not sure how to respond

[xxnatalixx]

Grrrrr

O.K. so now my attorney calls and says that Dad is complaining to his attorney that I won't "let him" have Son until 9pm like the standard order states. Well, HE is the one who was so urgent about using the visitation center and it is not open that late! He is welcome to keep him until 9, but if he's going to, then I want him to drop him off here. My oldest son is in bed by then because he has to get up so early to catch the bus to school. Dad wants me to meet at the police station at 9. Can they really make me do that? I'm so frustrated. I'm sure as soon as we figure this one out they'll find something else to give me a hard time about**************..Anyway, I'm going to talk to my attorney about it in the morning. Also, I guess he's complaining about Spring Break. We are suppose to split it. Spring Break is the 10th, 11th, 12th, and 13th. I put that I would have him the 10th thru the 12th at 9:00am and he could pick him up and have him for Easter (he was suppose to have him last year but never showed up to get him) and then return him at 9am on the 14th. That gives us both 2 days. Did I do something wrong? I think they're just mad because SM always schedules all the holiday times and I beat them to the punch this year. This crap sure is getting old. Anyway, what should I do about the Wed. night thing? Do I make them bring him to the visitation center at 8:15 anyway like we've been doing, or can I tell him it's ok to keep him until 9 if he drops him at my house? Can he make me meet at the police station? He's the one who wanted the visitation center in the first place. He knew what time they closed, he agreed to it, and now he wants to change it.

 

[wileybunch]

How old is the oldest son? If you live 5 mins from this place and the oldest can stay by himself for 10-15 min, why not agree?

 

[xxnatalixx]

How old is the oldest son? If you live 5 mins from this place and the oldest can stay by himself for 10-15 min, why not agree?

He's 11. I'm also concerned about driving when it's dark out though. I can not see very well at night.

 

[wileybunch]

He's 11. I'm also concerned about driving when it's dark out though. I can not see very well at night.

Oh come on, you do sound like you're making excuses. Bottom line -- you can't restrict Dad's time on account of that so you're going to have to figure something out.

 

[xxnatalixx]

Oh come on, you do sound like you're making excuses. Bottom line -- you can't restrict Dad's time on account of that so you're going to have to figure something out.

I don't want to restrict his time. Believe me, I'm all about compromise. These people are never happy though. The more I give, and I have given ALOT, the more they demand. I even gave him 2 extra nights a week and 50/50 over the summer and then he was still not happy and took me for custody. My son's counselor testified that it was not in his best interest and the judge decided it was in his best interest to go back to standard order. I never even requested it. The judge just knows the history and it was clear in court that SM is behind him even taking me to court.

I was not asking about restricting his time. Pick up/drop off was suppose to be here at my home. Dad requested using the visitation center so I agreed. Now that the officer confronted him about driving, he's no longer happy with the center and wants to change it again. All I was asking is if he can force me to exchange at the police station or not. Court order said he had to transport our son to and from my home, but the agreement said we would use the visitation center. I'm simply asking if he can keep changing it.

 

[LdiJ]

I don't want to restrict his time. Believe me, I'm all about compromise. These people are never happy though. The more I give, and I have given ALOT, the more they demand. I even gave him 2 extra nights a week and 50/50 over the summer and then he was still not happy and took me for custody. My son's counselor testified that it was not in his best interest and the judge decided it was in his best interest to go back to standard order. I never even requested it. The judge just knows the history and it was clear in court that SM is behind him even taking me to court.

I was not asking about restricting his time. Pick up/drop off was suppose to be here at my home. Dad requested using the visitation center so I agreed. Now that the officer confronted him about driving, he's no longer happy with the center and wants to change it again. All I was asking is if he can force me to exchange at the police station or not. Court order said he had to transport our son to and from my home, but the agreement said we would use the visitation center. I'm simply asking if he can keep changing it.

As I told you previously the exchange center is the court order for now. Its possible that he could get the Wednesday night exchanged to the police station however since the visitation center isn't open late enough. However he cannot have you held in contempt because the center doesn't stay open until 9PM. That is not your fault. He also won't get around the "no driver's license" either if the exchange takes place at the PD....so that's kind of dumb on his part, or perhaps smart on his part if his wife/girlfriend/signifcant other isn't cooperating about providing transportation and he wants her to be forced to help him.

 

[wileybunch]

Nothing Dad is asking for as far as the time is unreasonable so you may see change coming. And, transportation is typically always split, receiving parent drives is typical, so for now you may be able to fall back on everything happening at your home, but if Dad looks to change that, you may not be able to keep that arrangement because it is not equitable.

What time does the visitation center close? You do not have to agree to another location during the period the continuance is in effect.

 

[xxnatalixx]

Nothing Dad is asking for as far as the time is unreasonable so you may see change coming. And, transportation is typically always split, receiving parent drives is typical, so for now you may be able to fall back on everything happening at your home, but if Dad looks to change that, you may not be able to keep that arrangement because it is not equitable.

What time does the visitation center close? You do not have to agree to another location during the period the continuance is in effect.

Dad drops Son off there at 8:15pm and I pick him up at 8:30pm. They close right after I pick him up. Dad knew the times when he requested it though and signed all the papers at the center. I really think he only has a problem now because he "got into it" with the officer and doesn't want to have someone "watching" for him.

 

[xxnatalixx]

As I told you previously the exchange center is the court order for now. Its possible that he could get the Wednesday night exchanged to the police station however since the visitation center isn't open late enough. However he cannot have you held in contempt because the center doesn't stay open until 9PM. That is not your fault. He also won't get around the "no driver's license" either if the exchange takes place at the PD....so that's kind of dumb on his part, or perhaps smart on his part if his wife/girlfriend/signifcant other isn't cooperating about providing transportation and he wants her to be forced to help him.

Thank you, I just needed to hear it I guess to help me with my back bone problem. My attorney rents the upstairs from Dad's attorney and I feel kind off akward going in there in the first place and don't know if Dad and his attorney are going to be there. I have agreed to sooo many changes with them to try to keep the peace but they are seriously NEVER satisfied. They just keep coming up with new things they want to change or bully me about. I'm thinking if I quit agreeing to everything, maybe they'll stop. I hope anyway...