Jsanchz177
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What is the name of your state? California
This past November, I was legally married and changed my name last name to my husbands. But I didn’t want to. I only changed it because of the social pressure to do so and I’m very unhappy. I have yet to go to the dmv or social security office to have it changed to my married name due to not having wanted to change it in the first place. I feel like I’ve lost who I am and walked into this marriage as someone who I’m not. I recently found out that not everyone changes their name when they get married and wish I would’ve known this sooner. My husband suggests I just keep my name as is; as in, to not worry about changing it back because I’m still legally recognized by the dmv, and everywhere else as my maiden name. But I don’t believe that is legal. I tried explaining my situation at the superior court and was given a Name Change packet which I do not understand. I have horrible anxiety and can’t focus on what any of it (the packet) means. Is there a way to have my name stay the way I’ve known it all my life without having to pay to change it?
This past November, I was legally married and changed my name last name to my husbands. But I didn’t want to. I only changed it because of the social pressure to do so and I’m very unhappy. I have yet to go to the dmv or social security office to have it changed to my married name due to not having wanted to change it in the first place. I feel like I’ve lost who I am and walked into this marriage as someone who I’m not. I recently found out that not everyone changes their name when they get married and wish I would’ve known this sooner. My husband suggests I just keep my name as is; as in, to not worry about changing it back because I’m still legally recognized by the dmv, and everywhere else as my maiden name. But I don’t believe that is legal. I tried explaining my situation at the superior court and was given a Name Change packet which I do not understand. I have horrible anxiety and can’t focus on what any of it (the packet) means. Is there a way to have my name stay the way I’ve known it all my life without having to pay to change it?