NR Parent Wont Give Summer Dates

[TinkerBelleLuvr]

Ms. Geekess ... I only mention Texas since it had the verbage I was looking for.

 

[proud_parent]

That's mean.

You think that was mean? And yet you made this statement:

Also, I would love it if he didn't take her at all.

You would love it if Dad didn't exercise any parenting time at all, eh? How would your daughter feel about that?

The thrust of your reply makes it clear that, in the end, your gripe is mostly about the inconvenience to you. You started out arguing this...

It is not fair to my daughter. She needs the structure and stability of knowing when she is going. She worries about things like this and feels much better if she knows and can look on a calendar about when she is going.

...but you concluded with this...

Also, I would love it if he didn't take her at all. But he says he is taking her for 5 weeks. That is fine too, but when?? I shouldn't have to wait around all summer waiting for him to one day say he's taking her for his CO time. Its not fair to my daughter and its not fair to me.

Yes, children thrive on structure. Still, children generally adapt to changes in routine more easily than some adults will admit. Your efforts to mitigate any negative impact could go a long way toward making transitions less stressful. For example, no matter how displeased you are that Dad gave you last-minute notice, try putting a positive spin on it for your child's sake: "Good news! Your father just called to say that he has everything arranged to spend time with you for the next several weeks. I bet you can't wait to see him."

Maybe you should read the entire post before you jump to conclusions and leave presumptuous posts. All I simply want to know is WHEN he is taking her. He plays these games every year because he knows it messes with my head. There is no reason why he cant give us his dates by April 1. This is why I want to modify the CO to state that if he doesn't give us his choice of dates by April 1, xyz are his default days instead. Then I know he has to take her those days and if he doesn't, that's fine too, at least I know not to plan around those days. The point of my post was to find out if CO's like this existed, not to be accused of trying to force my daughter on her father if he doesn't want her.

For the record, I did read each of your posts in their entirety. I also read the other seniors' responses. They were very clear: if you don't like the court order as worded, petition for a modification. Inconsiderate though it may be for Dad to give late notice when he chooses to exercise visits, nothing in your current order prevents him from doing so.

 

[TheGeekess]

Ms. Geekess ... I only mention Texas since it had the verbage I was looking for.

Oh, me, too; I wasn't trying to correct you. I was trying to find something for OP's state via Google which is why you beat me to the post time.

 

[LifesPeachy]

Oh, me, too; I wasn't trying to correct you. I was trying to find something for OP's state via Google which is why you beat me to the post time.

Thank you both for your constructive posts. I will look into the verbage on the TX court orders regarding summer visitation.

 

[CJane]

nonresidential parent may choose only those weeks in which the residential parent is not scheduled to be out of town on visitation with the children.

Doesn't the above conflict w/the below?

The residential parent shall be entitled to up to two (2) weeks for an actual visitation, which shall not be interrupted by any conflicting visitation times.

Not that it matters in this case, but it's oddly worded.

OP - Plan your trip. Let Dad know that you're going to be out of country from XX/XX/XXXX until XX/XX/XXXX and child will be staying with ___________ unless he let's you know X days ahead of time that he'd like to use that week for one of his summer weeks.

Is it really THAT hard?