Just wanted to give some perspective; I am a research biologist at a hospital, and I also spent several years as a licensed medical assistant. This is a tricky question, but I think shedding some light on certain aspects of this situation may ease some tension.
Many people are unaware of the actual reason we now suggest prescribing antibiotics less frequently. With frequent use, it is not the child’s immune system or tolerance level that will change. Rather, the bugs themselves which cause infections will, in time, mutate to become more antibiotic resistant. In theory, this will cause there to be more infectious bugs “out there” which can’t be treated as well with modern day medicine… overall, a negative consequence. But just because a super-bug exists doesn’t mean that a child with recurrent infections and antibiotic use will automatically start contracting the stronger strains—for the most part, everyone in a community is equally vulnerable, give or take a few factors. Therefore, limiting antibiotic use is more of a public service for future children than a personal safety issue for the currently infected child.
In certain situations, it is common practice, not negligence, for an on-call medical professional (not necessarily a child’s regular doctor) to call in medications without an examination. We consider this to be appropriate if the medical practitioner can attest to the fact that the caregiver has correctly identified signs of infection in the past, and verbally attests to the fact that the child has a history of either infections that require antibiotics to resolve in a reasonable time frame, or if the child is experiencing a great deal of discomfort. It is up to the discretion of the prescriber as to whether or not they will give preventative scripts to other family members. This tends to be based on previous history provided by the caregiver on whether illness tends to stay contained or spread throughout a family. If the prescriber has witnessed the RN stepmother regularly being a person of good character, then they may be helping the family save money on co-pays, lost wages, or other reasons that families list as reasons to avoid medical care. They may be seen as realistic and cost-efficient, not sloppy. Every provider has the ethical responsibility to recommend a check-up if a problem is recurring and worsening, or reaches beyond the scope of the original complaint. A concerned parent who didn’t notice that their child was continually worsening with an illness such as pneumonia or swelling to the point of respiratory failure is more likely to be at fault for negligence than overprotecting, and it doesn’t seem like the kids in question here are at death’s door with uninformed parents. A provider is usually obligated to offer services to a patient in need help, regardless of whether he/she is their regular provider.
It can be reasonably assumed that the RN step-mother can be trusted to identify a likely case of strep throat. Even if it turns out not to be strep throat per se, any sore throat with infectious indications would be treated with the same antibiotics as used for strep throat, if antibiotics are to be used at all. Certainly, the medication of a child should be discussed between parents. Heck, if it were up to my ex, our daughter would have had a root canal without any pain reliever, and I would have been furious. Being overly cautious swings on both sides of the spectrum. Before the claws come out, it would be wise to consider the step-mother’s motives for administering antibiotics. Unless she is mentally ill, it is highly unlikely that she is trying to be lazy or pull a fast one. It would be reasonable to assume that she is trying to protect the child from an infection that he or she is likely to contract, thereby sparing the child intense pain, loss of sleep, and inability to participate in school or fun activities. Augmentin is a safe drug; when side effects do arise, they generally present as nausea. If your child has an allergic reaction or severe vomiting or diarrhea, these would be reasons to protest.
As for the ex-husband, it seems to be common knowledge that Augmentin is a penicillin-type drug—it seems unlikely then, if not impossible, that an RN wouldn’t know this. Again, unless she is mentally ill, it is unlikely that she would give this to him out of spite or laziness. It’s quite common for people to grow out of their penicillin allergies, or for a penicillin allergy to be misdiagnosed. Is it possible that this is the case? If he’s already been taking it, it can be safely assumed that there is nothing to worry about. Besides, what he decides to take (as long as it does not impair his judgment while parenting alone) is up to him—he is a grown man, and he is capable of bypassing his current wife and taking himself to a doctor if he chooses to do so.