NC. We called our lawyer today and he basically told us we will be held responsible for the year he lived with us because we did not notify the court. We asked him about a modification order and he told us to send her a statement in writting that he doesn't have a job and state how much he will be paying and said that once DH got a job to call him back and he would have it modified in court. I am confused by this - sending her a letter, what kind of letter? Won't DH still be responsible for the full payment ordered?