Me again! Update!

[Rochelle]

What is the name of your state?MS

My husband saw his attorney yesterday. In case you don't remember, he was having trouble with his ex and her new hubby. His daughter has told him, since I last posted, that her stepfather told her that he "owns" her and she has to do whatever he tells her to do. That, among other things. Well, his attorney has 4 pages of charges and stuff and she is supposed to be served on Friday.

 

[BL]

Me Again Update

Find your other post, reply to it. It will bring it to the top of the page. ( If it hasn't been closed ). Then delete this one thanks !!

 

[tigger22472]

Find your other post, reply to it. It will bring it to the top of the page. ( If it hasn't been closed ). Then delete this one thanks !!

Although generally I'd confer to start a new thread but that thread I believe is like 5 pages long already..LOL

Good job Rochelle. Keep us updated.

 

[Rochelle]

Thanks Tig. My other thread is in thread heaven so I had to start a new one and hope you'd remember me.

 

[Rochelle]

Urgent!

Ok, I have another question. My stepdaughter goes home on sunday. She has been begging us not to send her home, and keeps asking if she can talk to our attorney or the judge. She was adamant, that my husband took her to see a counselor yesterday because he was worried about her. She told the counselor that her mother has started slapping her in the face when she's mad at her and that last week when she was with them that her mother let her stepfather spank her with a shoe. My husband has been trying to reach his attorney ever since we heard that, but he's been in conference or taking a deposition. He wants to know if this is enough to get an emergency hearing and not have to wait until October when the actual hearing date is scheduled. He's worried that now that the mother and stepfather have moved 3 hours away (they moved while she's been with us) that once he takes her home on sunday, he'll not be able to help her if something else happens.

 

[stealth2]

Has he taught her to dial 911?

 

[Rochelle]

She said they won't let her use the phone. She said whenever she has said she wanted to call Daddy, that they'd give her some chore or something to do first, and then when she'd get done they'd say it was "too late" to call him and she could try tomorrow.

The counselor said that he would testify on her behalf at a hearing. He said that while she is only 10 she has the maturity level of a 13 year old due to being exposed to too much adult stuff in her mother's care. She told him that her mother lies all the time about Daddy and that when my husband calls to talk to her, that either her stepfather or her mother will listen on the extension. She said if her mother does the listening, when they hang up her mother will tell her stepfather a bunch of lies about what Daddy said.

 

[nextwife]

Have you considered providing her a limited use cel phone preprogrammed to ONLY work calling you or 911? She could squirrel that away for emergancies.

 

[Rochelle]

No, but that's a good idea. We talked last night about a code word she could use when she does get to talk to him. For example, if her stepfather has punished her again by spanking her with a shoe or something, she could say "teddybear Daddy". And if it's another kind of touching that is really making her scared, she could say "Bad Teddybear" and that would be his que to call 911 for her. But if he called 911 for her and the officers went out there, her mother or stepfather would probably just send them away and tell them everything is ok. Keep in mind, they'll be 3 hours away. By the time my husband could get there, he'd just get in trouble for trespassing and not be able to help his daughter.

 

[Rochelle]

Well, I need to ask another question. My husband's ex called him last night and now wants to "work things out". She said she can't afford for this to go to court and said if he'd "talk sensibly" they should be able to work things out for the best interest of the child. He asked her why all of a sudden she wanted to work things out when he'd sent her letters and tried to do that very thing months ago, and her response was "I don't care what a court says".

Just to refresh your memory, his ex and her new husband moved 3 hours away, made the daughter return everything that she had that had come from us, including her Christmas gifts, wouldn't give her the cards her dad was sending her, listens in on phone conversations, the new husband threatened to physically assault my husband on more than one occassion and made obscene gestures towards us at the child's softball game.

We've paid the attorney a substantial fee. My husband is wondering if he should ask his attorney to see if things can be worked out before the October court date or let it go to court. What's your opinion?

 

[BL]

Go to Court . You've paid for it. It's in your/your child's best interest .

If she can't afford A lawyer, one will be appointed.

I wouldn't trust this offer to work out as far as I could throw a 1 ton truck .

 

[tigger22472]

Take it to court. As was told for one you've already paid for it and for two you have prepared for it. My DH's ex just recently pulled that with him. He went to her house with a modification that I drew up to discuss it with her. It was written up for court having the cause number at the top and using the legal terms that woudl be used. They discussed things, came to some agreements and then I was going to retype it up and DH was going to file it. Later that night his ex called upset saying she didn't realize he planned to file it in court. We've always pretty much gotten along with her. Her exact words to DH were "What? You don't trust me? You think I'll go back on my word?" DH told her he agreed not to file it as long as she kept her end of the bargin. Two days later she went back on her word on one of the big issues DH wanted. We're in the process now of being patient before filing anything but it's different then it was. We're also having to face possible PAS too now that this has come about and we aren't speaking to her but court or no court I think that would of happened. Don't trust her... get it all in writing and signed by a judge.

 

[Rochelle]

I feel the same way, and I think he'd be crazy to trust her. I mean, she's already in contempt of court, so why believe she's going to behave now?

 

[lonelyandsad]

stepdad,BACK OFF SHE'S NOT YOUR DAUGHTER!

ny-the stepfather should not be spanking her at all-ITS NOT HIS PLACE TO DISIPLINE HER,HE'S NOT HER FATHER.especially spanking her with a shoe,thats battery to a child.your husband needs to tell stepdad if he spanks her again,he'll call the cops on him!

 

[Rochelle]

Last night his daughter called, crying so hard she could barely talk. She said she "was a liar" and when my husband asked about what she said "everything". He asked her if her mom and stepfather were making her tell him that and she said "yes" and he asked if she had been lying to him about everything and she said "no". Her mom got on the phone and said that part of her punishment was to call her father and say she was a liar. That lying was a "huge thing" at their house. My stepdaughter got back on the phone and said they had "forced her to say she lied" and that they had told her they'd go to jail, lose the new house, never see her or her baby brother again etc., if she didn't say she was lying and it went to court.