What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Illinois
I have a 16 year old child with a man to whom I was never married. We have been in and out of the courts since our child was roughly 4 years old. Boiler plate stuff, mostly - establishing paternity, mediation for order of visitation, etc. Three years ago, I had to file a contempt motion due to his status as being unemployed and subsequent decision to simply stop paying child support without seeking a modification. That created a lot of hardship for me, as my income was limited at the time and I had to atone for his financial shortfall. At no time, did I withhold visitation, or seek any "revenge" on him. I simply took him to court.
He is again, unemployed. Has been since March 2014. He petitioned for a modification to the existing support order, which was $650/month. We both appeared last Nov. and the judge ordered a temporary reduction from $650/mo. to $450/mo. She set the case for status on July 7, 2015...today. I am traveling 65 miles to court from my home, as I have since moved. I showed up 15 minutes late, as my train was delayed and I have the notice from Metra to confirm this. I approached the Clerk and was informed that the case had already been heard/ordered. I saw the order. An order to modify child support had been entered; not only has he not found gainful employment in the 8 months the judge gave him, today she further reduced the child support amount to $100/month. States that he must let me know within 72 hours when he's found employment. No indication anywhere that he's compelled to find employment, mind you.
Okay, I get it...I was late. But it wasn't "the dog ate my homework" excuse, I had the means to prove why I was late. Furthermore, I don't understand how the court's decision to reward someone who is on the Cousin Eddie Career Path of holding out for the management position benefits our child in any way. At $100/mo., he should have been ordered to take ANY job; as, minimum wage would yield a higher amount of child support than what she ordered today.
It was obvious that her actions were punitive, when I have never violated any condition of any of our agreed orders and I'm at a loss to understand how any judge can find it reasonable to burden the custodial parent with the financial support obligations of non-custodial parent, who is by choice, unemployed. Who claims he has no income, yet manages to make a car payment and have a working cell phone.
I'm beyond upset by the events of today. I have contacted an attorney, who is going to petition to have the order vacated...yet more money I get to spend on the 2-legged test tube. The reason I call him that, is not only has he essentially abandoned his son financially (again), he has seen him 3 times in the past year, so the abandonment is also emotional/physical.
This judge must feel I am independently wealthy and I must be taught a lesson, starting with the original temporary reduction that was ordered for an excessive period of time, in my opinion. For him to show up 8 months later with no job, not even minimum wage, while I, the working, responsible person, was hammered for "disrespecting" the court by being tardy when I can provide more proof to back myself up than he can for not having found a job, defies logic.
By the way, he is not destitute...he has an IRA with a current valuation of approx. $200,000 and part ownership in a house he inherited from his father, the value of which is estimated at $150,000 (his share, owned outright). I can't save for my retirement, because I have to keep picking up the slack his irresponsible and court-approved behavior, creates. This absolutely sucks - I could tell the admin folks (including the clerk) in the courtroom felt bad; they were bending over backwards to help me in any way they could today...they looked really uncomfortable, though they can't say anything, nor would I place them in that kind of awkward position.
Is what this judge did in your opinion, unduly harsh? I was there, I had no opportunity to speak on either my son's behalf or on my own...just, "here ya go, I support what your ex is pulling on you...have a nice life". Unbelievable. smh.
I know anyone who is on the losing side of a case feels the judge was unfair, but I have not experienced any noticeable bias or intemperate behavior from any judge over the past 12 years, in Cook County, of all places....until today. I haven't always come out on the winning side with the ex, either. But today was about as brutal and disheartening a situation as I have ever experienced.
Guess I just wanted some opinions here.
Admonish me for tardiness; I'm rarely ever late and if I am, there's a verifiable reason.
Thanks in advance!
I have a 16 year old child with a man to whom I was never married. We have been in and out of the courts since our child was roughly 4 years old. Boiler plate stuff, mostly - establishing paternity, mediation for order of visitation, etc. Three years ago, I had to file a contempt motion due to his status as being unemployed and subsequent decision to simply stop paying child support without seeking a modification. That created a lot of hardship for me, as my income was limited at the time and I had to atone for his financial shortfall. At no time, did I withhold visitation, or seek any "revenge" on him. I simply took him to court.
He is again, unemployed. Has been since March 2014. He petitioned for a modification to the existing support order, which was $650/month. We both appeared last Nov. and the judge ordered a temporary reduction from $650/mo. to $450/mo. She set the case for status on July 7, 2015...today. I am traveling 65 miles to court from my home, as I have since moved. I showed up 15 minutes late, as my train was delayed and I have the notice from Metra to confirm this. I approached the Clerk and was informed that the case had already been heard/ordered. I saw the order. An order to modify child support had been entered; not only has he not found gainful employment in the 8 months the judge gave him, today she further reduced the child support amount to $100/month. States that he must let me know within 72 hours when he's found employment. No indication anywhere that he's compelled to find employment, mind you.
Okay, I get it...I was late. But it wasn't "the dog ate my homework" excuse, I had the means to prove why I was late. Furthermore, I don't understand how the court's decision to reward someone who is on the Cousin Eddie Career Path of holding out for the management position benefits our child in any way. At $100/mo., he should have been ordered to take ANY job; as, minimum wage would yield a higher amount of child support than what she ordered today.
It was obvious that her actions were punitive, when I have never violated any condition of any of our agreed orders and I'm at a loss to understand how any judge can find it reasonable to burden the custodial parent with the financial support obligations of non-custodial parent, who is by choice, unemployed. Who claims he has no income, yet manages to make a car payment and have a working cell phone.
I'm beyond upset by the events of today. I have contacted an attorney, who is going to petition to have the order vacated...yet more money I get to spend on the 2-legged test tube. The reason I call him that, is not only has he essentially abandoned his son financially (again), he has seen him 3 times in the past year, so the abandonment is also emotional/physical.
This judge must feel I am independently wealthy and I must be taught a lesson, starting with the original temporary reduction that was ordered for an excessive period of time, in my opinion. For him to show up 8 months later with no job, not even minimum wage, while I, the working, responsible person, was hammered for "disrespecting" the court by being tardy when I can provide more proof to back myself up than he can for not having found a job, defies logic.
By the way, he is not destitute...he has an IRA with a current valuation of approx. $200,000 and part ownership in a house he inherited from his father, the value of which is estimated at $150,000 (his share, owned outright). I can't save for my retirement, because I have to keep picking up the slack his irresponsible and court-approved behavior, creates. This absolutely sucks - I could tell the admin folks (including the clerk) in the courtroom felt bad; they were bending over backwards to help me in any way they could today...they looked really uncomfortable, though they can't say anything, nor would I place them in that kind of awkward position.
Is what this judge did in your opinion, unduly harsh? I was there, I had no opportunity to speak on either my son's behalf or on my own...just, "here ya go, I support what your ex is pulling on you...have a nice life". Unbelievable. smh.
I know anyone who is on the losing side of a case feels the judge was unfair, but I have not experienced any noticeable bias or intemperate behavior from any judge over the past 12 years, in Cook County, of all places....until today. I haven't always come out on the winning side with the ex, either. But today was about as brutal and disheartening a situation as I have ever experienced.
Guess I just wanted some opinions here.
Admonish me for tardiness; I'm rarely ever late and if I am, there's a verifiable reason.
Thanks in advance!