My son leaving the state at 17?

[sacogirl]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Maine

My son is 17 and is planning on flying out ot he state of maine to North Carolina to see his dad and go to his paternal grandmother's funeral. I wouldn't have a problem with him going, except his father will not speak to me,. He will not answer my calls or call me. I don't approve of my son going if I can't communicate with an adult (his father) who is going to be supervising him. Would he be considered a runaway if he goes? My son has lived with me for 17 years, but there is no formal court paperwork regarding parental rights and responsibilities.

 

[Proserpina]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Maine

My son is 17 and is planning on flying out ot he state of maine to North Carolina to see his dad and go to his paternal grandmother's funeral. I wouldn't have a problem with him going, except his father will not speak to me,. He will not answer my calls or call me. I don't approve of my son going if I can't communicate with an adult (his father) who is going to be supervising him. Would he be considered a runaway if he goes? My son has lived with me for 17 years, but there is no formal court paperwork regarding parental rights and responsibilities.

Is there a reason why you cannot communicate with your son's father? Via email? Anything?

 

[sacogirl]

I have tried calling him and my son asked him to call me, at my request and his father's reply was, "I will call her eventually but it won't be anytime soon". My son is going to be be leaving early tomorrow morning. I need to know what my rights are.

 

[Silverplum]

I have tried calling him and my son asked him to call me, at my request and his father's reply was, "I will call her eventually but it won't be anytime soon". My son is going to be be leaving early tomorrow morning. I need to know what my rights are.

Nonlegal:
You're pretty anxious for a mother of a 17 y.o. about a trip he's taking with family -- to go to a family funeral, for Pete's sake.

He'll be a legal adult within the year. Grasp too tightly now, and you'll find yourself with one angry teen.

 

[sacogirl]

Please know that I realize he'll be 18 next October. I also realize that he's going to the funeral of a grandmother he's only seen twice in his life. Let me reiterate that I don't have a problem with him going as long as I am able to communicate with the adults that will be supervising him. Frankly, how do I even know that what he is telling me is true in regards to where he is going, with who, and why...for pete's sake.

I simply came here to find out some answers in regards to my rights as a parent, not get judged about my choices and decisions or my parenting style for that matter. If anyone has some particular legal advice that is fitting, please feel free to share. If all you have are judgements or criticism's, then please take them elsewhere, because those don't interest me.

Thank you

 

[Silverplum]

Please know that I realize he'll be 18 next October. I also realize that he's going to the funeral of a grandmother he's only seen twice in his life. Let me reiterate that I don't have a problem with him going as long as I am able to communicate with the adults that will be supervising him. Frankly, how do I even know that what he is telling me is true in regards to where he is going, with who, and why...for pete's sake.

I simply came here to find out some answers in regards to my rights as a parent, not get judged about my choices and decisions or my parenting style for that matter. If anyone has some particular legal advice that is fitting, please feel free to share. If all you have are judgements or criticism's, then please take them elsewhere, because those don't interest me.

Thank you

Okey-dokey.

 

[sacogirl]

Nonlegal:
You're pretty anxious for a mother of a 17 y.o. about a trip he's taking with family -- to go to a family funeral, for Pete's sake.

He'll be a legal adult within the year. Grasp too tightly now, and you'll find yourself with one angry teen.

Furthermore..in regards to the quote at the bottom of your page... which talks about judges wanting parents to be reasonable...

"I" am being reasonable.It is reasonable to want to be in contact with the person who is supervising your child while going on a trip to another state on an airplane. His father, who refuses to speak to me is NOT being reasonable.

 

[Silverplum]

Furthermore..in regards to the quote at the bottom of your page... which talks about judges wanting parents to be reasonable...

"I" am being reasonable.It is reasonable to want to be in contact with the person who is supervising your child while going on a trip to another state on an airplane. His father, who refuses to speak to me is NOT being reasonable.

Okey-dokey.

 

[Isis1]

Furthermore..in regards to the quote at the bottom of your page... which talks about judges wanting parents to be reasonable...

"I" am being reasonable.It is reasonable to want to be in contact with the person who is supervising your child while going on a trip to another state on an airplane. His father, who refuses to speak to me is NOT being reasonable.

you do realize that is a lost cause, right? when the child is 18, dad has an even less incentive to ever speak to you. it's a bit late in the game to insist on co-parenting NOW. pick your battles, mom. you don't have many left before the war is totally lost.

either you trust your son, and let him go. or not trust him and don't allow him to go.

and yes, you can report him as a runaway, but given that he is almost 18, the cops won't do much for you.

 

[Proserpina]

Furthermore..in regards to the quote at the bottom of your page... which talks about judges wanting parents to be reasonable...

"I" am being reasonable.It is reasonable to want to be in contact with the person who is supervising your child while going on a trip to another state on an airplane. His father, who refuses to speak to me is NOT being reasonable.

You realize that's a signature line, right?

That it's not directed at you?

 

[Silverplum]

You realize that's a signature line, right?

That it's not directed at you?

Oh, I don't know. It might be.

IS it "reasonable" to call the cops on one's 17 y.o., report him as a "runaway," when he is actually with his father and attending a family funeral?

 

[Proserpina]

Oh, I don't know. It might be.

IS it "reasonable" to call the cops on one's 17 y.o., report him as a "runaway," when he is actually with his father and attending a family funeral?

Touche, darling

 

[Antigone*]

You realize that's a signature line, right?

That it's not directed at you?

If the shoe fits...

 

[CourtClerk]

Please know that I realize he'll be 18 next October. I also realize that he's going to the funeral of a grandmother he's only seen twice in his life. Let me reiterate that I don't have a problem with him going as long as I am able to communicate with the adults that will be supervising him. Frankly, how do I even know that what he is telling me is true in regards to where he is going, with who, and why...for pete's sake.

I simply came here to find out some answers in regards to my rights as a parent, not get judged about my choices and decisions or my parenting style for that matter. If anyone has some particular legal advice that is fitting, please feel free to share. If all you have are judgements or criticism's, then please take them elsewhere, because those don't interest me.

Thank you

Sometimes I sit and read (or listen at work) to people rant and rave about why their exes won't speak to them and think....

you wonder why????

This is one of those moments.

 

[cyjeff]

And you don't trust your 17 year old to pick up the cell phone in HIS pocket because?