My 15 year old daughter wants to stay with me

[Just Blue]

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ow have I screwed up??? By asking for advice on a forum?? I have never ever used her for anything against her father a Michigan attorney asked if either of us had any evidence and she said she would go through her phone and look I never asked her for anything

Calm down.

 

[Ohiogal]

I never said she couldn’t go back! She said she doesn’t want to go back and I asked her the reasons and I’m asking for advice because of the reasons she gave that’s all... the order specifically states I get her from 3 days after school let’s out which school lets out after 2nd full week in May and I have to provide transportation and it ends specifically July 31 and he must provide transportation for that

That matters. But realize LDIJ is completely wrong as she doesn't understand the law. You would be better off transferring the case to Louisiana because schooling/medical and such come into play and those individuals will require a massive amount of money to testify in MI. LD is not an attorney. I am. She is a freaking moron who sides with mothers constantly. But Here is the thing: you need facts. File to have it heard in Louisiana and hire counsel there. It will be cheaper than proving your case in MI and you might be able to win.

 

[Ohiogal]

If he doesn’t show up to pick her up then I do have to file paperwork with courts yes I just was hoping to maybe do something so she’s not a nervous wreck until then

why would I have to fly her down there on the 31? The court order specifically states the pick her up on July 31 not before so how am I being an idiot? I’m the only one who has followed the order since it was signed

LDIJ has no legal experience at all. She is a know it all with no with no knowledge.

 

[Sajarembo]

That matters. But realize LDIJ is completely wrong as she doesn't understand the law. You would be better off transferring the case to Louisiana because schooling/medical and such come into play and those individuals will require a massive amount of money to testify in MI. LD is not an attorney. I am. She is a freaking moron who sides with mothers constantly. But Here is the thing: you need facts. File to have it heard in Louisiana and hire counsel there. It will be cheaper than proving your case in MI and you might be able to win.

Really?? So am I the one who can initiate the transfer or does it have to be him?? He doesn’t want it to go to court because he hasn’t had any medical insurance for her for last 3 years and I have so he thinks he will be penalized for it

 

[Ohiogal]

Really?? So am I the one who can initiate the transfer or does it have to be him?? He doesn’t want it to go to court because he hasn’t had any medical insurance for her for last 3 years and I have so he thinks he will be penalized for it

She hasn't been in school or had any other professionals around for the last several years? In a custody change, the SCHOOL matters and it would quite frankly be beneficial where the child is... Have you had medical insurance for YOUR child? Has she been to a doctor in the last few years? You I thought stated you had joint legal.. so if she doesn't have insurance WHY haven't you insured her?

 

[Ohiogal]

And yes you can initiate the transfer

 

[Sajarembo]

She hasn't been in school or had any other professionals around for the last several years? In a custody change, the SCHOOL matters and it would quite frankly be beneficial where the child is... Have you had medical insurance for YOUR child? Has she been to a doctor in the last few years? You I thought stated you had joint legal.. so if she doesn't have insurance WHY haven't you insured her?

I do have insurance for her but the company doesn’t cover her down there ?? I’ve taken her to the doctor when she’s up here yes because she has bad allergies but down there she hasn’t seen a doctor in 3 years

 

[Sajarembo]

I do have insurance for her but the company doesn’t cover her down there ?? I’ve taken her to the doctor when she’s up here yes because she has bad allergies but down there she hasn’t seen a doctor in 3 years

Oh and yes joint legal and he has physical

 

[stealth2]

A judge will not be pleased that you/your lawyer have brought your child into this. And again - you will need more proof than what your child brings you.

 

[Ohiogal]

I do have insurance for her but the company doesn’t cover her down there ?? I’ve taken her to the doctor when she’s up here yes because she has bad allergies but down there she hasn’t seen a doctor in 3 years

This case needs to be litigated for the best interest of the child in Louisiana …. What insurance does she have down there? Have you ever offered to pay for medical appointments? Do you realize the issues? Does your attorney? I don't see you having enough to change custody.

 

[t74]

Be sure she has your emergency contact info in her wallet and phone.

Before she returns to dad's, help her identify people she can go to for assistance should she feel she must leave dad's house. Talk to her about mandated reporters and what they can do to help her. Explain how to go to the ER if she needs emergency medical care, how to call police and CPS , etc. She is old enough that she should be able to solve problems with dad without having to go through him to get help if things are really bad. Let her know that there are safe places if her home is not.

I am confused about her school. If she is in public school, there should be a counselor or social worker to help her.

Her knowing what she can do will give her the confidence to go back until you can deal with the legal issues.

 

[Sajarembo]

Be sure she has your emergency contact info in her wallet and phone.

Before she returns to dad's, help her identify people she can go to for assistance should she feel she must leave dad's house. Talk to her about mandated reporters and what they can do to help her. Explain how to go to the ER if she needs emergency medical care, how to call police and CPS , etc. She is old enough that she should be able to solve problems with dad without having to go through him to get help if things are really bad. Let her know that there are safe places if her home is not.

I am confused about her school. If she is in public school, there should be a counselor or social worker to help her.

Her knowing what she can do will give her the confidence to go back until you can deal with the legal issues.

Thank You