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[ecmst12]

He's had the supervised visits for your child to get to know him. Now they know each other. If you don't comply with the court order, you could LOSE CUSTODY COMPLETELY. Then YOU will be the one with supervised visitation. It is in your child's best interests to spend time with BOTH of his parents. He is not a baby, he's 7. If you tell him to get out of the car and go with dad, he should be listening. There is no reason for him to be having fear and anxiety over this unless YOUR reactions are inspiring it.

 

[lilmansmom]

He's had the supervised visits for your child to get to know him. Now they know each other. If you don't comply with the court order, you could LOSE CUSTODY COMPLETELY. Then YOU will be the one with supervised visitation. It is in your child's best interests to spend time with BOTH of his parents. He is not a baby, he's 7. If you tell him to get out of the car and go with dad, he should be listening. There is no reason for him to be having fear and anxiety over this unless YOUR reactions are inspiring it.

I am not in contempt... i will meet with his father and will tell my son you need to go with your dad but if my son is there crying or screaming saying he doesn't want to go i wont make him... and that is not being in contempt. I took our child like i was supposed to

 

[AlmostThere]

How do you handle it when your son has to deal with other strangers? Like new teachers, daycare providers, babysitters, etc? Either your son is terrified of everyone who is new and comes into his life, and needs serious psychological attention; or you have been creating that fear. The type of carrying on you are doing now - how bad it is for your son, etc, to others, where he can hear it or hear about it for others, is damaging.


You repeatedly claim the former - that for unknown, unreasonable reasons, your son is terrified of his father - yet you don't have a psychologist backing up that claim, such as testimony from a psychologist stating that visitation would be harmful.

The principle of Occams Razor fits here - The simplest explanation will be the most plausible until evidence is presented to prove it false - would side with the latter.

 

[Humusluvr]

I am not in contempt... i will meet with his father and will tell my son you need to go with your dad but if my son is there crying or screaming saying he doesn't want to go i wont make him... and that is not being in contempt. I took our child like i was supposed to

That would be contempt, if you don't let dad pick up child. Which is what you're doing. You're working the child into a frenzy by your ACTIONS, and interfering. You are seriously being the definition of alienation of a child. And you will pay for that someday, hopefully by a judge.

And even though I hardly ever post in C+V, this is a troll. Even I see that.

 

[ecmst12]

That is incorrect. If you don't make your child go with his father, you will be in contempt.

 

[Zigner]

That is incorrect. If you don't make your child go with his father, you will be in contempt.

That is incorrect.

The judge already stated that she's in contempt:

This is also just to advise you all that the judge did find me in contempt...

 

[lilmansmom]

That is incorrect. If you don't make your child go with his father, you will be in contempt.

How though?.. i am meeting with the father to pick up my son and i will be telling my son to go with the father, that's not being in contempt when i am showing that im trying and our child is refusing.. i will not make him do something.. like this... that he dont want to do

 

[lilmansmom]

How do you handle it when your son has to deal with other strangers? Like new teachers, daycare providers, babysitters, etc? Either your son is terrified of everyone who is new and comes into his life, and needs serious psychological attention; or you have been creating that fear. The type of carrying on you are doing now - how bad it is for your son, etc, to others, where he can hear it or hear about it for others, is damaging.


You repeatedly claim the former - that for unknown, unreasonable reasons, your son is terrified of his father - yet you don't have a psychologist backing up that claim, such as testimony from a psychologist stating that visitation would be harmful.

The principle of Occams Razor fits here - The simplest explanation will be the most plausible until evidence is presented to prove it false - would side with the latter.

i did have a report from his counselor stating that 3 visits is not enough for a child

 

[stealth2]

How though?.. i am meeting with the father to pick up my son and i will be telling my son to go with the father, that's not being in contempt when i am showing that im trying and our child is refusing.. i will not make him do something.. like this... that he dont want to do

So when your child doesn't want to get a shot from the doctor, you won't make him? (For example)

 

[Zigner]

You mean, the 3 visits that you interfered with?

I hope this thread gets locked soon. We are barely healed from all the head-banging-against-the-wall that happened in the last thread!

 

[AlmostThere]

How though?.. i am meeting with the father to pick up my son and i will be telling my son to go with the father, that's not being in contempt when i am showing that im trying and our child is refusing.. i will not make him do something.. like this... that he dont want to do

What part of the idea that you must make him go with his father, whether he wants to go, or you want to force him to go or not. If you do not, you are in contempt.

This is no different than making your child, bathe, take medicine, etc. Really.

You need to make him go with with his father. Even if doing so means picking him up like of sack of screaming, yelling, kicking, biting potatoes, hand him off to his father, get back into your car and driving off. If you fail to let his father take him, even if son is not happy about it one bit, then you are continuing to be in contempt.

It is that simple. Your son is 7 for God's sake. He does not get a say in this. Your giving him a say is only harming him, and harming your chances at maintaining your status of custodial parent.

 

[Humusluvr]

What part of the idea that you must make him go with his father, whether he wants to go, or you want to force him to go or not. If you do not, you are in contempt.

This is no different than making your child, bathe, take medicine, etc. Really.

You need to make him go with with his father. Even if doing so means picking him up like of sack of screaming, yelling, kicking, biting potatoes, hand him off to his father, get back into your car and driving off. If you fail to let his father take him, even if son is not happy about it one bit, then you are continuing to be in contempt.

It is that simple. Your son is 7 for God's sake. He does not get a say in this. Your giving him a say is only harming him, and harming your chances at maintaining your status of custodial parent.

shoot, I hope the OP sends the kid with SOMEONE ELSE for the drop off. Bet there wouldn't be the drama and trauma to the child.

OP is creating this, and it's sickening. Judge saw it, and she'll be back soon.

 

[ecmst12]

Well, the judge found her in contempt in the PAST. She will be in contempt in the FUTURE if she does not make the child go with his father (physically or verbally).

The child needs to understand that he does NOT have a choice in this matter, and if he makes the exchange difficult, YOU will punish him, IN ADDITION to him still having to go on the visit.

 

[cheesecake46580]

Police can do a stand by to keep things civil but can't enforce the court ordered unless it is ordered for them too. We exchange @ the police station and it is court ordered just for this reason.

Take my advice be positive about the child going, send something with the child to calm them. Even sit down and make a picture book for them to take to look @ when they get home sick. But Stick to your guns make the child go and over time this will clear up. I know it's hard I have been in this situation myself but my child is almost 9 now goes when she is supposed to. She still says she don't want to go but I have learned to say don't be silly u will have fun. Unless u have founded abuse you have no choice and keeping on your path could hurt you keeping custody of your child. Your child is not a possession to own so learn to share. The two of you created this child now let them know their dad.

 

[lilmansmom]

Well, the judge found her in contempt in the PAST. She will be in contempt in the FUTURE if she does not make the child go with his father (physically or verbally).

The child needs to understand that he does NOT have a choice in this matter, and if he makes the exchange difficult, YOU will punish him, IN ADDITION to him still having to go on the visit.

i would NEVER punish my son for going with someone who in reality is a stranger to him. I would never punish my son for not wanting to go with this man who has only caused bad instead of good. I have the doctors notes, counselor notes, and teachers reports on our sons behavior since this all started... it has only created problems