I need help with child support question

[Just Blue]

I didnt know about the affidavit of paternity where do you get one? I have been trying to get a divorce for four years now.

Wait!! Who are you married to? The father of your first child?

 

[Ohiogal]

I didnt know about the affidavit of paternity where do you get one? I have been trying to get a divorce for four years now.

Your husband then is the legal father of these children. That is a major problem. How have you been trying?

 

[Bre262017]

And then you say no when he wants to get his groove on.

I'm figuring that if your oldest is 9 and you had him young, then you are mid20s at best. I don't think you want another child or two until you are able to support the ones you have, right? Until he is willing to LEGALLY acknowledge the children he has with you and do what he has to to support all of his kids? You should not be giving him the option of sex with you. Sorry.

Yes im 25 and i decided when i found out i was pregnant this last time that i didnt want anymore because i know if i was by myself there would be no way i could take care of more kids and that i would be hard to take care of three. I love my kids an i want the best for them so i happy with 3 boys. And i understand what your saying

 

[Zigner]

Depending on how far along in school the OP was before dropping out, she may wish to consider a local adult-ed program for a HS diploma.

 

[Bre262017]

Wait!! Who are you married to? The father of your first child?

No he isnt the father of any of my kids. A guy that i meat when i was 18 years old and i really dont know why i married him. I have made alot of stupid decisions in life that i have learned from. This decision has been refusing to have me a divorce and we wasnt together for maybe a year.

 

[Bre262017]

Your husband then is the legal father of these children. That is a major problem. How have you been trying?

I had the divorce papers printed off and filled them out and everything but he refuses to sign i have even asked his mother and father to try to talk him in to signing them but he want.

 

[Just Blue]

No he isnt the father of any of my kids. A guy that i meat when i was 18 years old and i really dont know why i married him. I have made alot of stupid decisions in life that i have learned from. This decision has been refusing to have me a divorce and we wasnt together for maybe a year.

I have no idea what the last sentence even means. Please clarify.

The husband is the LEGAL father of your two children. When you start a new relationship when you did not finish the first ...it ends up a big mess.

 

[Ohiogal]

No he isnt the father of any of my kids. A guy that i meat when i was 18 years old and i really dont know why i married him. I have made alot of stupid decisions in life that i have learned from. This decision has been refusing to have me a divorce and we wasnt together for maybe a year.

YOu are wrong. He is the LEGAL father of the two children you had with your boyfriend since you were married to him when you gave birth to them. Your boyfriend has NO legal responsibility to support any of your children at this point and the only way you will get child support is to disestablish your husband's paternity -- you would need to serve him since he is the LEGAL father of the children presumptively. You have a mess. You need to take responsibility for all of this.

How have you been trying to obtain a divorce? Has anything ever been filed in 4 years? Any complaint for divorce?

 

[Ohiogal]

I had the divorce papers printed off and filled them out and everything but he refuses to sign i have even asked his mother and father to try to talk him in to signing them but he want.

He didn't have to sign anything. You could have filed for a contested divorce. Now it is more complicated because you have to disestablish his paternity AND establish boyfriend's during the divorce. Good grief.

 

[Bre262017]

Depending on how far along in school the OP was before dropping out, she may wish to consider a local adult-ed program for a HS diploma.

I only got to the 9 grade when i dropped out. I know i would need some class inorder to pass my ged test.

 

[Ohiogal]

I only got to the 9 grade when i dropped out. I know i would need some class inorder to pass my ged test.

Go to the website I GAVE YOU!

 

[stealth2]

I had the divorce papers printed off and filled them out and everything but he refuses to sign i have even asked his mother and father to try to talk him in to signing them but he want.

Oh, I bet he'll be tripping over himself to get it taken care of when you file against him for support of the children who are LEGALLY his. And this explains why your b/f hasn't been interested in stepping up to the plate, legally - I bet he knows he's not responsible - your husband is.

Are you anywhere near a city with a law school? Many run help clinics for those with financial issues. You need to untangle this mess.

 

[Zigner]

How did this functionally illiterate 25 year old young lady manage to print out divorce documents, complete them, and forward them to her husband for signature at the age of 19, yet she can't even use the internet to find basic information about services available to low-income parents now? My spidey senses are beginning to tingle...

 

[Bre262017]

YOu are wrong. He is the LEGAL father of the two children you had with your boyfriend since you were married to him when you gave birth to them. Your boyfriend has NO legal responsibility to support any of your children at this point and the only way you will get child support is to disestablish your husband's paternity -- you would need to serve him since he is the LEGAL father of the children presumptively. You have a mess. You need to take responsibility for all of this.

How have you been trying to obtain a divorce? Has anything ever been filed in 4 years? Any complaint for divorce?

No thing has been filed i didnt even know you had to file a complaint. I have been trying to get him to sign uncontested divorce papers because we have nothing to fight over and i dont want anything from him.

 

[Just Blue]

I only got to the 9 grade when i dropped out. I know i would need some class inorder to pass my ged test.

I dropped out in the 10th grade. I began educating myself within the year and was able to get my GED the year I would have graduated. I attended no formal classes. If you work hard at it you may be able to do something similar. Though I received my GED in '84. The requirements may be a bit different now-a-days...

God...I feel so old!!