What is the name of your state? WI
Well, today my daughters mother decided to commence on the path of musical daddies. She has rushed into a new relationship and is already involving my daughter. I explained why that is not good for my daughter, and after many attempts to make her understand I tried to resort to just telling her that because of the court order I have more power and I will use it to keep my daughter from harm, which basically means that I will strictly follow the court order and she will only see our daughter at the times in the stip (I did explain to her that I meant exactly that). She then started acting as if it didn't matter because she knew some way around all this, and acted as if she had some way to change the order so I would lose my daughter. I'm pretty sure she was just trying to play mind games and get me worrying, but I figured just to be on the safe side I'd ask more annoying questions.
So, here's the main parts of the order: (has been signed by both me and the mother, my attorney, and the judge)
It is stipulated between the parties that:
1. Both parents shall share joint custody of their child
2. The child shall be primarily physically placed with her father.
3. The mother shall have alternate periods of placement defined as each weekend starting at 5:30 pm on Fridays to Sunday at 8:00 pm
(there is then a bunch of info on how we will split holidays, etc)
6. Transportation will be shared equally as it is anticipated that the mother is moving to Tomahawk, WI and the father may move for school to another city in WI such as, but not limited to, Madison.
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So, I know I have been told that there would need to be a significant change in circumstance, but I now remember my attorney saying that every two years the court reviews these orders. I'm afraid that when that happens she will be able to pull some crap and have it changed, or does the "significant change" rule still apply even tho its being reviewed?
Also, would it be correct of me to assume that after 2 years of this situation I would have an advantage in any kind of review since courts don't usually like to change an order that is working for the child? Because, by 2 years from now me and my daughter will be living in Madison, and she will be attending school there.
Finally, since it is specifically stated in the order that I will be moving, am I correct in assuming that she can't use that as a significant change to try and change the order?
Sorry for always asking so many questions, just wanna make sure I am prepared for whatever happens in the future. Please let me know if you see anything that would warrant getting an attorney immediately, I want to avoid that now because I can't exactly afford one. But, I honestly believe that if the mother gets her way not only will that ruin my future but it will also ruin the future of my daughter since she has chosen the life of unemployment in a very small city with very few opportunities, and I want better than that for my daughter.
Btw, Zephyr, this is how bright the mother of my daughter is (you should understand, given that I'm pretty sure you know the area's I'm talking about):
When we were writing up the agreement and I told her I wanted it in there that I was going to move to Madison or another area in WI for school, she asked, "What if you decide to move somewhere farther away from Tomahawk than Madison?"
"Like where?"
"Minocqua"
Minocqua? LOL, she apparently is more worried that I would move to a place with no university 20-30 miles away from her than to Madison, almost 200 miles away.
I just find that funny.
Well, today my daughters mother decided to commence on the path of musical daddies. She has rushed into a new relationship and is already involving my daughter. I explained why that is not good for my daughter, and after many attempts to make her understand I tried to resort to just telling her that because of the court order I have more power and I will use it to keep my daughter from harm, which basically means that I will strictly follow the court order and she will only see our daughter at the times in the stip (I did explain to her that I meant exactly that). She then started acting as if it didn't matter because she knew some way around all this, and acted as if she had some way to change the order so I would lose my daughter. I'm pretty sure she was just trying to play mind games and get me worrying, but I figured just to be on the safe side I'd ask more annoying questions.
So, here's the main parts of the order: (has been signed by both me and the mother, my attorney, and the judge)
It is stipulated between the parties that:
1. Both parents shall share joint custody of their child
2. The child shall be primarily physically placed with her father.
3. The mother shall have alternate periods of placement defined as each weekend starting at 5:30 pm on Fridays to Sunday at 8:00 pm
(there is then a bunch of info on how we will split holidays, etc)
6. Transportation will be shared equally as it is anticipated that the mother is moving to Tomahawk, WI and the father may move for school to another city in WI such as, but not limited to, Madison.
__________________________________
So, I know I have been told that there would need to be a significant change in circumstance, but I now remember my attorney saying that every two years the court reviews these orders. I'm afraid that when that happens she will be able to pull some crap and have it changed, or does the "significant change" rule still apply even tho its being reviewed?
Also, would it be correct of me to assume that after 2 years of this situation I would have an advantage in any kind of review since courts don't usually like to change an order that is working for the child? Because, by 2 years from now me and my daughter will be living in Madison, and she will be attending school there.
Finally, since it is specifically stated in the order that I will be moving, am I correct in assuming that she can't use that as a significant change to try and change the order?
Sorry for always asking so many questions, just wanna make sure I am prepared for whatever happens in the future. Please let me know if you see anything that would warrant getting an attorney immediately, I want to avoid that now because I can't exactly afford one. But, I honestly believe that if the mother gets her way not only will that ruin my future but it will also ruin the future of my daughter since she has chosen the life of unemployment in a very small city with very few opportunities, and I want better than that for my daughter.
Btw, Zephyr, this is how bright the mother of my daughter is (you should understand, given that I'm pretty sure you know the area's I'm talking about):
When we were writing up the agreement and I told her I wanted it in there that I was going to move to Madison or another area in WI for school, she asked, "What if you decide to move somewhere farther away from Tomahawk than Madison?"
"Like where?"
"Minocqua"
Minocqua? LOL, she apparently is more worried that I would move to a place with no university 20-30 miles away from her than to Madison, almost 200 miles away.
I just find that funny.