I'm 18 years old in TX, do I have to be released to my parents/guardian from school?

[xylene]

I agree she is a legal adult.

I agree that she *probably* does not need parental permission to leave school.

I disagree that she is entitled to live under her parents' roof accepting their support while simultaneously ignoring the rules of the house. She has the right, as a legal adult, to move out and make her own rules. She does not have the right, even as a legal adult, to make her own rules in someone else's house.

That would be a moral disagreement, not a legal one.

You have provided no insight as to the basis of your belief that the school matter would be in any way conditional.

Legally speaking parents are free to withhold support form adult children. Adult children are not bound by law or contract to obedience by accepting their parents largess.

As family psychology - an adult child and parent should have already transitioned into a reciprocal relationship with respect and boundaries. Those will vary depending on history, values and the maturity level of all involved.

I thing your case for absolute filial authority based on domicile is weak and sounds more grounded in something like sharia law than contemporary US family law and culture.

 

[TheGeekess]

That would be a moral disagreement, not a legal one.

You have provided no insight as to the basis of your belief that the school matter would be in any way conditional.

Legally speaking parents are free to withhold support form adult children. Adult children are not bound by law or contract to obedience by accepting their parents largess.

As family psychology - an adult child and parent should have already transitioned into a reciprocal relationship with respect and boundaries. Those will vary depending on history, values and the maturity level of all involved.

I thing your case for absolute filial authority based on domicile is weak and sounds more grounded in something like sharia law than contemporary US family law and culture.

Hardly. The Boyfriend and I will not sleep in the same room at my parents' house without benefit of a marriage certificate. Their house, their rules. And if you had a wider world-view, you'd find that many many families in the fly-over part of the US, especially in the Southern regions, follow this cultural norm.

 

[xylene]

Hardly. The Boyfriend and I will not sleep in the same room at my parents' house without benefit of a marriage certificate. Their house, their rules. And if you had a wider world-view, you'd find that many many families in the fly-over part of the US, especially in the Southern regions, follow this cultural norm.

Whatever you and your boyfriend choose to doesn't change the legal reality that Mom and Dad can't get this adult OP in trouble at school for not obeying the rules of their house.

Mom and dad are free to demand their adult daughter leave - and daughters 'obedience' is irrelevant. Daughter can't claim a contractual right based on obedience. If the daughter could claim that, then this argument has merit, but we all know that isn't how this works.

To your final point - I suppose these highly effective cultural norms are responsible for greatly lower rates of divorce, VD and out of wedlock birth in the so called 'fly-over parts' (your term not mine)... Oh wait that isn't true and I have facts on my side and you have an anecdote about how you choose to honor your family (and only at visiting time).

 

[cbg]

Whatever you and your boyfriend choose to doesn't change the legal reality that Mom and Dad can't get this adult OP in trouble at school for not obeying the rules of their house.

No one is saying she can. You are either misunderstanding or misrepresenting what is being stated.

What she can do at school is between she and the school. What she can do at home is between she and her parents. The fact that the school cannot stop her from doing something does not mean that mom and dad cannot. No one has said, or tried to say, that the parents can "get her in trouble at school" or, for that matter, that the school can get her in trouble at home.

But just because the school cannot say no to certain actions does not mean that mom and dad cannot. Not unless she decides to move out, pay all of her own expenses, and make all of her own rules. Which, as a legal adult, she can do.

 

[xylene]

What she can do at school is between she and the school. What she can do at home is between she and her parents. The fact that the school cannot stop her from doing something does not mean that mom and dad cannot. No one has said, or tried to say, that the parents can "get her in trouble at school" or, for that matter, that the school can get her in trouble at home.

I wanted to be clear about that point because those issues - could mom dad or school stop her, punish her or otherwise get her in trouble legally or academically were her actual questions.

But just because the school cannot say no to certain actions does not mean that mom and dad cannot. Not unless she decides to move out, pay all of her own expenses, and make all of her own rules. Which, as a legal adult, she can do.

That is your personal moral philosophy - not the law. She is a legal adult - no matter where she live or who supports her. Mom and Dad has no dominion to control their adult childrens' lives or stop them from engaging in legal behavior no matter where they live. If they disagree with the daughter's conduct they are welcome to discontinue supporting her and to evict her (and by following the legal requirements, not summarily..)

The parents are free to do any or all of that even if the daughter was obedient.

You seem to be making a case for some sort of "anti-biting-the-hand-that-feeds-law" and I am quite certain that isn't on the books. The parents can do what they want and so can the daughter. She doesn't have to 'move out' to disobey. The parents have to enforce their will if choose to.

