Modifying School Arrangement

[single317dad]

Okay, so I looked up the exact wording and here it is ...

"Each party shall pay one-half of all children related expenses, including but not limited to: daycare, pre-school, public/private school tuition, school meals, extra-curricular activities, camps, field trips, supplies for school. That the Petitioner (me) shall pay his one-half share of the school tuition directly to the school. That the children shall attend (school name) through Kindergarten at which time the parties shall attempt to meet and discuss the issue of the children's further attendance at (school name). In the event the parties cannot agree, either party may file a Petition to address said issue with the Court."

Given the above paragraph, would I still be able to stand ground on not paying past Kindergarten?

To me, this means:

- You are responsible for half the tuition, no matter what school the children attend. That amount is payable directly to the school and not to Mom.
- That each child separately must attend the ordered school through K. At the completion of K for each child, you and Mom are to decide whether to continue in that school for that child.
- The court has made no order for the children's continuing education, except that you are to pay for half of it (and, if Mom truly has sole legal custody, that she makes the final decision, absent a court order otherwise).
- In summary, that makes a petition to the court at the conclusion of the child's Kindergarten your only opportunity for input on their continuing education, other than the check-writing part.

 

[stealth2]

Have you been paying a portion of the older's tuition?

 

[mrobison14]

I understand that the process might take some time, and that it might not be easy. I am way behind with the school payments already, and I don't want that to become an issue. I just hope that I can make some headway with my ex out of court, otherwise I don't see much other choice but to at least present my petition to the court.

 

[mrobison14]

I have been paying 1/2 of the older child's tution

 

[stealth2]

I think singledad may be right.

And, if you're behind on tuition payments... you've got a problem. When my ex fell behind (not due to lack of money - which may help you - but just to be a pita), I paid what was owed, and took him to court immediately. He was ordered to pay me back, with interest. The judge was not amused.

I certainly understand financial issues, but... you may need to look into a second job. 'Cause Mom likely can make the decision, and you will likely be paying your share, based on rereading with singledad's eyes.

 

[Bali Hai]

Okay, so I looked up the exact wording and here it is ...

"Each party shall pay one-half of all children related expenses, including but not limited to: daycare, pre-school, public/private school tuition, school meals, extra-curricular activities, camps, field trips, supplies for school. That the Petitioner (me) shall pay his one-half share of the school tuition directly to the school. That the children shall attend (school name) through Kindergarten at which time the parties shall attempt to meet and discuss the issue of the children's further attendance at (school name). In the event the parties cannot agree, either party may file a Petition to address said issue with the Court."

Given the above paragraph, would I still be able to stand ground on not paying past Kindergarten?

I cannot for the life of me understand why someone would agree in a court order to pay for private school!? YOU appparently WANTED your children to attend private school or you would not have agreed. Now you're here trying to get out of a bear trap!

Seems public school would have been the better option from the git-go?

 

[Zigner]

I cannot for the life of me understand why someone would agree in a court order to pay for private school!? YOU appparently WANTED your children to attend private school or you would not have agreed. Now you're here trying to get out of a bear trap!

Seems public school would have been the better option from the git-go?

It's astounding that some people want what's best for their child, huh?

 

[Bali Hai]

It's astounding that some people want what's best for their child, huh?

Nothing wrong with that if they can PAY FOR IT! There is also nothing wrong with public school that OP also pays school taxes to annually.