i need to know

[irritatedbyex]

What is the name of your state? ohio
I need to know if I can send my son to live with his mother before the courtdate? The court date isn't until December 17. I have all ready had to call the cops on him because he called his mother to come and pick him up so he can live with her. I am willing to give her custody, I just don't want to be held responsible for all the things that they, meaning mother and son, will do before the courtdate. It's not that I don't love this boy, but his mother has told him that I am not his biological father so there fore he does not want anything to do with me or my family. I don't want to force him to stay here any longer just for the fact that he is taking his anger out on my other kids and they don't deserve that.

 

[krislild]

I am not an expert but i believe if your son if over the age of 13 and wants to live with his mom he may go before the court date. Whate is your custod situation. Who as physcial custody/ Joint custody


good luck

 

[VeronicaGia]

Until the court order is changed, you will still be the liable parent.

 

[irritatedbyex]

I have custody of him. From November of 2002 until October 2003 he lived with her, I never changed custody over to her. The agreement was that he would stay with her but would have to do the normal things that every kid in America has to... go to school and stay out of trouble. Within that year he has been in and out of trouble with the law. I was lied to by both mother and son, they told me he was going to school and staying out of trouble. I found out a week and half before she kicked him out that he was on probation was put in Y.D.C and put on probation. I also found out that she signed him out of school saying he was being home schooled, she told the courts and the school that I am not his biological father so there fore I was not notified by anyone of how much trouble he is actually in.She also allowed a 16 year old girl to spend the night and have sex with our son and now this girls baby is due any day and I'll have to pay for it if it is his baby. I'm clueless on what to do. Right now I am out of town on a job and my wife is going through hell at home with this boy, the last 2 days she has had to call the cops on him for destroying our house, threatening to hit her, and other things.

 

[hexeliebe]

And why isn't this "CHILD" in a youth detension facility as you type? This kid needs a swift kick in the ass and a wake-up call.

NOW. And mommy ain't going to do it. She's already proven that.

 

[irritatedbyex]

you are so right about the swift kick in the ass.. but I have been threatened by son and mother that if I lay 1 finger on him they will put me in jail for child abuse. He was in a youth detention center because his mother called the police on him for him threatening her, when the police and probation officer came to her house my son wouldn't calm down and kept screaming and cussing so the cop took him. He spent 7 days in there and then went to court and got out but was put on house arrest, within 6 days of that my wife got a phone call at 6:45 am telling her to come and pick him up he was no longer allowed to stay at her house. My wife and I cooperated with the po and now that he is off of house arrest he wants to go back to his moms house, he says it's to hard at my house for him. The only thing I ask out of each and every one of my kids is to do your best in school and stay out of trouble, my other children have no problem doing these things so why should the oldest?

 

[irritatedbyex]

And he is not in Y.D.C. now because the police say they have to see him doing these things and since he has not actually hit her they can't.

 

[jez51]

Believe it or not, parents can file assault charges on their kids.
So when he threatens, warn him that you will not hit him back, but you will call the police and file charges against him and you won't bail him out, nor will you drop the charges. Hopefully, he'll back down, if not follow through with your warning. I had a similar problem with my stepson when he first came to live with us, you have to stand your ground and be the adult, otherwise they will walk all over you.

 

[VeronicaGia]

She also allowed a 16 year old girl to spend the night and have sex with our son and now this girls baby is due any day and I'll have to pay for it if it is his baby.

**Who told you that? You will not have to pay for anything, your son will if he is the father. By the way, make sure he demands a court ordered DNA test.

I'm clueless on what to do.

**Tell him to get a job, because the family court isn't going to play with him.

Right now I am out of town on a job and my wife is going through hell at home with this boy, the last 2 days she has had to call the cops on him for destroying our house, threatening to hit her, and other things.

Keep reading; and another good website is www.deltabravo.net

 

[irritatedbyex]

I was told by my lawyer that since I still had custody of my son that I will more than likely have to pay for at least half the doctor bills and will half to support this baby because of the fact that the girls parents are on welfare and my ex-wife is on a welfare based social security disabilty and since I am the only one that has a job I will be responsible until my son is 18. I couldn't even get child support from my ex-wife for the 2 children we have because she is on this social security.

 

[hexeliebe]

O.K. then here's what you do.

Sit down with your son and inform him that you'd like him to come with you on your vacation....a boy's week away from the women. You'll go camping in Australia.

Buy the tickets, pack the gear and get on the plane.

When you arrive in Sydney get some rest because you're going to have a big day ahead of traveling.

At about 2 a.m. take the letter (later) and about $500 and place them in an envelope on your pillow, take your bags and leave. Catch the next plane home.

the letter should read:

Dear son;

Since you want to act like an adult it's time you learned the responsibility of an adult. Here is $500 to help you on your way. The door will always be open should you grow up and become a man. Or, failing that, let us know in which prison you land.

As always,

Your father.

asta la vista punk!

 

[VeronicaGia]

I was told by my lawyer that since I still had custody of my son that I will more than likely have to pay for at least half the doctor bills and will half to support this baby because of the fact that the girls parents are on welfare and my ex-wife is on a welfare based social security disabilty and since I am the only one that has a job I will be responsible until my son is 18. I couldn't even get child support from my ex-wife for the 2 children we have because she is on this social security.

You need to contact another attorney. Unless your state has some strange law, only the biological parents are responsible to support their children. If your son's girlfriend is on welfare, or uses state aid for hospital bills, you son will be the one ordered to repay the state, not you.

Call an attorney who is a family law specialist. Is the attorney you spoke to a family law specialist?

 

[hexeliebe]

Whoa Nellie.

Just how old is this brat?

 

[happynow]

hex,
I thought it was a trip to Brazil?

 

[irritatedbyex]

If it were only so easy to teach him the lesson of adulthood!

He just turned 15 last week.

Yes, my lawyer is a family law specialist. He told me that I would be held responsible because #1 I had custody of my son #2 the government wants someone to pay the bill for all these teenagers having babies and since her parents and my ex are basically on welfare and I am the only one who has a job and would be able to pay. He did say however that I could fight it in court just for the simple fact that my ex-wife was allowing it to happen and possibilly she could be held responsible.