What is the name of your state? North Carolina
I have been going through this for the past few summers and it is getting quite old ! I have full custody of 2 children. Their mother lives in Buffalo, NY. Throughout the year she can visit the children whenever she wants **************although those visits have become less every year.
The problem comes in the summer time with her having them most of the summer. It's like she is on a power trip ! She uses the children, lies to the children, etc. As soon as she picks them up for her summer visitation it starts. She talks negatively about my wife (who by the way has been helping me raise them for the past 4 years). myself, my step-children, our home, the way we live, etc. I have asked her time and time again to stop because she is hurting the kids by confusing them, etc. It's like she is always trying to find something wrong with their lives**************...and they live a pretty good life !!! We have been having to put them in counseling everytime they come back from their summer with mom. The counselor has even shared with us that she is basically using her time with them to turn them against us **************.maybe she thinks they will like her more ?????? I don't know. Maybe she is jealous of my wife because the kids love her so much **************.I don't know. She is the one who moved 700 miles away to be with her boyfriend. I could go on about the things that have been going on just in the past 4 days concerning father's day (more lies) and some telephone calls that she has made to my wife. She is on a power trip and she puts the kids right in the middle of it !!!!!
1) Is there anything (legally) that can be done about this or do we just continue taking them to counseling when they return ??
2) And , do the children HAVE to stay the entire length of their visitation if they don't want to ? (7 weeks). They didn't want to go in the first place but I explained to them how they need to visit mom ......etc. They asked if they could visit for just a couple weeks then come home. I didn't know what to tell them because I wasn't sure. My son (who is 10) asked if he could call in about 3 weeks and say he wanted to come home. **************....
How would this work ??
3) I am editing / adding this questions because I just tried to call my ex-wife's home to speak to the children (in Buffalo). I find out that telephone number has been disconnected. I had sent her a copy of the kids final report card for the year (signature required) and it was returned to us yesterday . I didn't think much about it but now I'm wondering what's going on ??????? I do have a cell phone number which is how I reached the kids yesterday.
She didn't tell me she moved or had her telephone turned off. What do I need to do ?????????
Thanks for your help......I'm at my wits end. Just as I think their mother is going to be mature and the kids are going to have a good summer without any brainwashing then.It happens again !
I have been going through this for the past few summers and it is getting quite old ! I have full custody of 2 children. Their mother lives in Buffalo, NY. Throughout the year she can visit the children whenever she wants **************although those visits have become less every year.
The problem comes in the summer time with her having them most of the summer. It's like she is on a power trip ! She uses the children, lies to the children, etc. As soon as she picks them up for her summer visitation it starts. She talks negatively about my wife (who by the way has been helping me raise them for the past 4 years). myself, my step-children, our home, the way we live, etc. I have asked her time and time again to stop because she is hurting the kids by confusing them, etc. It's like she is always trying to find something wrong with their lives**************...and they live a pretty good life !!! We have been having to put them in counseling everytime they come back from their summer with mom. The counselor has even shared with us that she is basically using her time with them to turn them against us **************.maybe she thinks they will like her more ?????? I don't know. Maybe she is jealous of my wife because the kids love her so much **************.I don't know. She is the one who moved 700 miles away to be with her boyfriend. I could go on about the things that have been going on just in the past 4 days concerning father's day (more lies) and some telephone calls that she has made to my wife. She is on a power trip and she puts the kids right in the middle of it !!!!!
1) Is there anything (legally) that can be done about this or do we just continue taking them to counseling when they return ??
2) And , do the children HAVE to stay the entire length of their visitation if they don't want to ? (7 weeks). They didn't want to go in the first place but I explained to them how they need to visit mom ......etc. They asked if they could visit for just a couple weeks then come home. I didn't know what to tell them because I wasn't sure. My son (who is 10) asked if he could call in about 3 weeks and say he wanted to come home. **************....
How would this work ??
3) I am editing / adding this questions because I just tried to call my ex-wife's home to speak to the children (in Buffalo). I find out that telephone number has been disconnected. I had sent her a copy of the kids final report card for the year (signature required) and it was returned to us yesterday . I didn't think much about it but now I'm wondering what's going on ??????? I do have a cell phone number which is how I reached the kids yesterday.
She didn't tell me she moved or had her telephone turned off. What do I need to do ?????????
Thanks for your help......I'm at my wits end. Just as I think their mother is going to be mature and the kids are going to have a good summer without any brainwashing then.It happens again !
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