What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Ca
Court order states I have 51% custody and deciding vote for shared legal custody.
after 2+ years since you all helped educate me to fight this battle myself. Im back.
Current Status, I have 75% custody and had my 5 year old daughter in kindergarden for 8 months where she is doing wonderful and my house is now her primary residence. Child is doing wonderful in school and she has a excellent attendance record.
The Mother has filed for change of custody, She wants her to go to school in her home town 30 minutes away and get her for the school week. All based on the fact her work hours would give her more time with the child.
Her lawyers stated that I made the choice unilaterally, for the child to school in my home town.
She also wants the legal custody to be shared not me having the final say so.
First, we have had open communication and all things were well discussed, mother even filed for mediation when the child was going to go to school up here and then changed her mind and cancelled it and agreed about this school. So it may be hard to prove I made the choice without talking to her. She also provided in the motion, a notorized new parenting schedule she and I agreed on and both signed.
I have been flexible with every parenting option and taken the childs best interest at heart. I have maintained excellent communication to the point we have had many outings as a family up until she had the new fiancee last month, hence the new court battle. 99% of the time the mother calls daily, she can talk to her daughter. sometimes its bath or homework and I dont answer but often call back.
The school my daughter attends API is 842 above the state recommendation, the mothers school is 776, below the sate recommendation.
The crime rate here in the last 90 days was 5 incidents in a 1 mile range, the mothers area had 69 in the same parameters, which would correlate to less drug useage in the schools as well as a better enviroment.
[I live a little in the counrty while the mother lives in a bad area of a large city]
I have flexibility in my work hours as well and only need her grandmother to watch her 1-2 days a week in the early evening.
I have a note from her teacher stating I have done great job with my daughters education and that the mother has not been involved and she has only recieved 1 email from mom concerning her daughters education.
As far as the legal custody, she basically just doesnt like me having the final say so.
Now mother did abuse her legal custody and went and got a perscription for flouride without asking me. No big deal but she went and overdosed the child and stained her front baby teeth brown. I was livid when I discovered it.
So I dont think she has much of a case there.
I dont think she has a case for custody either as the child has established herself in a great/better school and ive been a good a parent as one could.
Any thoughts??? thanks sorry for the length
Court order states I have 51% custody and deciding vote for shared legal custody.
after 2+ years since you all helped educate me to fight this battle myself. Im back.
Current Status, I have 75% custody and had my 5 year old daughter in kindergarden for 8 months where she is doing wonderful and my house is now her primary residence. Child is doing wonderful in school and she has a excellent attendance record.
The Mother has filed for change of custody, She wants her to go to school in her home town 30 minutes away and get her for the school week. All based on the fact her work hours would give her more time with the child.
Her lawyers stated that I made the choice unilaterally, for the child to school in my home town.
She also wants the legal custody to be shared not me having the final say so.
First, we have had open communication and all things were well discussed, mother even filed for mediation when the child was going to go to school up here and then changed her mind and cancelled it and agreed about this school. So it may be hard to prove I made the choice without talking to her. She also provided in the motion, a notorized new parenting schedule she and I agreed on and both signed.
I have been flexible with every parenting option and taken the childs best interest at heart. I have maintained excellent communication to the point we have had many outings as a family up until she had the new fiancee last month, hence the new court battle. 99% of the time the mother calls daily, she can talk to her daughter. sometimes its bath or homework and I dont answer but often call back.
The school my daughter attends API is 842 above the state recommendation, the mothers school is 776, below the sate recommendation.
The crime rate here in the last 90 days was 5 incidents in a 1 mile range, the mothers area had 69 in the same parameters, which would correlate to less drug useage in the schools as well as a better enviroment.
[I live a little in the counrty while the mother lives in a bad area of a large city]
I have flexibility in my work hours as well and only need her grandmother to watch her 1-2 days a week in the early evening.
I have a note from her teacher stating I have done great job with my daughters education and that the mother has not been involved and she has only recieved 1 email from mom concerning her daughters education.
As far as the legal custody, she basically just doesnt like me having the final say so.
Now mother did abuse her legal custody and went and got a perscription for flouride without asking me. No big deal but she went and overdosed the child and stained her front baby teeth brown. I was livid when I discovered it.
So I dont think she has much of a case there.
I dont think she has a case for custody either as the child has established herself in a great/better school and ive been a good a parent as one could.
Any thoughts??? thanks sorry for the length
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