California is the state this takes place in.
Got a dillemma here.
My ex-girlfriend and I have not spoken since October. She just called me, saying she wants to come up on Saturday and get her things (I have a shirt or two of hers here)
The big thing, she said, is she needs her computer back to give it to her grandmother.
When we were going out, I had a POS computer in my room. Her family had one lying around, and she gave it to me, and her father said it was okay. It ended up being a P4 2.5 gigahertz (FAR better than my old machine). It was a gift, as far as I knew.
Now, she says she wants it back. I told her that it was a gift, a no strings attatched thing.
Her: "No, my father allowed you to have it as long as you stayed friends with me."
Me: "Neither one of you told me that. Why didn't your father tell me this directly or why didn't you tell me that when you gave it to me?"
Her: "He told me that, and I understood it. I'll be up on Saturday."
The conversation ended there. I'm in a bind now because I don't know what my options are. I KNOW that I was never informed of some sort of "deal" between her and her father.
I do everything on that computer - I program, I have all my school stuff on it, I write, ect.
Due to the circumstances, should I just treat it as a "immature whore trying to get back what she gave me after we broke up" or should I actually be concerned of legal action since it's her father that apparently wants the computer back?
I didn't give her an answer but I want to know where I stand before I give it back (not before formatting it first) or take a stand and say that it was a gift from her, it's mine, and I refuse to give it back.
I'm trying to get advice on this. She's claiming she had an agreement with her father, but wether or not she did shouldn't matter, should it? I was never informed of such an arrangement.
If it comes down to my word against theirs in small claims court, I need some advice on convincing the judge that it's a case of a "jaded lover." I think the fact that it's been 4 months since last contact would help my case there.
I just want to know if I have a shot, should I refuse to give it back and they decide to take me to small claims court to get it back. If it's a 50% chance, I'll go for it and decide to not give it back without a court order.
Thanks in advance for the advice. I don't act swiftly, but I do act decisively and I just want to get as much advice as I can before I make a decision to fight for it or just format it and give it back.
~Kusanagi
Got a dillemma here.
My ex-girlfriend and I have not spoken since October. She just called me, saying she wants to come up on Saturday and get her things (I have a shirt or two of hers here)
The big thing, she said, is she needs her computer back to give it to her grandmother.
When we were going out, I had a POS computer in my room. Her family had one lying around, and she gave it to me, and her father said it was okay. It ended up being a P4 2.5 gigahertz (FAR better than my old machine). It was a gift, as far as I knew.
Now, she says she wants it back. I told her that it was a gift, a no strings attatched thing.
Her: "No, my father allowed you to have it as long as you stayed friends with me."
Me: "Neither one of you told me that. Why didn't your father tell me this directly or why didn't you tell me that when you gave it to me?"
Her: "He told me that, and I understood it. I'll be up on Saturday."
The conversation ended there. I'm in a bind now because I don't know what my options are. I KNOW that I was never informed of some sort of "deal" between her and her father.
I do everything on that computer - I program, I have all my school stuff on it, I write, ect.
Due to the circumstances, should I just treat it as a "immature whore trying to get back what she gave me after we broke up" or should I actually be concerned of legal action since it's her father that apparently wants the computer back?
I didn't give her an answer but I want to know where I stand before I give it back (not before formatting it first) or take a stand and say that it was a gift from her, it's mine, and I refuse to give it back.
I'm trying to get advice on this. She's claiming she had an agreement with her father, but wether or not she did shouldn't matter, should it? I was never informed of such an arrangement.
If it comes down to my word against theirs in small claims court, I need some advice on convincing the judge that it's a case of a "jaded lover." I think the fact that it's been 4 months since last contact would help my case there.
I just want to know if I have a shot, should I refuse to give it back and they decide to take me to small claims court to get it back. If it's a 50% chance, I'll go for it and decide to not give it back without a court order.
Thanks in advance for the advice. I don't act swiftly, but I do act decisively and I just want to get as much advice as I can before I make a decision to fight for it or just format it and give it back.
~Kusanagi