Ignoring their Judgement

[Robert1988]

I am sorry

Sorry if it looked like I was playin games

 

[stealth2]

Fair enough, and I'm sorry if you felt I jumped you unfairly. Onward.

 

[casa]

To put things straight I read what my mom wrote, below was my first question then you wanted more stuff so I filled you in, I overheard my mom and my stepfather speaking about just ignoring it all and I wanted to know what would happen to her if she did, I wanted legal answers not for anyone to get the neck out of joint sorry I even asked, mom talks about this site so thought I would check it out, didn't think I would get any trouble for wanting to help my mom just goes to prove adults can be wierd.


Ignoring their Judgement

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What is the name of your state?Illinois
Need to see if anyone here knows what would happen to a person if they are just fed up with fight for what is right and simply ignores a custody order, further explanation of this is if one parent who currently has custody of a 16 year old and lives in another state, and the non-custodial parent has filed for custody in his/her home state (where divorce took place) and things are not looking goods as far as court ruling in faver of the petitioner what would happen to the 16 year and the custodial parent if they ignored the change in custody? also this youth is almost 17 and wants to remain with current parent in the state in which they live. but does not want to anger the non-custodial parent.

I know this may sound confusing but hopefully someone can help us

Robert, in all cases it's good to be upfront. Hindsight is 20/20 so you know NOW that you could have let everyone in on the fact that your mother had already asked about your situation- but you wanted to know the legal ramifications if you, or she didn't follow a court's judgement.

Has there already been a judgement? If so, maybe you can talk to your father about you not wanting to live with him. Your failure to speak out on your behalf (bc you don't want to hurt his feelings) has created a wedge between your parents- Do you see that?

If you have to live with Dad, and you are not happy about it, ask to go to counseling to work out the issues. If nothing can be resolved, at least when or if Mom fights to regain custody you'll have a professional's opinion on your side.

Now YOU wrote that you are a model citizen (except when you are in the care of your father) ...Why is that?? Are you acting out when with your Dad? If so, he may have reason to believe you are not changing your ways. If he's the one involving you in innapropriate situations- it would be in your best interest to tell the court that, so they know what's going on.

A different attorney (one fighting for MOM) is what is needed here.

 

[Robert1988]

Okay starting over

to start my mom is attorney poor and every time she thinks she has a good one my dads attorney manages to wear them down ,
I have told my dad what I want but he just says I don't know whats good for me, ( mom says same thing that I don't or haven't let him know what I want) but my dad just doesn't care what I want, he is alone (his second wife divorsed him after 5 months) and he HATES my mom cause she left him, I have tried to tell EVERYONE what I want but know one except my mom will listen, she only started this fight cause I told her I didn't want to move back to my dads, now I am tired of my mom getting hurt by my dad, his lawyer,and now this guardian guy, I have only talked to this guy two times since August of last year, and he put in his report that I only wanted to stay with my mom cause she doen't supervise me and I want to have sex with my girlfriend (2yrs now), I went to my dads in December and hung around with some people from my past and I smoked pot, when I got home I told my mom what I did and man did she get MAD!!!,, so did my probation officer I told him too,
I just got bored when I was there talked my dad into letting me spend few hours with these guys he left me there ALL day finally came picked me up at 8 I know it was stupid but thats the way it is at my dads he doesn't care where I am at as long as I live with him and he can tell everyone he WON I don't want my mom to go to jail, she can't afford another lawyer, she cries every night and I want to help but against these people what can a 16 year old do??

 

[Robert1988]

better get

My mom is going to mad as all, when she sees I have been here instead of my school work, I am private schooled and need to get to the books thank you to everyone and again I am sorry for looking like I was trying to pull something.