 

[cbg]

You are STILL missing the point. I am not making any legal or moral judgements - I am telling the poster that whatever the school can do, Mom and Dad still get to make the rules in their own house and they have the legal right to do so. The fact that she may be able to override the school does not mean that she gets to override Mom and Dad. I am not trying to tell her what WILL happen; just what CAN happen. Mom and Dad CAN say no. They CAN make it stick - their house, their rules. They CAN kick her out if she disobeys. They CAN put limits on her. She CAN move out if she doesn't want to follow their rules.

Or, they CAN let her do anything she wants and keep paying all her expenses while not requiring that she do a thing but breathe.

What WILL happen is up to them - all three of them.

 

[Humusluvr]

You are STILL missing the point. I am not making any legal or moral judgements - I am telling the poster that whatever the school can do, Mom and Dad still get to make the rules in their own house and they have the legal right to do so. The fact that she may be able to override the school does not mean that she gets to override Mom and Dad. I am not trying to tell her what WILL happen; just what CAN happen. Mom and Dad CAN say no. They CAN make it stick - their house, their rules. They CAN kick her out if she disobeys. They CAN put limits on her. She CAN move out if she doesn't want to follow their rules.

Or, they CAN let her do anything she wants and keep paying all her expenses while not requiring that she do a thing but breathe.

What WILL happen is up to them - all three of them.

So, you're answering the question that she didn't ask. Or a question you FEEL she should ask, but that she didn't write here. I'm sorry, but it's not everyone else who is missing the point.

 

[cbg]

There's never been a rule here about answering questions that haven't been asked but that are relevant to the situation. Feel free to report me if you feel that strongly about it.

 

[Humusluvr]

There's never been a rule here about answering questions that haven't been asked but that are relevant to the situation. Feel free to report me if you feel that strongly about it.

I don't feel the need to report you - but I also think you keep answering a question that wasn't asked, nor is relevant. She said she doesn't have any problems with her family.

TinaGZLZ Thank you, Humusluvr

I really appreciate your input, that's exactly what I was asking for, I was just afraid I could get someone other than myself into trouble.

And for others...no haha I'm not being evicted, nor am a deadbeat daughter, I tutor through the school, and supplement my parent's earnings with what I get from that.

Her question was about EdLaw, and you seem to be answering a family counseling question that isn't there. Go back and read the thread.

 

[TinaGZLZ]

You have provided no insight as to the basis of your belief that the school matter would be in any way conditional.

Legally speaking parents are free to withhold support form adult children. Adult children are not bound by law or contract to obedience by accepting their parents largess.

thank you! agreed.

And if you had a wider world-view, you'd find that many many families in the fly-over part of the US, especially in the Southern regions, follow this cultural norm.

with all due respect, you cannot use generalizations regarding this topic, it is impossible to say that every household in Texas functions in this manner, anyone can tell you that, and as far as cultural norms go, it was my understanding that it is the cultural norm to follow the law and operate within one's own legal rights.

She is a legal adult - no matter where she live or who supports her. Mom and Dad has no dominion to control their adult childrens' lives or stop them from engaging in legal behavior no matter where they live. If they disagree with the daughter's conduct they are welcome to discontinue supporting her and to evict her (and by following the legal requirements, not summarily..)

The parents are free to do any or all of that even if the daughter was obedient.

You seem to be making a case for some sort of "anti-biting-the-hand-that-feeds-law" and I am quite certain that isn't on the books. The parents can do what they want and so can the daughter. She doesn't have to 'move out' to disobey. The parents have to enforce their will if choose to.

agreed.

You are STILL missing the point. I am not making any legal or moral judgements - I am telling the poster that whatever the school can do, Mom and Dad still get to make the rules in their own house and they have the legal right to do so. The fact that she may be able to override the school does not mean that she gets to override Mom and Dad. I am not trying to tell her what WILL happen; just what CAN happen. Mom and Dad CAN say no. They CAN make it stick - their house, their rules. They CAN kick her out if she disobeys. They CAN put limits on her. She CAN move out if she doesn't want to follow their rules.

All CANs were executed

 

[TinaGZLZ]

Here is the turnout,

I was not barred from leaving, the school had no dominion over my whereabouts after school (only during school). I simply took off after school was out and returned after the weekend. Since I am no longer staying with my parents, the only action the school took was changing my contact information. I faced no disciplinary action from the district or the law, my personal situation is not anyone's concern but mine, it is a moral conflict and is completely irrelevant regarding legalities.

Thank you all for your input!