I need to see my children, need help

[BethM]

This is what you do...you send your ex wife a certified letter, return reciept requested and you tell her, that, according to your divorce decree your children are supposed to be in therapy for 8 months and that they have not been given benefit of that court ordered therapy due to her unwillingness to follow the order. Tell her that if she does not make an appointment with a therapist and provide you with the therapist's name and appointment time you will be filing for contempt of court and she can explain to a judge why she has chosen to go against the court ordered divorce decree.

Tell her that the decree also states that you are to see your children every other weekend and holidays. Tell her you will be in her driveway every other weekend, that you will be accompanied by an officer of the law and that if she continues to refuse to allow you to see your children that you will also file contempt charges with the courts on that issue.

Send your children letters in the same way. Send them every 10 days or so and send them certified. Find a way to communicate with your childre as far as your desire to see them and that you love them and miss them.

What you have to do with someone like your wife is fight fire with fire. If she can make threats so can you. Only difference between your threats and her threats are that you have legal ground to stand on. she doesn't.

My ex husband has gone over two years without seeing his children. He likes to tell people it's because I won't allow him to. He uses me as a scapegoat for not wanting to see his children. The fool took me to court and the judge point blank asked him how many times he had pulled up into my driveway and requested time with his children in the last 2 years. His answer was none. The judge asked him how many times he had visited the therapist with his children in the last 2 years. His answer was none. The judge asked him how many letters he had sent to me requesting time with his children. The answer was none. The judge laughed at him, told him to grow up and be a man or else let go of his hatred for me and move on with his life.

The point I'm trying to make is this...if push comes to shove and you end up back in court over this situation with your children you need to be abel to prove to a judge that you tried and were denied visitaion. So, when it's your weekend be sitting in her driveway and have a witness who can back it up for you.

Show her you mean business and that it is going to take someone meaner and smarter than her to keep you away from your children.

 

[Rogelio Castro]

wow, that is what I call great advise !!!!!!

Thanks so much for the advice, that is exactly what I'll do.
I guess the agony and presure of not see my children putted a blind fold in my eyes.
I never realize all the legal tools I had in my hand.

I will do the letter tonight and stop by the post office in the morning.

Thank you so much BethM.

I'll update the results .

 

[BethM]

Yeah, fear and worry can keep us from seeing the simple answer at times. She will be angry at your demands and will respond to you in an angry way. Do me a favor...ignore her anger, tell her you have made your position clear and if she doesn't follow the decree you will see her in court.

Don't let her yank your chains or cause you unwarranted fear. You have the law on your side and you can use it. I hope you do keep us updated. I enjoy hearing from fathers who are actually willing to fight for their children and not just complain about having to pay child support. Good luck!

 

[Rogelio Castro]

follow up and update

just to let everyone know, I did as BethM sugested, wrote the letter send it to her, she call me at soon as she signed for the letter,
she called my cell and wanted to star her usual anger, all I told her was, I'm in a meeting I will call you back when I get a chance, in the mind tiime she called my sister and started complaining to her about my letter and telling all the stuff that she could do, such as take me to court for harrasment due to the letter.
she always called my familly to complain about me, my familly just listeng and don't say much, they want to keep a good relation with her due the children, fanaly this time my sister told her off.

finaly I call her the next date and told her that I was returning her phone call.
she told me don't worry you will get something in the mail and hang up.
I was worry because I figure it was going to be a court order or a lawyer letter or the worse, finaly when I got the letter all that said was the name, adress, phone number, date and time of a Theraphis that my children will go see.

I was so happy that she finaly made the apointment, I already call the theraphis and put my self to her disposition to go see her when she fells is necesary.

your sugestions gave me great results.

Thanks so much.