My son wants to live with me!

[Silverplum]

But Ive heard many different answers to my question, and thought I'd figure out what the majority says by posting it on here.

You got only ONE answer HERE. Plus, the applicable LAW, which is all that matters. "Opinions" matter not.

 

[onebreath]

I agree with Penelope10. Right now there is nothing you can do legally. So focus best you can on your childs' needs and either convince him to start talking regularly to his school counselor, and start a conversation with the father. You have to TRY at least, to coparent with the dad around this, based on the best interests of the child.

Unfortunately it is more and more common for children to be depressed...but no less reason to not do everything you can to help him deal with his depression.

 

[auntlemon33]

I have to agree with some of the other posts. Try your absolute best to try and talk to your sons father about what is going on and see if he won't agree to some counsiling. Being hit in the belly..that is heartbreaking.

 

[amber10_79]

Have you spoken to your ex about the fact that your child is making "Jokes" about suicide? Parents that cannot get along (whether divorced or together) can cause a lot of stress in a kiddo's life. Have you tried having a civil conversation regarding concerns you might have over your son's possible depression? Without playing the blame game. And then try to come up with a game plan to get some counseling for your son?

My ex and I are very civil to eachother; we were even friendly for many years before this came up, but we don't hate eachother (Though I can only speak for myself). He and I don't argue, yell, blame, etc. So my son isn't exposed to any type of drama, in that regard. And yes, I did make sure to take him to a counselor because of the 'joking' about suicide, the crying and anger directed towards his dad, etc. I don't speak ill of his dad, either. Whenever my son starts saying derogatory things, I don't participate, and I stop him and just remind him that his dad and I both love him with all our hearts; that his dad is only doing what he thinks is best.

I know I made a mistake; I had a misdermeanor for driving infractions, and I obviously take blame for everything; it would be silly not to. I'm not on here wanting sympathy or recriminations. Just facts. Thanks.