I am the non-custodial mom of a beautiful 4 1/2 year olf daughter. It was not found that I was unfit...this was a much deeper matter. We both had to go to an "expert" who deemed us both good parents, but since I was changing jobs, moving in with my now husband and other factors, they deemed his environment more stable.
I walked away with every other weekend from Friday to Monday morning, Tues and Thursday 7-9:00pm, alternating holidays and two weeks vacation.
We have been divorced two years and many things in the court order are now antequated and do not apply, ie she will be starting kindergarten in Sept. yet the orders are with regard to day care..and much more.
I have had a schedule whereby I am home every other Friday yet he will not let me have my daughter, he let's his parents take care of her, even though I am home. (he refers to the court orders)..his parents always care for my daughter when I can but he chooses them. Mosty recently, I called to speak to her (as I do every night) and his soon to be new wife answered. Seems he went skiing for the weekend and my daughter was spending the night with his new wife. He never gave me the opportunity to care for my daughter...don't I come first?
I've heard of something called "right of first refusal". Does that have to be stated in the orders or is it understood?
I am filing for modification of custody in the summer and was wondering what a reasonable increase in time is? Can I ask for more vacation time in the summer? (4 weeks?) Can I ask for a Wed and Thursday over night on the weeks I don't have her for the weekend?
It was a messy divorce but it was two years ago. I am now re-married, he is gettin re-married..but he still holds to the orders from two years ago...what can I do and what, reasonably, will I attain?
Thanks so much for helping to rightfully get a mother and daughter together!!
I walked away with every other weekend from Friday to Monday morning, Tues and Thursday 7-9:00pm, alternating holidays and two weeks vacation.
We have been divorced two years and many things in the court order are now antequated and do not apply, ie she will be starting kindergarten in Sept. yet the orders are with regard to day care..and much more.
I have had a schedule whereby I am home every other Friday yet he will not let me have my daughter, he let's his parents take care of her, even though I am home. (he refers to the court orders)..his parents always care for my daughter when I can but he chooses them. Mosty recently, I called to speak to her (as I do every night) and his soon to be new wife answered. Seems he went skiing for the weekend and my daughter was spending the night with his new wife. He never gave me the opportunity to care for my daughter...don't I come first?
I've heard of something called "right of first refusal". Does that have to be stated in the orders or is it understood?
I am filing for modification of custody in the summer and was wondering what a reasonable increase in time is? Can I ask for more vacation time in the summer? (4 weeks?) Can I ask for a Wed and Thursday over night on the weeks I don't have her for the weekend?
It was a messy divorce but it was two years ago. I am now re-married, he is gettin re-married..but he still holds to the orders from two years ago...what can I do and what, reasonably, will I attain?
Thanks so much for helping to rightfully get a mother and daughter together!!