Joint custody of 15yo daughter who wants to be with us

[ecmst12]

Since when is it not ok for a 15 year old to be a boy-obsessed adolescent? That is a NORMAL part of development!

 

[goddessoflubboc]

Thank you JPreston for answering my question.

The question was whether the judge would listen to our 15 yo daughters wishes.

Which is the question I answered. You may not like the answer, but there it is. The judge is going to want to know why she is choosing homeschooling.

Getting on the bus at 6:30 in the morning is not reasonable.

You need to get out more. Lots of kids get on the bus in the wee hours of the morning. Because of changing demographics, more and more children have longer rides.

You said:

She wants to homeschool...

But really:

The #2 reason for homeschooling is that we DO NOT want our daughter socialized in same age peer groups. Despite the common perception that this is necessary and good, our experience, as well as research, indicates that it is detrimental. Our children have real-life socialization with children and adults of all ages and backgrounds.

WE? OUR? I thought Dad wanted her in private school? Yeah, I know who "we" are.

My dd prefers to spend time with wise and realistic adults than boy-obsessed adolescent girls.

And how, at her tender age, is she expected to differentiate "wise and realistic adults" from run of the mill idiots (who, in my experience, are the majority)?

Spending time with kids her own age is how she learns and grows, in an environment of peers (peers aren't all bad you know). It is actually a very important step in development.

 

[CJane]

My dd prefers to spend time with wise and realistic adults than boy-obsessed adolescent girls.

Which of course, means YOU as opposed to all of the adults kids in public school spend their days hanging out with and being taught by.

You will get tossed out of court on your rear with this one. Fo' Sho'.

 

[ecmst12]

Hopefully you haven't already given her an irreversible complex making her feel guilty or inadequate for thinking about the things girls her age are SUPPOSED to be worrying about.

 

[CJane]

Hopefully you haven't already given her an irreversible complex making her feel guilty or inadequate for thinking about the things girls her age are SUPPOSED to be worrying about.

Just a guess, I'm wondering if Princess is seriously lacking in social skills and her "disdain" for other children her age and preference for adult company is an effort to cover for that. I knew kids in high school that were supposedly "too advanced" for normal teenage behavior. They sure weren't known for their social skills.