it. And like i said before i have no problem with him supporting his other kids and no he is not supporting our two children because he dont have the money and the whole me getting a job bet i have been looking for one from the day i got out of the hospital from having our 2 week old

 

[Just Blue]

Yes i read your last post and i also replied on it. And like i said before i have no problem with him supporting his other kids and no he is not supporting our two children because he dont have the money and the whole me getting a job bet i have been looking for one from the day i got out of the hospital from having our 2 week old

Please don't take this wrong as I don't mean it in a cruel way...If your postings here reflect the way you speak in an interview that will hinder your job offers.

 

[Just Blue]

Yes i read your last post and i also replied on it. And like i said before i have no problem with him supporting his other kids and no he is not supporting our two children because he dont have the money and the whole me getting a job bet i have been looking for one from the day i got out of the hospital from having our 2 week old

BTW: If you are not working and ALL of his $$ goes to support his older children....Who is supporting your children?

 

[Bre262017]

BTW: If you are not working and ALL of his $$ goes to support his older children....Who is supporting your children?

For right now my brother helps me get the things that they cant live with out when he can. You dont understand how bad it makes me feel not being about to provide for them thats why i started looking for a job so fast after having my 2 week old

 

[Just Blue]

For right now my brother helps me get the things that they cant live with out when he can. You dont understand how bad it makes me feel not being about to provide for them thats why i started looking for a job so fast after having my 2 week old

What about housing? Heat? Electric? internet? Do you receive CS from your oldests father? If not...Why?