kicked out of band

[quincy]

struckmom -

The advice provided you by baystategirl and CdwJava was legitimate advice, given the information provided in your post. If your concerns had been based largely on facts not revealed, important facts not revealed, they would be impossible to address by anyone on this forum.

I was merely struck by the "staring" comment and the waiting to be told what to do - which seemed unusual behavior to me for a 16 year old. Most 16 year olds are capable of handling themselves in a situation such as the one you described, and adult supervision would not neccessarily be a necessity.

A problem worthy of a lawsuit, or even complaints to the school board, would only occur if your son had special needs that were not met, or if he were left behind by the bus at an away-game, or something along those lines, which, again, would have been an important facts to reveal had these occurred.

The advice given you, based on the facts provided in your original posting, was good and proper.

 

[HomeGuru]

What is the name of your state? TN

Can I take legal action against a band director who told my son he couldn't march during a football game and then left him ouside the gates without adult supervision?

**A: yes he can. Did your son refuse to play Iron Man by Black Sabbath?

 

[galbrecht]

Former band director here. You obviously feel strongly that the director acted improperly, and no one in the school system seems to be acknowledging that there's a problem. Based on the limited information in your posts, it's difficult for us to assess everything that may be going on here. First, keep in mind that, in a performance situation such as the one you describe, a director must take quick action to resolve problems that arise... the actions taken by the director may have been necessary to avoid spoiling the performance for the rest of the students. On the other hand, there are some band directors out there that tend to run their bands like military boot camps, and will use embarassment as a technique to keep everyone in line. If that's the case here, try to connect with other parents who also feel their sons or daughters have been treated unfairly. Then visit the local school board meeting as a group. The school district will be more likely to take corrective action against an overly-agressive teacher if it appears there's a pattern of bad behavior. Good luck!

 

[JustAPal00]

How long did he stand there? Did the band come back?

 

[Ohiogal]

Was it a home or away game?

 

[Silverplum]

Was it a home or away game?

And doesn't he have 50 cents in his pocket to call Mama if something goes wrong, even at age 16? (or whatever.)