Long distance visitation?

[mehr]

What is the name of your state? Illinois

Child's father lives in Minnesota. What is the typical visitation for long distance? It would be impossible money-wise to do every other weekend. Also, do we split the cost of travelling, or does one parent or the other pay?

 

[stealth2]

One w/e a month, alternating school breaks and holidays, and a large chunk of time in the summer (6+ weeks). Transportation may be split, or the person who created the distance may be required to provide it all.

 

[LdiJ]

One w/e a month, alternating school breaks and holidays, and a large chunk of time in the summer (6+ weeks). Transportation may be split, or the person who created the distance may be required to provide it all.

I agree...however MN to IL could be further than would be feasible for the one w/e a month....depending on where each parent is located within those two states....they are large ones.

They could be as little as 300 miles apart, or as much as 1100 miles apart.

 

[nextwife]

Depending upon where (Chicagoland to Minneapolis) does have commuter flights, non-stop.

 

[mehr]

I do not live near too Chicago, we live down state. We are 9 hours from Minneapolis and 3 hours from Chicago. Also, the child is not in school, he is only 14 months. Is it the same arrangement?

 

[stealth2]

I do not live near too Chicago, we live down state. We are 9 hours from Minneapolis and 3 hours from Chicago. Also, the child is not in school, he is only 14 months. Is it the same arrangement?

Let's start with who moved. I'm not about to go back and search for that info.

 

[mehr]

I moved when I was 5-6 months pregnant. I don't know if the time period matters.

 

[stealth2]

Okay. What does Dad want in terms of visitation? 'Cause I'm sure you understand that, by being the one who moved, you may be required to cover the entire cost of transportation.

 

[mehr]

Right now, he wants to see him once every few months. He says when he gets older, he may want to see him more often. Does it really make a difference that I moved when at the time he said he wasn't ready to be a father and had no interest?

 

[stealth2]

Of course it does. You created the issue of making it more difficult for them to have a relationship. How would YOU like to pay extra if he'd moved further away?

 

[mehr]

I see. Well, I DID pay extra, I paid for the hospital that cost me 3000 dollars and had to give up my job because I was unable to work. So yeah... not feeling sorry for him.... is there a law that says that it is my fault? Because the way I see it, my move was his fault

 

[stealth2]

Were you in a LEGALLY commited relationship (i.e. - were y'all married?). If not, he had no financial obligation to you whatsoever. And yes, your move was your choice. And if it made a relationship between parent & child more difficult, you should be held responsible for forging that bond.

 

[mehr]

Whether or not you feel I *should*, is there a law or a sub-law or something that says it?

No we were not married.

 

[stealth2]

It's up to the judge.

 

[mehr]

Okay fair enough