Marital Settlement Agreement

[Ohiogal]

Ugh, some people actually think that it hasn't occurred to these posters to hire an attorney. I don't know about them, but to me it's a moot point to even MENTION that there are a zillion factors potentially precluding someone from retaining an attorney. Just unbelievable how obstinate people can be. "Hire an attorney" as a response to someone who has the gumption to look for help on their own, which in many cases shows ambition... makes my head spin.

Anyway, I'm in Texas and the states are different, but we agreed on everything in my prior divorce and no paperwork was involved other than the decree itself stating, toward the end, that property stuff was all in agreement. I'm twice married and MAY be looking at divorce now, not sure... but there would be property issues therefore my attorney provided me with all the paperwork I have to do - only because we do have to split stuff.

Then you missed the point where she doesn't have the slightest idea of even reading the local rules or educating herself on what needs to be included in a separation agreement. You are in a different state. Some states require a lot of statutory language before a court will accept a decree. She doesn't know that. She has no clue and she doesn't want to find out for herself. If she can't be bothered to read the local rules for her court, she can't afford to NOT hire an attorney to prepare the agreement properly. It may cost a couple hundred dollars to have the PROPER paperwork prepared HOWEVER it would definitely save her issues in the long run. I see no gumption by this poster. I see no willingness to educate herself. I see her wanting someone to give her the answers and whining about it because we aren't giving her the answers she desires.

 

[Ginevra]

I get that attorneys and judges are not into people going pro se. In fact, they get quite rude about it. It's almost as if they lack empathy or don't understand that on top of heartbreak, dropping nonexistent money on a lawyer might not be doable.
However, my post still holds more water than the two following it. I clearly warned that the rules are different from state to state already, Ohio. However, I gave her my experience in Texas anyway, as it might be considered helpful to actually attempt to respond to someone's question. And Plum, being new to this forum doesn't make me new to the divorce (or replying to threads) experience, does it?

 

[Ohiogal]

I get that attorneys and judges are not into people going pro se. In fact, they get quite rude about it. It's almost as if they lack empathy or don't understand that on top of heartbreak, dropping nonexistent money on a lawyer might not be doable.
However, my post still holds more water than the two following it. I clearly warned that the rules are different from state to state already, Ohio. However, I gave her my experience in Texas anyway, as it might be considered helpful to actually attempt to respond to someone's question. And Plum, being new to this forum doesn't make me new to the divorce (or replying to threads) experience, does it?

It shows that you know nothing about the laws. Nothing at all. This is not about people going pro se. It is about this POSTER going pro se. Your experience in Texas matters not because OP is not in Texas. She needs to follow the local rules. She doesn't seem to know squat about them. If she did she would not be asking the question she asked. Plain and simple.

 

[Silverplum]

I'm not an attorney.

There went your little theory.

I get that attorneys and judges are not into people going pro se. In fact, they get quite rude about it. It's almost as if they lack empathy or don't understand that on top of heartbreak, dropping nonexistent money on a lawyer might not be doable.
However, my post still holds more water than the two following it. I clearly warned that the rules are different from state to state already, Ohio. However, I gave her my experience in Texas anyway, as it might be considered helpful to actually attempt to respond to someone's question. And Plum, being new to this forum doesn't make me new to the divorce (or replying to threads) experience, does it?

Here on FA, we reply with state-specific legal info. We do not blather about other states in someone else's thread.

We know what is valid and what is not.

Again, good day.

 

[Ginevra]

We all know that things vary between states but it doesn't take an Einstein to understand that it could help for someone to chime in with any experiences whatsoever, as opposed to insisting the poster hire an attorney.